why do we compare?

@manvik (981)
Hungary
March 21, 2007 3:39pm CST
Why is it good for parents to compare their children? they compare their children for not being as neat as or as intelligent as his/her sister or brother or class mate. Can any good come from them?
2 responses
kamran12
@kamran12 (5526)
• Pakistan
21 Mar 07
to have a better option in hand and in view. though a mere comparison could be detremental to the child's psychology but an intelligent one will let the child think of the other better children and will help him change himself to be like them
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manvik
@manvik (981)
• Hungary
21 Mar 07
Do you think it is good for the child which can give inferiority complexion?
kamran12
@kamran12 (5526)
• Pakistan
1 Apr 07
thats why i used the word intelligent comparison. for example to teach the child how a cleaner child is more adorable, parents will and do give the examples of other children just to make their children immitate the good qualities of others. i think it's not bad at all, if done intelligently coz it instills, in a child, right from start to learn good things from others that may help him for the rest of his life.
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manvik
@manvik (981)
• Hungary
22 Apr 07
hi kamran,thanks again for the reply.when i was a child my parents compared me with others and i started to feel that i am not good.later they realised and stopped comparing.actually you should encourage your children.thanks again for your response.
ankushmahajan1
@ankushmahajan1 (336)
• India
22 Apr 07
compare between two there is a little bit difference between two that why we compare for which one is eg one is good in studies and one is not then we need to compare for its better future so he can also compete with other one who is good one so i think that compare is good for us but we think that when the time goes when we are in child hood we think that they always compare us they alsways disappoint me thsi is human nature if one is good then we compare other one to him
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manvik
@manvik (981)
• Hungary
22 Apr 07
thanks for the reply.comparing children with others may have some negative cosequences.if you spot any lackness in your child you have to encourage them.comparison is not the solution.thanks again for the reply.:)