A friend is trying to get ahold of you....???

United States
March 20, 2007 10:19am CST
If a friend is trying to get ahold of you but you are not in the mood to engage in a conversation with them.....What do you do? How do you handle the situation?
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8 responses
@MsTickle (24975)
• Australia
21 Mar 07
It depends on how my mood shifts. If I don't wish to talk to anyone I don't answer the phone or if they are at the door it's harder to deal with. I hate when people turn up and just sit. They don't talk, they don't notice if you're busy or preoccupied, they just sit. They already know you are on the computer and that your session is running out but they still just sit. If you tell them you're busy, they get hurt. It's usually when they are bored or lonely and could be doing chores or housework or go shopping but all they wanna do is come and sit. I'm never bored or lonely. I'm not mean or nasty. I'm always busy. There are not enough hours in the day. I wish I was a hermit. LOL.
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• United States
21 Mar 07
Obviously, they feel comfortable with you and enjoy spending time with you. I would take it as a compliment.
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@all4ucnc (861)
• United States
21 Mar 07
Been there done that, I'm guilty of checking the caller I.D. then let it ring when I know it's someone I may never get off the phone with, when I'm not in the mood to talk.
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• United States
19 Jun 07
I do the very same thing. The answering machine truly gets a work out at my house. If we are eating dinner, it goes to the machine. We don't allow phone calls it interfere with family time.
• United States
22 Mar 07
Well, I am the world's worse at not answering the phone....or would that be the best? If I am not in the mood, I simply do not answer my phone or my door. That may sound horrible, but i have explained this to all of my friends. I have Lupus and sometimes it just isn't a good time. So, I will listen to the message they leave and determine if it is an emergency or just someone needing a powwow
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• United States
19 Jun 07
I think you are handling phone calls in the right fashion for you. You have set limits and told friends what the limits are. You can't be any more honest than that. I hope your friends are very understanding people.
@Feggish (44)
• Canada
2 Apr 07
Depends. I let the answering machine do the work. If it's important, I pick it up, if it's not then I wouldn't pick it up depending on my mood.
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• United States
19 Jun 07
My mood greatly influences whether I answer the phone or not also. Emergencies do get handled right away though.
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
30 Mar 07
I will actually force myself to talk as it could be that my Friend needs me and I hate to think that I have not been there for my Friend just because I was in a mood. I would feel guilty and horrible so I will always force myself. It can be hard when they are in front of The only time I get like that is when I am not well and normally if I am helping a Friend it makes me forget.
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• United States
19 Jun 07
I agree that helping a friend can be beneficial. It does allow us to forget about our own trials and tribulations. I hope you are having a good day today. Please tell Gissi hello for me.
@charms88 (7546)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
It happened to me recently. I felt bad brushing off my best friend. Fortunately, my best friend understand me too well. She just let me have my spaces for now. I'm in one of those PMSing days when all I want is to be left alone for the meantime. But I do try to engage in small talks with her from time to time too. :)
@tammyr (5969)
• Etowah, Tennessee
31 Mar 07
If the phone rings and I do not want to talk right then, I let the machine get it. If it is important, I will pick up, if not I will call them back later. No one comes to my house so if the door gets knocked on I am so surprised I have to see who it is! I have been known to not answer though, but not often. It is shallow of me I think but better than hurting a friends feelings by telling them, I do not feel like talking now.
@kelly60 (4550)
• United States
26 Mar 07
I never answer my telephone. I let my answering machine get it, or my boys will answer it. My boys know ahead of time if I am not in the mood to talk they will tell them that I'm resting and can't talk now. Everyone knows when my machine answers that they will have to talk to it before they can talk to me. I listen to the message before I decide. If it sounds important, I will pick up. If they just want to chat and I don't feel like it, I will call back or let them call back at another time.
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