Girlfriend abused you, left you for another, wants to get back...accept or not?

@chengbeb (285)
Philippines
March 21, 2007 11:43am CST
My ex-girlfriend would beat me up when she's drunk...afterwards she left me for someone else and admitted that she just used me for my money...now she's back in town and wants to reconcile with me...asking for forgiveness and professing that she really loves me and hasn't forgotten me...part of me wants her back but part of me doesn't want to...help me please...
5 responses
@Stringbean (1273)
• United States
21 Mar 07
Are you crazy? You must be, to even consider taking back someone that beat you up when she was drunk, left you for someone else, and admitted she was using you for your money. Tell her to go and find another sucker, and spend your time looking for a decent woman.
@chengbeb (285)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
Let's think for a minute that I am. But let's say you did have great times and you've been through a lot together regardless of how much you were hurt in the process? Would you still consider that?
• United States
21 Mar 07
I still wouldn't consider it. There are lots of really nice women in the world to choose from. Why put yourself up for hurt and abuse?
• Philippines
15 Apr 07
oh! kick her in her pwet! sama nya ha! if i were you.... just ignore her as you dont see anything! hahahahaha nice try... kidding aside.. meditate and know your self 1st, before you meet her again, that is the only time you will know if she is THE ONE that is meant for you. Pray for the sign..
• India
7 Apr 07
No way man.How can you even think of going back to someone like her.If she would have loved She would not have done all those horrible things to you not even when she was drunk.There are amny eligible girls out there waiting for such a caring person like you who still wants to go back to a partner who completely abandoned him.Common buddy its time to really move on.
• United States
6 Apr 07
I'm so sorry you went through this!!! NO ONE has the right to hit you! There are not enough good times or sweet moments in a relationship to make getting hit once worth it! Add on that hitting you is not the only abuse you suffered from her! It's very easy to say "forgive me, I love you" but will she actually live up to it and is it worth the risk to find out the hard way? I believe that when we truly love someone we never stop loving them. If love were so simple to just turn on and off it wouldn't truly be love! So yes, you still love her and that part of you wants to believe she's a better person now. It's ok to feel that way! But you also have to use your brain that is telling you not to take her back! Almost every abuser of both genders everywhere has this same pattern, abuse you then say "I'm so sorry it'll never happen again" then abuse you again!! I know it hurts and you just want so much to get back to the good times but I encourage you to not take her back. She will almost certainly end up abusing you again and keep you in this cycle of love/abuse. You deserve so much more than that! There are women out there that would treat you like a gold plated diamond encrusted queen without the abuse!! Don't settle for anything less!
• Indonesia
21 Mar 07
NO No NO NO!!!!!!! beat you up?? left for other man? want your money?? you should thank God that she left you!! DON'T go back with her!! I know... maybe you want to give her the second change.. maybe she'll changed, and so on... but why take risk?? Find other and BETTER woman... ^^ It's not an imposible thing that she want you back just because of your money, that what she has really love and hasn't forgotten is your money... yes, maybe she'd changed. But, once again, why take risk??