My Dad is retiring...he still wants to work?!

Philippines
March 22, 2007 9:32am CST
Iam greatfull and bless to have a father like my dad. He is a loving, sweet and a hundred percent good provider father. His Turning 57 this comming april 2.And he is retired effective March 21, 2007. Dad start working when he was in highschool. He is one of the smartest man i know. Then he became a soldier. A very dedicated soldier. I guess my dad enjoys his job.Thats why he doesnt want to retire. I told dad that retirement is not an end. Its an new beggining, a new chapter in his life. I told dad that now thAt he retired he must enjoy of the things that he worked hard for. The things that he was not able to enjoy when still he was in service. And now that he is retired, we will be the one to take care of him.
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• Canada
22 Mar 07
Your dad sounds like a great man! :) I think for a fellow who has had such a busy and structured life, the idea of retirement isn't very appealing. It may make him feel "old" or not useful anymore. I don't think it would hurt him to do some work - either part time, at something he enjoys, or perhaps as a volunteer. There are so many organizations that would benefit from such a smart man! Perhaps he could be a mentor, or a big brother, or help out with the administration of a community or charitable organization... they always need as many hands and hearts and hard workers as they can get! I don't think your dad should need to work full time or anything - and he might find he enjoys other activities now (whether it's physical fitness of some kind or a group for people of his age)... but if he seriously wants to keep busy, I think that's more than normal for his age. Not everyone has the desire to travel or play bingo when they retire ;) Your dad just needs to find his niche. He's only JUST retired so he needs a little time to explore his options. I hope you'll support him in whatever he decides. Retirees these days are certainly not like they were in the past... many of them are so active and so busy that they make even younger folks feel tired just trying to keep up their pace *grin* Congratulations to your dad... and, to you, for the love and respect you so clearly show for him :)
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@tsgirl01 (900)
• United States
22 Mar 07
Well, I congratulate your Dad on his retirement! There is nothing wrong with him still wanting to work. Perhaps he can find some part-time job doing something he enjoys. My Dad retired and he loved fixing washing machines and such. He used to go around the neighborhood and fix people's machines and do odd jobs for them. He got paid small amounts of money but what he appreciated the most was the companionship of his friends and neighbors. He would tell people to give him a cup of tea and a conversation for payment. That's my Dad! I love and miss him, he passed away a few years ago, but he enjoyed his family, his past time, and the company of friends for his retirement time. If your Dad is going to be happy keeping busy, let him. Lots of times when people retire, they need to stay busy to stay happy. Take care...nice discussion...
@tsgirl01 (900)
• United States
22 Mar 07
Sorry I did not say this before, Welcome to myLot and I hope that you have a wonderful time here...take care...
• United States
22 Mar 07
The key to retirement is keeping busy. Finding a hobby or maybe just a part time job to keep him motivated. I have seen in my dad (who retired last year) a lack of motivation and a host of other problems that have cropped up. If he is physically able and wants to ... let him continue working. Keep in mind this is what he has done for a long time. He feels that as long as he is working, he is contributing to the family. There also maybe a small thought in the back of his brain saying "what in the world will I do if I'm not working". And you might encourage picking up a hobby, or perhaps traveling a bit to see things and places maybe he has always wanted to see, but not had the time. cheers, and good luck.
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
Thank you. We are planning to let him visit my sister in the states. He will have a part time job soon. And iam glad that we have a big supportive family to encourage him.. Thank you for your ideas
@towongfoo27 (2989)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I was only in the military for 4 years, but it does affect the person because training doesn't disappear overnight. It might take your dad time to ease into a civilian life again, whether he chooses to work or make money from a hobby via the Internet. My reaction(s) after my (short) 4 years include loathing doing nothing, feeling like I have to have a purpose, and moving all the time. Otherwise, I get bummed and depressed, and I am nowhere near the typical retirement age. Tell your dad to get ready for a change. It sounds like he served for 20 years, and let's pray he isn't institutionalized by it. Maybe there will be a "download" time. I say this because I have a friend who is doing the same, and I think he is structured to the point of not recognizing it. It takes time, and lots of hugs. Tell your dad Happy Birthday!
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
Thank you. He will have a part time job soon. As a Board of director in one company. But his work is not as busy as before..He will be working once a month only. We are planning to send him and my mom to a ecation. We think that he derserves a good vecation after all those hard working years. He loves birds. Thats why we set him up a mini aviary here at home. Thank you for your thots..
@Savvynlady (3686)
• United States
28 Mar 07
It is a beautiful thing that you think highly of your father; Some fathers today dont' even need the title; but men like your father deserve it and more; I understand how he must feel being in the military and suddenly being retired; I always said you can join it but you can't stay in it forever.I was in there myself for a while. I hope he find something to occupy his time after retirement.
@gelaware (116)
• United Arab Emirates
23 Mar 07
As you can see having a dad like you have is one of the greatest gift in your life. If he retired that would be his greatest accomplishments but then as a father he has a lot more things wanted to enjoy upon his retirements. But i dont think so he will let you be take care of him at the age of 57 he is still a strong man and still can do a lot of things and yes as your part to help him enjoy his life by now is to be with him to support of what he wants now. That is his how you let your dad to be a great man. Enjoy!!!
• United States
23 Mar 07
my dad is retired 3 times 20 yrs military and 19 yrs detective,and so many years as a chef. If your dad want to work it will allow him to feel accomplished and possiblly live long my dad will be 80 this year and is healthy as a horse and still doing great.
@dlkuku (1936)
• United States
23 Mar 07
In this day and age, 57 is still young. Your dad is probably thinking, What now? Some people need to work to feel fulfilled. And a lot of people become depressed when they retire. My husband will be able to retire when he is 57, he is 48 now. He already told me he plans on taking his pension, then finding another job. My husband doesn't love working, by all means, but he needs to. He can't stand sitting in the house, he needs to be active and do something.
@NatureBoy (493)
• Singapore
23 Mar 07
He has worked all his life, he is familiar only with work. People say you can't teach an old hand new tricks. Same. Unless of course throughout his life, he has picked up some things that he could do when he retires. This is called retirement planning. Like playing golf, dancing, bird watching or somethings like writing, and investing. If he has non of those hobbies, maybe its a good time to start developing them now. His chapter of life has just been renewed.
@subathra (3519)
• India
23 Mar 07
You are right..as long as we are fit to work we can continue.Even my dad is retired and he is 61 now but he is very active than all of us..and keep himself busy all day.He is doing a business.he learned computers from me and doing an online job too.iam really proud of my dad Your dad seems to be a energetic person.he is right that he wants to work..anyway its our responsibility to take care of parents in their old age.
@ivyrainy (29)
• China
23 Mar 07
I understand you.I also hope my father could retire and enjoy the life now. Because he works too hard and seldom goes out for travelling, so it is really too busy in his life till now. I can earn money by myself now even though it is not big money,but i still know it is the right time for me to take care of him. He could relax and do something he likes which he cannot do before.I think my father may also want to work again after retire. He may get used to the busy life already and won't be happy when he suddently gets no job to do. He may feel lost. I wish my father and mother,I hope I can give happy livies to them.
• India
23 Mar 07
I am proud to say that my Father aged 62 years is still working. As he is working in a private firm, there is no Compulsory retirment. As long as our health fits to work, we can work. Still my Father is very much dedicated and leaves office correct time. Never takes leave and want to work more years.
@zhell_12 (119)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
we have the same father who's very supportive wih the family. my father will be retiring his job next year at the age of 65. but he still dont want to retire from his job. we suggest him to have a business if still wants to work not to make him bored. try too with ur father.
@manmaxman (850)
• India
23 Mar 07
i have just anwered about that but i say that don't stop to work
@manmaxman (850)
• India
23 Mar 07
every body have the same problem to dads my dad is also want to work after retiring this is just a thing that they have there whole life in spanding in working and if they don't work than it will make them problematic
• China
23 Mar 07
Ya,you are right.I also think your dad is great.A person who loves his job then he is responsible.There are lots of things that your dad hasn't expensive so the retire becomes a good chance for him.Now he started to enjoy.
@Mamaof4 (222)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
I say if he still wants to keep working, let him work. If he retires and does nothing, always relying on other people to do stuff for him, his health will fail and his brain will not be as sharp. Trust me, I've seen it happen to MY day....he had cancer, went through the entire radiation and chemotherapy thing, and now is lazy to do simple activities like walking for exercise or putting on his socks! My dad used to love to read books...after he got through the cancer, he stopped reading books. with a little bit of prodding, he started reading the newspaper. Now he barely reads. he just watches tv. I don't think you want to see your dad go through this entire process.If he wants to work, let him. If you think he's doing a little bit too much, then tell him and talk to him. Try to convince him to do something less strenuous. Hope this helps!
@cjthedog64 (1554)
• United States
23 Mar 07
My father in law just retired for the 2nd time. He was a police officer for 28 years, retired, and joined the city service department. He worked there for 25 years and just retired. Now he is on call to do odd jobs for the local school district. He's not medically able to do a lot right now, but he'll never be one to sit around and do nothing. Congrats to your dad!
@choykr (8)
• Malaysia
22 Mar 07
just the same with my dad. guess my old man still doesn't like to stay quietly in the house. but i say its ok(i think), nothings wrong with a little workout. i mean, he is healthier day by day.. somehow maybe, he feel like he doesnt want to depend on his child(or something like that) after so long... you know, man's ego are like that. send my regard to your dad. ^_^
• United States
22 Mar 07
You must also consider that after people retire, they are more likely to be sick and possibly die. You become less active in most cases without a job. You develop more cardiovascular problems and lose bone mass. I don't blame him for not wanting to retire.