Communication: Do you believe the old myth that NO means YES?
By kbkbooks
@kbkbooks (7022)
Canada
March 19, 2007 10:04pm CST
I have often heard that when a woman tells a man she doesn't want to be involved in intimacy, she actually means YES. The myth is that a man should continue his aggression even if she says no. I know that almost every woman here will agree with me that No means No. Have you ever been violated in this way or date raped? Men...do you believe the myth? If you do...it's time to change your mind. NO means NO. If you are a teen here and don't have the experience I am talking about remember that when a girl tells you NO she means NO.
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13 responses
@obang1483 (250)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
Of course NO means NO..... but if the girl says no on a flirty way, it may actually means yes.
No matter what the word comes out on your mouth it just doesn't count.... you have to consider the feelings and approach of the speaker.
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@obang1483 (250)
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
yes, this is not the right situation to tease... but you know girls nowadays...there are even studies that proves woman nowadays liked to be raped...I don't know if it's true...but for my opinion it's just an absurd research.
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@gaylordfocker615 (389)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
No means NO. I know that, everyone knows that. The people who thinks no means yes are out of their minds and needs psychological help.
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
23 Mar 07
You obviously know that it is a myth and not true, when a girl mean NO - that is it. I think society is past the days when a girl said No because it was appropriate, not what she wanted.
Unless you want to see striped sunlight, accept it No means NO!
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@simone924 (90)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I think in some cases women like to play games.for the most part "NO" means "NO"!
@horsesrule (1957)
• United States
20 Mar 07
I believe that no means NO. I just wish that whoever is out there telling guys that no means yes would stop it! Especially since its a load of BS. My ex-husband didn't always respect that no means no which is just one of the many reasons why he is my ex! This kind of thinking is just rather scary to me.
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@cassidy22 (2974)
• United States
20 Mar 07
Yes, I have been violated. And anyone who teaches young men that when women say NO they mean YES are setting a poor child up for a life of misery and dreadful mistakes. Men need to learn how to handle rejection. End of story. You don't always get what you want. Taking it by force makes you a CRIMINAL.
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@Limey73 (161)
• Canada
20 Mar 07
I do know guys that actually believe that no means yes.
Not me! Even after many years of marriage, I would never push my luck if I get a "no"........
There are cases where "no" might mean "maybe", but you need to read the body language which accompanies the negative, and to proceed with caution, like treading on eggs without breaking 'em. :-).
Generally though, it's easy to tell if no means "hands off, buddy!" - in that case, Respect with a capital R is the order of the day.
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@kriskhedkar (877)
• India
20 Mar 07
hey how can a NO means YES.It may be true earier days when Girls were having lotr of limitations may be social or from their family and/or anything that they think will harm their character but nowadays they are fre and they dont believe in such things so they can easily say yes or no.So so remeber not to confuse girls no with yes
@motodude2 (6)
• United States
21 Mar 07
Yes i do believe in the old myth that yes means no and no means yes!!
