What are your thoughts?

@stacyv81 (5904)
United States
March 21, 2007 10:55am CST
My mom died 3 years ago, Her gravesite is about 20 minutes away from me, I often pass it. I have only been about 3 times. I dont like going, It makes me realize she is actually gone and it is not comforting to me at all, do you think this is bad? I mean I dont feel I have to go to her grave to think about her, remember her or any of that. We were really close, It only makes me sad, and I dont like to go. Sometimes I feel really bad about it, but I dont think she would mind that I didnt go, I think she would understand, but sometimes it bothers me. But it doesnt mean I dont care.
1 response
@EagleEyes (646)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I think that she knows and understands how you feel. Besides, you don't have to go to her gravesite to be close to her. She can hear you wherever you are. She is everywhere you are, her body is there, but her soul is everywhere. Sometimes it is very hard like you said because it brings everything back, and that is hard for us here on Earth. It is never easy to lose anyone we love, I just lost my father on March 7, 2007. I can feel him around me everyday though, I know he is here and he has shown me that he is ok now. Your mom knows you miss her and that you care. I talk out loud to my dad everyday and I know he hears me. Don't feel bad about not going, it is ok.
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
21 Mar 07
Yea, that is how I feel. Thanks for the affirming thoughts. I appreciate it. Sorry for the loss of your dad, it is really hard to lose a parent. I talk to my mom too, that is why I think going to the gravesite isnt as big of a deal as some people make it. Thanks again.
• United States
21 Mar 07
Yes, it is really really hard to lose a parent, it hurts so much. The thing that keeps me going is I know I said everything I needed to say to my dad before he passed, and he was such an awesome man and he is my hero and he always will be. I know he knows how I feel, and I know he loves me too. I will miss him everyday for the rest of my life though, but I know I will one day see him again.