Friend request ---- what would you do if...

Philippines
March 21, 2007 12:17pm CST
... I have gotten some friend requests lately which am not so sure if I should approve or what... it's actually like this, when I receive some friend request, I firstly check their profiles and if they appear to be credible and somehow have been a lil active here on mylot..I just hit the approve button straight... but now I have gotten three friend requests which seem made me a bit skeptical coz when I checked on their profiles they don't have any friends yet, and neither do they have any posts..and they don't have an avatar either... *sigh* have you ever encountered friend requests like this? what did you do with them? do you simple hit the deny button? or you just leave them there and wait 'till they give some signs which would make you think they're worthy to be approved? please advise.. thanks :P
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53 responses
• Singapore
21 Mar 07
I honestly don't understand why you must first judge if someone is worthy to be your friend. Are you sure you are worthy to be their friend in the first place? Don't get me wrong though, my friend. I am not talking about you - I have seen similar discussion often enough so I just don't understand why people want to be so selective. If someone wants to be selective in e.g. turning on auto notifications, alright, I can understand. But if it is just accepting a friend request, what's so hard about that? Surely it doesn't hurt to make someone feel better? Imagine that person check the next day to find out that you have rejected him, why make him feel rejected? Surely asking to be your friend is no crime? :P
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@patgalca (18164)
• Orangeville, Ontario
21 Mar 07
I agree. I am surprised people are so picky about who they have in their friends list. It's just a list, for crying out loud.
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@brckoba (795)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I have to disagree with patgalca. It's not only a list. The people you choose to be your friends are supposed to share some interest with you and also help you by responding to your discussions. :)
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• Philippines
21 Mar 07
ummm thanks for your thoughts, guys... I do appreciate your personalities. Godbless!
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• Philippines
21 Mar 07
I tend to just approve any friend requests I receive..anyways, I don't have a bunch of friends on my list yet so I think adding them up would somehow increase the number of good friends am getting here. in your case, maybe you can leave it there for now and try to see later if later they are posting some discussions you can respond to..by then you know what to do with their freind request... hope that helps..Godbless!
@meljessxena (2315)
• Australia
22 Mar 07
yeah i check everyone out before i accept them and worry because you just never know who they are and what they are capable of. i have to admit some people i didnt accept because they seemed bit weiry of.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I usually go ahead and approve them anyway because alot of them may not know the ropes of Mylot yet and how to do all of those things yet. I know when I started here, I sure had alot of questions about things and I posted my questions in the forum. One of the questions that I asked, was about how to put pictures on here for an avatar since I didn't have any pictures to upload. It took me quite some time to learn and to catch on with what we are actually supposed to do here at Mylot to earn here. I didn't know much about it at all. I give all of my friends a chance and if they do not become active and productive, then I do something about it at that time.
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
thanks for your thoughts, stphcjh... :P
@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
21 Mar 07
maybe i can help you here rexy_leigh:) heres what i do: 1.look at the profil 2.look at the posts he or she made to see if i can relate. 3. if they are new and yet did not make a friend list or post i just go and look at their response to my post and to ther posts and see if they are serious and i can relate. i had this experiance a day ago a person with no posts friends and 2 responses..but those two responses were so interesting and had quality thinking in them that i did not hesitated for a moment hope i helped here:)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
thanks for your advice, lilranlgo.. they are indeed helpful.. Godbless!
• India
22 Mar 07
you must check their profile, from where are they nd from where they r now. if their album is updated then please go through it. you also gone through their scrapp's which was written by his/her friend already.
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@greengal (4286)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I usually deny such requests because I don't know anything about them. I never keep request pending and make the decision almost immediately. I take a peek at their profile, if their discussions interest me or their response to my discussion is qualitative then I accept, otherwise its rejected!
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@sweetlady10 (3611)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I starightly deny people with 0 post. I don't see any point if you don't have write one word here why do you need friends. Also I don't know about them, why should I accept. There are also some people who have been here for 4 or 5 months having lots of friends but with less than 100 posts. I don't like to accept people like this either. Because you know their activity on Mylot from their joining time and number of posts. So, it is good not to make your friend list long with people who will be their in the list only to count on the number.
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@patgalca (18164)
• Orangeville, Ontario
21 Mar 07
And what is the good thing about not making your friends list long? I don't understand. What is the harm of having a lot of people in your friends list whether they are active every single day or not, whether they respond to every one of my discussions or not. They are just people, members of our community, or are trying to be a part of the community (hence the 0 posts - they probably just joined).
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
22 Mar 07
Personally I approve friends who have no discussions.They need to start somewhere. I can always delete them later.
@happymommy3 (2012)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I have had friends like this but what I usually do is approve them first, even if they are new, we have to remember we were once there before too. I will keep them on my friends list for awhile, maybe a couple weeks, more if I don't have time to get around to deleting them yet. But I usually just go through and if I have some friends that I haven't seen active for a few weeks I will finally delete them. Or if they aren't responding to any of my posts I might delete them too. I haven't really gotten to doing that though since I've joined but I've deleted a couple so far who haven't been active at all here on mylot. I think of myself and remember there are times when I can't be active here for a week at a time sometimes and give others a chance because they might be busy like me and are not ignoring me, just don't have the time sometimes.
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
22 Mar 07
Rexy, interesting discussion has been started by you and you would have read different opinions by now. I believe, you should not judge a person only by his/her profile. See if he has replied to any discussion or he has started any interesting discussion? If he is new, allow him sometime to be judged. You can keep the request of 'friend' pending till then. I believe, more than profile, it is the discussion he had replied and started which should be the criteria to judge a request for being 'friend'. I have sent you a requet for 'friend'. Let us see what happens what yard stick you apply before accepting me as your friend.
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@mjsdls (1840)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I always check their profile to see what their interest are. To try and figure out what their like. I add some that I'm not sure about to see how things go. So far I have not deleted any friends.
• India
22 Mar 07
just hit the approve button and leave them witha message to show the sigs of them and u can know about them..
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• India
22 Mar 07
hieee der...im actually new to mylot too but if i were u, i wud try 2 talk wit every1 who sends me a friend request, whether they have frnds or avators or not coz who knows? they might have something(info) which would be of use to us...
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@ILANEDRI (1921)
• Israel
22 Mar 07
As you know, every member here is a person, and just because he doesn't put an avatar on his profile doesn't mean you should deny his friend request. I accept every member that wants me to be his friend no matter where he is from, or if he does has an avatar or not.
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• India
22 Mar 07
Friend nobody is perfect.You should do your own ideas to identify a person. Dont ever give your identity to anybody,that is dangerous..and also never give faith to mens unless you fully satisfied with there intention..ok
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• India
22 Mar 07
Ah first of all i have very few friends and so i would greatly tend to accept new friends even though they are just the newbies don't have a proper profile page. After all i use orkut for my friends and friends in mylot just mean for discussions as i donot find condusive interface in maintaining friends. I prefer orkut to mylot when it comes to friends.
@bluewings (3857)
22 Mar 07
In such cases I wait a few days .If they continue to be active in the forum and I can relate to their responses and discussions , I accept them. However,if they don't login or make any further posts after sending the friend's request ,I keep them in pending till they login.I find it little hard to hit the deny button.I am not sure if Mylot informs someone when he or she is denied a friend request and it might not be a nice feeling .So, I desist from denying a friend request.
@merlblue (275)
• United Arab Emirates
22 Mar 07
so its better to add friends atleast someone can responds on your posting.
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@anant123 (66)
• United States
22 Mar 07
your approach is right....i also use to do so.....reading the profile first and making a decision whether to add him/her or not....as far as having no posts or avtar is concern, i think we should not consider this think to deny any request...say for example my case, i am a new user to mylot and in the process of making friends and so i am not having any posts as such and no avtar....even my friend list is not rich as others....so i guess we should not go by these things to accept or deny a request.....all i use to do is to read the profile and add...
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