Why should I forgive them for what hey did???

@Beertjie (978)
South Africa
March 22, 2007 5:12pm CST
If some one did something bad to me, and that person does not apologise or even admid he was wrong, should I forgive him and why. Do I not have the right to be angry with that person. Can I hold a grudge and look for revenge?????
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@kurtbiewald (2629)
• United States
22 Mar 07
first find out exactly what happened if someone wronged you intentionally , they should say what they did and apologise if it was an accident maybe explain and say sorry anyway holding grudges is not good for anyone, being angry for awhile if you have a reason to be can be purging and useful. don't hurt anyone though
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• United States
9 Apr 07
Staying angry only hurts you, and has no effect on the person who did something to you. So you should pray for peace and forgiveness in your heart and let it go.
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@Stringbean (1273)
• United States
22 Mar 07
Are you hurting the other person by holding a grudge? In most cases they couldn't care less, so who are you hurting. That's right. You. By being angry, you are actually affecting your own health, and could even end up having a heart attack. Will this bring the revenge you want? No. So why not forget it, and get on with your life. That doesn't mean you have to give that person an opportunity to hurt you again, but you will be better off to just chalk it up to one of the lessons of life that make you a better person. Good luck.
@Zorrogirl (1481)
• South Africa
22 Mar 07
You have all the right in the world to be angry. but remember, it's only you who loses sleep and not them. they don't feel a thing if they havent apologised yet. do yourself a favour, search the net for revenge sites, look through them and picture yourself doing those things to them. you will feel better as though you did do it. then relax and let it go. life is too short to fuss. Don't sweat the petty things and dont pet the sweaty things... good luck
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22 Mar 07
It depends what they did. They always say revenge is a dish best served cold, but I usually find if I do nothing eventually a bit of bad luck falls on them and I just think what goes around comes around. The fact that I didnt have to waste my time and energy in seeking revenge and still something bad happens it quite satisfying. I havent even wished anything bad to happen but it does anyway. For people you have to see everyday at work or school, my mum always said you dont have to like everyone but you can be civil by just smiling and saying hello. I think if someone has done something bad to you and you dont see a way forward then it is best just to stay away from them. You have every right to be angry but with the passing of time you have to get rid of that anger because the only person it will affect is you. It is not good for your health or mental wellbeing to constantly be angry. You may never really forgive this person but do not stay angry for too long for your own sake. Its ultimately up to you what action you take but my advice is too stay away from them and do nothing. You certainly do not have to forgive them but just let time heal your anger and hurt.
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• United States
2 Apr 07
By being a true Christian one should not hold grudges or look for revenge. You can be angry that is a very human emotion. Look in the bible where Jesus got angry when he went to the temple and the merchants were selling their wares right on the temple steps. You see what he did. Anger is a emotion. But Jesus did not hold grudges or look for revenge. And if anyone had the right to do those things he did. Look what was done to him while here on earth. He used a blanket of love no matter what was done to him.
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@Beertjie (978)
• South Africa
2 Apr 07
I agree with you. I cannot hold a grudge even if I tried. I believe in forgiving because i am forgiven. I posted this discussion to draw response to see how others feel about it. i am glad to see we live in a time where people still have love and forgiveness.