Has anyone ever used you?

@Robyn28 (385)
Canada
March 22, 2007 6:28pm CST
Have you ever felt used if you have like some have speaking from personal experience
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@brckoba (795)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I was used once by this girl who I cared for very deeply. She used to call me at the wee hours of the morning whenever her car got towed away. Whenever she needed a ride she used to call me. If she wanted to buy something she would ask me to borrow money, but never pay back. Even though, she used me I don't harbor any bad feelings for her, I think of this experience as my "moron" phase. Which, I grew out of, by the way. It felt very bad to be used, that's why I don't like using anybody.
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@Robyn28 (385)
• Canada
22 Mar 07
hi I hate it when people do that I mean it makes you feel so bad after I've lived and learned now I'm happy where I am and I hope it never changes
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@willfe (149)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I've been used repeatedly. Women see a kind, soft exterior and figure I'm a sucker, good for some cash or for a shoulder to cry on when they need it. The funny thing is they get offended if I actually stand up for myself. One convinced me to move across the country, to move in with her for awhile (leading me to believe a romance was in the works); when she got knocked up a few months after I arrived, she broke our lease, threw me out, concocted a woeful tale of damage, excessively high bills, theft, etc., and sued me in small claims. That's not going too well for her -- I took pictures and brought witnesses :) The worst of it is you're not very popular whether you let people stomp on you or you stand up for yourself. But at least you feel better when you actually stop people from taking advantage of you.
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@willfe (149)
• United States
22 Mar 07
Heh. I should clarify something there -- I wasn't involved with the pregnancy. She isn't sure who the father is, but I wasn't a "potential donor" -- as soon as I moved here and signed the lease, she made it clear I wasn't on her list of "authorized riders" :)
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@Robyn28 (385)
• Canada
23 Mar 07
Hi ouch not good I hope that your not going through that now. I'm in a happier place then when I was younger stupid me wanted people to love me and gave out something too soon
• United States
22 Mar 07
I have been used and abused many times because I am always a sucker for the sweet line. I always want to believe the best of people, but sometimes there isn't any best or even good in people. How many stones do you have to throw before the light gets through? Now I always expect the worst so I can be pleasantly surprised if it isn't.
@Robyn28 (385)
• Canada
22 Mar 07
hi Join the club I was going to say in which way people have used it wouldn't let me write I guess it was too much for it
@earth2jacq (1503)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
Yes I had an experience with that. I used to like my guy best friend before. Being the case I made sure that I always help him out in everything. I was too blinded by my feeling for him that time that I kept lending him money as he seems to be always broke. I was hoping that he would love me back if I show him how nice I am but eventually he married another girl....such an expensive mistake....
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
I forgot he may be aware of my feelings for him because everytime he needs something he becomes sweet to me. But when I give him what he needs he'd distance himself.
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• United States
23 Mar 07
There is an old saying that you can't buy friendship or love and it is absolutely true. I have been a giver all my life, but have learned to give without expecting anything in return, because then you can be pleasantly surprised if something is returned. Give anything as long as it doesn't come from your wallet or your heart....lol
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• Philippines
25 Mar 07
Thank you. I have learned my lesson. I am now with my special someone and I am careful not commit the same mistake.
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• United States
23 Mar 07
I always feel used and taken for granted. It seems like no matter how careful I am ,I always end up being used but my main problem is being taken for granted. I never get thaked or appreciated for anything
• United States
29 Mar 07
You are not alone
• United States
29 Mar 07
You are not alone
@shorty08322 (1270)
• United States
27 Jun 08
iam being used now i want to go to slep but i cant becouse my family is using me take over my bed i dnt like this iam sick of this i cant do this nomore
@shorty08322 (1270)
• United States
20 Jun 08
iam being used now by my grandmother and family i dnt know why its like that
@bdugas (3581)
• United States
25 Apr 08
i was involved with this man who was what I though as one of the most loving people I had ever met. He always walked with his arm around you, held your hand, constantly bringing you home a rose or some small trinket. I knew he had been through a terrible divorce where the wife ran off with someone else, and took his kids. I heard him telling someone one day that he had never seen his mother in Fla for 8 years, that his wife took all the money and blew it and he could never afford to go, well his birthday was coming up and I thought it would be nice to take a vacation and go see his mother. I HAd 2 weeks off, but to do this I had to borrow money from the credit union. We took off for Fla, and he drove my new truck and we went to see his mother and brother, we had a good time, on the way back he got to talking about moving to Tampa, I loved the town and we had had such a good time I thought why not. I was stupid enough to leave my job, move all we had to Fla. and get an apartment, he came down a few days later but he didn't seem the same, shortly after he got there he started arguing with me, it ended up me leaving and going to a friends in La. Come to find out he was seeing a woman the whole time that I was working at night and he wanted to relocate to Fla and he was bringing her down after he got settled. But he needed a way to get there, ME. I had the money to do it. That taught me a lesson I will never forget, after the woman came down stayed a couple weeks she went back home called him said thanks for the vacation but she didn't think it would work out.To this day I will never forget what this person done to me, but I bet you one thing no one will ever get to do that to me again. It is a shame what some men will do an never bat an eye.
@Abbyey (760)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
Yes that has happened to me and it brought me EXTREME PAIN and HEARTACHE that reached upto 3 years. It HURTS more if the one who did it to you is a friend whom you treat so close...closer than sisters... it makes it more harder to forgive. I would cry night after night in prayer asking "Out of all the people in the world who would do this to me...why her / him" and you couldnt find the answer to your question. In the process of this 3 years i have grown bitter and my heart has hardened. I have read a lot of articles and verses about forgiveness however it didnt help at that moment because the PAIN was too deep and the wound was fresh. After 3 years i attended a seminar from a famous Christian writer "Richard Blackaby" and there i was able to break my bondage of Anger. I was able to release my hatred towards the person. Though i know that i cant be friends with her in protection to myself and what the person is capable of doing harm again. In life when i meet new people, YES i give them the benefit of the Doubt and the chance to be trusted HOWEVER i always have this GAP that protects myself from Abusive people or those who just pretend to be your friend because they need something from you. Here you will see that USERS are all around you. Be careful who you mingle with, these days its hard to find REAL FRIENDS.
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
23 Mar 07
The first 55 years of my life I was used and I now understand it was because I allowed it to happen, in fact in some instances encouraged it, I always felt I was the most powerless helpless person in the world, It took a while but I did learn how to stop the using, and it has stayed stopped I do regret that I didn't learn how to stop the abuse and using for so long, but it did make me a much stronger person because it did take so long. as well I am able to look at my life now and realize that When you really take a good look at your life ,Success is all you have ever had
@ana1361 (98)
• Sweden
23 Mar 07
no i didnt have this experience