What is your greatest fear being a single parent?

@catcai (1057)
Philippines
March 19, 2007 9:23pm CST
My greatest fear at this point is how i will get to support my child when she is born. How will i manage my time to be there for her when she grows up as i am busy with my job to find means of financially assisting our lives. Im afraid that someday- she might turn out to experience the same fate i had- being a single mom herself...
3 responses
• United States
20 Mar 07
im a single mom and its hard but sometimes its also better this way. before i was a single mom i was absolutely terrified because i didnt believe i could ever support myself let alone myself and a child! but when it all came down to it, i found it alot easier then i had expected it to be. now dont get me wrong it has its downsides for sure and can be highly overwhelming, but many many many mothers do it every day so im sure u can too! i decided to work part time and have less money so that id still have the time with my son. once he starts school i can worry about making alot of money. anyways i wish you the best of luck :) and just hang in there u can do it!
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@catcai (1057)
• Philippines
20 Mar 07
thank you, i hope i can...I just wish that as soon as i can i may be able to find a stable job.. thank you for your response.
• United States
20 Mar 07
i am not a single mom, but i have thought about how life would change if something happend between me and my husband. i would say that my biggest worry would be getting into another relationship where the man doesnt care for my children like he would if they were his. i would worry that he wouldnt be loving, fair, and concerned with them since they arent his. BUT if i were ever to suspect that any of those things were true, i would definitely dump that guy right away. about your situation though- do you have family that can help you with her? even if someone can take care of her for a few hours a day, or one day a week. that is less time she has to spend in daycare, and less you have to pay daycare. i know its so easy for me to say dont worry, things will work out, but as a soon to be mom, i would be worried also. as far as the future goes, about being able to spend time with her, you will. when you have a little bit of time, you will spend that time with her and she will appreciate that. dont worry about how much time you spend with her, but on HOW you spend that little precious time with her. hopefully, she will be able to learn from you and she will be extra careful in her choices and wont have to go thru what you are going thru.
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@sunup13 (420)
• Canada
20 Mar 07
It defintely will be overwhelming at first, it is something totally new and takes so much of your energy, time and love. My worst fear about being a single parent is that my daughter will turn out to loathe me for not making it work with her father. It will be hard for daddy's little girl to see anything different than she sees in him. I will never let her know that he didn't want a baby, thats what his mom always told him and they have a terrible relationship. When they are young its easy to support them, you get all kinds of presents and help, I imagine it will be later on with child care, new clothes, school supplies that will be hard. Good luck and don't worry so much, you and your little one will be just great. Pregnancy is amazing and so is being a mom, this will be the best thing to happen to you. Its hard to believe but it will change your life and yourself.