We have a problem on my younger brother.:(

Philippines
March 21, 2007 4:48am CST
Actually just wanted to share with you guys my burdens about my brother.It started my my younger bro stop going to school.He always goes out at night, and he never stays at home, my mother and I worried so much about his school.We feel that hes ruining his future to have a good education.I pitied my mother so much because i know its not easy for her, i really wanted to help my bro but he dont want to help himself.Because we want him to stop going out at night and stop his "barkadas",so that he could concentrate.Please give me advise on this matter, thanks.
4 responses
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
Wish i could be able to relate things with you fairygreen but it just that i don't have a brother for our family were not blessed with one but in one way or another i guess the best thing you could do is to pray for him so that he will be enlighten for i believe in the power of prayer. Same with you i do encounter family problems for every family is not perfect right? but in times i was confused and having this heavy burden i lift up everything to God and allows him to make things according to his well.I do believe that in a right time things will be going smooth. There is a right time for everything and hoping for the best to your brother. Show to him how much you really care for him by showing your concern and love, you can do it, i know for that.
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
Yeah, i just felt that we had already done everything to explain things to him but out of nothing, he really cant understand.I want him to help himself to really focus on his studies becuase i know hes the one who will suffer in his future.
@charms88 (7541)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
How old is your brother, fairygreen? I hope I can be able to give you a better advise. The thing is, your brother's barkada may be influencing this sudden changes in your brother. Its quite obvious that your brother are into the wrong circle of friends. Try talking with him calmly without the yelling. You can also ask the school's counsellor to have a talk with your brother too. This maybe a phase in your brother's life where he feel important being a part of the "IN" group.
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
Yeah i agree with you, hes really into wrong circle of friends.His barkadas really influence him badly, hes not really into school.I have tried many times to talk to him calmly, trying to explain him things, but he dont listen.And i dont want him to regrets in the end, and learn the hard way, coz no matter what, he is still dear to us.
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
I know what you really feel coz i felt the same way too before when my brother got the same thing like ur brother. What we did was, we made a counseling with him and we tried to explained him everything that would be the outcome of his rebellious acts. And we were so happy that he understand and now he's back to normal and were ok now.. Just be open with ur family members and get bond with them! Have nice day ahead
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
We did the same thing too, you know my father doesnt hear words from my mom.I really pray for him when we go to the church.Thanks for the idea.God bless!
@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
21 Mar 07
Oh it is extremly difficult when your brother does not want to stop going out and enjoying himself in the night time not unless he wanted to stop this himself but he will not have a proper education and find it difficult for himself in the long run. There is nothiong much that you can do about this as he must do this for himself.