Would you tell your brother that his wife is cheating on him?

Philippines
March 20, 2007 7:17am CST
What if he don't believe you? My brother is not here in the country, working. Most of the people here knows the extra marital affairs of his wife. But how can we tell him? He has great trust for his wife and love her deeply. Should we tell him?
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• United States
20 Mar 07
First I would say that you need to be 100% sure of the affairs before you tell your brother. If you aren't 100% sure, then you should stay out of it. If it was my brother and I was completely sure that his wife was having an affair, then I would tell him for a few different reasons. One, she is putting him at a huge risk for disease and I know I wouldn't be able to live with myself if he contracted something from her that was deadly and I didn't tell him when I had the chance. You are taking a chance that he might not believe you, but if it was me.. that's a chance I would be willing to make. If he wants to choose her story over yours and ends up hating you for telling him - then that's on him. You can only do what you feel is right in your heart. I think in the end, he will find out and if he knew that you knew, he might wonder why you didn't tell him. If you do not want to directly tell him, then maybe there are other ways for him to find out with a little help from you. An annoymous letter to him tipping him off to her activities? You could do alot of things that could give him a clue of what is going on without him knowing that it's YOU sending the letters or whatever. No matter what you do, good luck. It's a hard spot to be in.
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
This is the surest thing on earth concerning this. We wont feel this way if its not true.. But maybe I'm the only one who have the guts to tell him. But for surely, he wont accept or might not believe me. And I would expect he would hate me at first. He's a kind of man who's dependent on a wife on every little issue. So this would would be a great trial for me to do. Thanks for the advice and I needed your 'goodluck'.
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• United States
20 Mar 07
I would definitely tell him. Your brother may not like it if he finds out that you knew all along and never said a word. It is better that he finds out now. There is no need in him waisting any more time on her on her if she is gonna be that way. Evidently she doesn't love him as much as he loves her and it isn't fair to him to go on in the marriage with her cheating. If he doesn't believe you, then at least you tried to give him fair warning and let him know. I think the best thing to do is go ahead and tell him and let him make his own mind up as to what he believes. I hope it doesn't cause problems between you either. It may at first, but he will thank you later.
• Philippines
20 Mar 07
I think I would need a lot of courage to do this, to tell him. Sometimes I would like to ask if Im the right person to tell him, since most people know this and even my whole family. There had been a chance to tell him, but his wife is too keen to get his attention and did everything to make him feel loved by her that we all know is a fake act. Well, wait for my next post for what will happen. I know this would break us apart, either he believes me or not.
• Malaysia
7 Apr 07
Yes, i would tell my brother about his wife is cheating on him. becasue if he found out that his wife is cheating by himself one day and also he know you had know it since starting, he will more angry with you becasue you didint tell him earlier. And do you wish to see your brother having such unfaithful wife for the rest of his life? i think not and your brother still have many chances to meet some women who are far better than exsiting wife in future.
• India
20 Mar 07
great topic!!!!!!!but very sensitive but still requires the senses for getting the real situation.i think we shud say it if somethinbg like this is happening because it is altogether bad and may split the famliy