First anniversary falls on Holy Saturday...:((

please advise this confused mind..  - confused
Philippines
March 20, 2007 1:42pm CST
My girlfriend and I are celebrating our first anniversary on the 7th of April, and that's a Black Saturday. I'm actually bothered on how can we possibly celebrate our anniversary without offending our Catholic lent practices..*sigh* I am a religious person and so do my parents... I don't know if it's right for us to celebrate our anniversary with some fun on the beach during the lent (Holy Saturday). Please give me your advices and thoughts.. thanks.. Godbless!
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16 responses
@jlo228 (170)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
hey.. have fun on your anniversary, God will understand you.. remember it only comes once a year so don't waste your time.. It's just accidentally falls on that date.. Go on..Enjoy it!
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@maryannemax (12172)
• Sweden
21 Mar 07
yep. Jlo228 is right. it's not your fault if your anniversary had fallen onto a black saturday. so, go on and celebrate. it will just happen once in your life. so, better celebrate. you don't want to regret it for the rest of your lives, right?
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• Philippines
21 Mar 07
you really are speaking your hearts out, friends...:P many thanks for the great words of encouragement.. I do appreciate them. :P
@healer (1783)
• India
21 Mar 07
Actually we need to be spiritual and that's matters a lot your, you have to show her how special she is to you. Let you two decide what you both want to do on Saturday. If i was in her place i will take her out to some place where she really wants to go but haven't and let know how much she means to me. Tell her you love her more on that special day, but try to visit the church at least once in the morning and say thanks to our mighty one. Anyway congrats' and good luck to both of you.
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• Philippines
22 Mar 07
thanks for your thoughts and helpful tips, healer.. Godbless!
• India
21 Mar 07
There are many ways to celebrate rather than having fun on the beach. Why dont you attend the mass with your girlfriend? Thats what i had done with my GF. In this way we could spend time together on our anniversary as well as not offend the lent practices
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
thanks for that nice suggestion, tusharp... Godbless!
@maryannemax (12172)
• Sweden
21 Mar 07
as for me, the first anniversary is one of the most memorable anniversary ever. so, why think of someone else's feelings when you two are the ones should be enjoying the day? i understand that you don't want others to feel that you both are setting aside the beliefs that you have. and that people might say that you have less respect for that special day. for as long as your conscience is clear and your mere intention is to celebrate that day with your girlfriend, then do so and go on with what you two plans to do. after all, it's God who gave you both the gift of love that you two will be celebrating together, right? so, i think God will understand and will be happy for you two also. happy anniversary!
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• Philippines
22 Mar 07
wow..thanks for that great moral support, maryannemax... yeah, we'll celebrate our anniversary and make it memorable.. thanks and Godbless!
@Mamaof4 (222)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
I think it's only right to celebrate your first anniversary, regardless of when it falls on the calendar. I'm a Catholic, too, so I know that having your anniversary fall on a Good Friday will probably not be better than having it on Black Saturday. You don't have to go all out and celebrate with a huge party, but keeping it simple will probably make it all the more meaningful and more memorable. Happy Anniversary!
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
thanks for your thoughts, mamao... yeah, i will make that day memorable to both of us... Godbless!
21 Mar 07
congratulation you've reached a milestone in what i hope is a long and happy relationship for you both . I too am Catholic although I don't practice anymore but yes this year easter saturday or black saturday as you refer to it falls in the 8th of April next year it wont be on this day as you know it is all worked out on the ecclesiastical callender, so i would say go ahead and celebrate your a good person tc blessed be
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• Philippines
21 Mar 07
thanks for your best wishes and wonderful thoughts, taurusgirl... Godbless!
• Ireland
20 Mar 07
There is nothing in the rules of the Catholic Church to say that you can't enjoy yourselves. You can do this by just spending the day together and you don't have to fast for the whole day, you are still alllowed to have one full meal without the meat of course so you could have a meal together. You could have a big celebration on Easter Sunday too as it is just the day after and that is a special day for rejoicing. Congratulations on your anniversary and I hope you enjoy yourself whatever you decide to do.
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• Philippines
21 Mar 07
Thanks for your wonderful advices, alexandria. they are greatly appreciated.. Godbless!
@shlynx08 (56)
• Philippines
20 Mar 07
Congratulations!!! Celebrating your 1st year anniversary doesn't necessary mean that you need to set aside the religious practices you usually do... look at it this way... i know it would be best to spent and celebrate the moment at the exact date but there no harm in postponing or celebrating it earlier ayt?! But im not saying that you cannot celebrate it on the said date... i guess you could be together and hear the mass solemnly celebrating youe anniversary as well as black saturday :), i guess its not having fun to celebrate your anniversary that counts, its the thought that after a year both of you are still together and loving each other. that means a lot that just going out and having fun... im sure ur girlfriend would understand... and after holy week thats the time you could have the real fun without feeling guilty :)
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• Philippines
21 Mar 07
thanks for your wonderful thoughts, shlynx... I do appreciate them.. yeah, maybe we can just hear mass on black saturday and go out on fun outing the following week. Many thanks! ..Godbless!
@mbizmom (237)
• United States
20 Mar 07
Congrats on your anniversary. If you're both religious and uncomfortable with celebrating that day you could always celebrate a day early. The point is that you're together and happy, she should be impressed that you remember the exact day, I know I am. Have a wonderful anniversary!
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
thanks for your suggestion, mbizmom..I do appreciate it.. Godbless!
• United States
20 Mar 07
I was born Catholic but am no longer a practicing one. I have to say, I understand the dilemma you have, but I would go ahead and celebrate your anniversary. It is a special day in your relationship and should at the least be acknowledged. At this point, don't skip if because you are afraid of doing something wrong against your religion. I think there are ways around it, or ways to have fun and still remain pious and devout. Have fun, it's your life... and it's a special time!
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• Philippines
20 Mar 07
thanks for your thoughts, thrwbckjay... I guess you're right, I should not miss celebrating this anniversary coz this is very special... thanks and Godbless!
@laltu86 (1253)
• India
22 Mar 07
First of all ***** Congrats ***** on completion of a happy year with your love-life. I am not a catholic , but i studied from A.G.Church so i know something about your religion, and i belive everu religion preaches Love above anything else. So i dont feel that there is any thing wrong in celebrating your love on a black saturday. lastly again "congratulations, celebrations"
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@jcgbrains (139)
• United States
21 Mar 07
Sometimes for any one of a variety of reasons anniversary celebrations have to be on a different day, there is nothing wrong with that. If celebrating on the day makes you uncomfortable then do it on a different one.
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@juskoday (183)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
Celebrate on Easter Sunday instead! A lot of restos and places to go to are closed on Black Saturday anyway, so that might hinder your celebrations.
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@jack914 (66)
• China
21 Mar 07
congrautlations to your day.all i want to say is that:gone with the god ,never thingk about it ,that's enough.
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@Rohitrox (38)
• India
21 Mar 07
wel pal i feel really sry 4 u dat u being such a rel. prsn hav 2 face such a problem..... probably u shud discuss it wid ur parents n frnds n its nt necessary dat u celebrate ...... the motive of life is 2 stay happy n if u do that u succeed bst of luk
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• Singapore
20 Mar 07
I am not Catholic so I have absolutely no idea. Why don't you ask the pastors in your church? I am sure they would be in better positions to advice.
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