Choose: Your Own Happiness or Your Parents' Happiness??

@maucute (980)
Philippines
March 22, 2007 12:07am CST
The situation is this.. You are in a relationship wherein your parents don't like the person you're with.. But you are happy being with that person and you love him very much.. They based their judgment on some experience they had when they were young, you know that they are afraid that you might experience the same thing but you know things are different. And the person you are with loves you very much and is willing to take any risk just to be with and have proven it from the start when he didn't turn his back and blew his chance to ask you out.. He had thought about the outcome but he still pursue his decision on being with you.. What would you do? Follow your own happiness? or are you willing to give up your own happiness for the sake of your parents?
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@tabyorky (281)
23 Mar 07
I would say follow your own happiness. You would never know it if was going to work out, if you do not give it a try. Your parent's should not base it on things that happened when they was younger. He sounds as though he really cares for you and I say go for it.
@maucute (980)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
That's what I'm thinking and as my bf said.. I might regret it later if I would no follow what makes me happy and I wouldn't have to blame for anything if I follow what my heart desires.. Actually, I'm really happy being with him and I hope that they can see that or see him the way I see him. I really don't want others to judge him even if they haven't met, it really hurts hearing people saying things which are untrue.. Thanks for the advice.. :)
@opinder (423)
• India
22 Mar 07
i am facing a similar situation. but i feel that i can't do without either of them(parents and boyfriend). so i am trying to convince my parents that the guy is really gud.
@maucute (980)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
you too? I guess that there are lots of us facing this similar situation then.. It's quite hard but I guess that's all we have to do first, persuade our parents that they need to give the guy a chance.. thanks.. :)
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
Tough situation but in case? Gosh! Looks like I've been there with that situation. I've choosen the guy to whom I think he's the right one for me. But it turned out that my parent is right...I guess, no time to regret. Instead learn from my mistakes and go on with my life. After all, you'll never get matured without seeing the dark side of your life.
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@maucute (980)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
yup, like they always say learn from your mistake.. There are times that they are right and there are also times that you are.. It would totally depend on us on what decision we made.. thanks.. :)
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
Ill have to talk to my parents about this one. I will tell them that situation before is not the same now. I will tell them,"We are not the same persons, pls give him a chance to show what he can do and how much he loves me. If you really want me to be happy, pls give him a chance."
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@maucute (980)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
I guess that's one good start, letting them understand that your situation is quite different to theirs. Nice line you have shared there.. :) Thanks..
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
30 Mar 07
I am saying this as a Parent No Parent has the right to make their Child choose their Happiness I would advise my Children and put my fears to them I might not like the Person they are with but if my Child really loves that Person and the Person is good to my Child I will not stand in their way My Children's Happiness come before mine and if it goes wrong they know I will be there for them
@maucute (980)
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
Wow, I do hope all parents would be open-minded like you.. :) Probably some parents are just scared enough that their child would just get hurt in the end, I really like you advise, it's something worth sharing to other parents out there.. Thanks so much, I'm sure you child will be really grateful for your understanding and open-mindedness when it comes to this kind of situation.. ;)
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
An age old dilemma when true feelings are involved, could'nt be true otherwise. This can be said just follow your heart, whatever the outcome maybe no one can guarantee it. Maybe the best that can be said, be mature with the situations you're taking in now as they very much involve commitments & expectations, wherein both are as real as the air you breath. You cant see them, you cant touch them but you know very they are there. Like a wind, you can feel its direction. Like a wind it can become a gentle breeze you can wallow on forever & like a wind it can become a tempest of a storm. But try as much as well how have your parents come uppance this concerns? what motivates these concerns? I have always said, your special one(or your partner for that fact)is not getting engage or married to your parents or you to his. By the way this is not just about your happines, you can be sad too at any given time, none is invulnerable to that.