Be Polite

@edujccz (929)
Philippines
March 22, 2007 10:25pm CST
Do i need to be polite everytime i answer in mylot, Do you suppress your feeling, how can you tell the truth?
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9 responses
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I think it's a matter of diplomacy. You don't need to agree and you can even be angry about the post. It's when (you) attack the other person/their opinion/their country/their beliefs etc that trouble starts. If you find the person offensive, it's easier to hit the report button than get yourself involved in flaming.
@edujccz (929)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
Yes, i learned a lot from you, maybe my way of speaking doesnot sound with diplomacy, i will try to change thank you
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I think if you just keep trying you will get better. Everyone here needs to be understanding of those who still struggle with English.
• United States
23 Mar 07
Correct. To avoid this its better for the user to mention his problems with the language so that none of his mistakes will be considered as offensive. There is no shame in that, there is a first time for everything. It wont take much time to learn and improve the language. This is just a teething problem
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
I always try to be polite. I'm more on the frank side so when I think people will take offense I just rephrase what I have to say. I still get to say what I want without offending the one posting the discussion.
@edujccz (929)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
i will try my best to be polite next time, sorry to all
• United States
23 Mar 07
Politeness is not making a personal comment. You can be ruthless in expressing your views, but it should be to the subject and not to the person who posts the topic (unless the subject is abusive or with a personal comment) You express your feelings, say what you want to say but avoid personal comments. :-)
@edujccz (929)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
there are two kinds of reciever, one will accept it unoffensive and the other will say its offensive for we are born and raise in different places. sorry if the mistake was made to the person.
@Limey73 (161)
• Canada
23 Mar 07
I tend to speak as I find - which means not always being polite. I notice a lot of people on here are very polite all of the time, and I suspect it is sometimes because they are afraid they will be marked with a negative, so they tend to agree with everything, and say "thank you" repeatedly. I find it is more in the spirit of true discussion to speak my mind, offend or please. However, although I am not always polite, I always acknowledge and respect the other person's viewpoint.
@edujccz (929)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
I like your point, may be im just like you, i just speak my mind.
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@towongfoo27 (2989)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I don't think your effort to be polite should be extraneous. Just be tactful, brief, and to the point. Yet if you want to go the extra mile, that's up to you, yes? I know I am not very good at suppressing what I feel, it tends to come out in whatever I am doing at the moment. Check out some of my earlier posts. lol
• United States
23 Mar 07
As an afterthought, just use the four maxims of writing. I think they are somewhere along the lines of being brief, being conscise, being tactful, and having evidence. Yet this isn't English class... Just write to your heart's content, no one is grading you like in school.
@sshazie (253)
• Singapore
23 Mar 07
if there is a question that needs to be answered, i'll just speak/type from the bottom of my heart. its just not good to be mean to others who are just posting and seeking an answer. there are some out there who are looking for real answers to apply to themselves. so i try not to give crappy answers unless u know that the question is just a joke
@edujccz (929)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
i dont mean to be mean, i simply answer question and maybe i dont select my words pretending to be polite. thanks anyway
@lonewolfnan (4367)
• Canada
23 Mar 07
You can always answer in any form you wish,but I find no problem in expressing myself without having to resort to making any personal comments or attacks.Being open and sharing YOUR thoughts or beliefs without fear of reprisal is important.Remember they are YOUR thoughts/feeling and no one can take that from you.
@edujccz (929)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
i dont speak bad words , maybe i am blatant
• China
5 Apr 07
good manners are so important in today's society.a little effort towards being polite to everyone you meet can have great rewards.of course,there are other reasons for being polite as well. everyone should be polite.polite people show good manners.moreover,they are popular.on the other hand,the rude people are looked down upon.rudeness shows poor education.therefor,why not be polite?a simple "please","thank you","you are welcome" can make a big difference. if someone says dirty words all the time,it shows that something is wrong with his mouth.you'd better to persuade him to watch his mouth.
@g_aileen09 (1354)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
I think we tend to be polite because it has something to do with the Golden Rule. Being polite is tantamount to being civil. We can always say what we want in such a manner as to not hurt the feelings of the one whom we are communicating with. Because for sure, we don't want to be placed in an embarrassing situation. We live in different places around the globe, and as such, we are promoting our own culture. We represent our communities, and for sure we don't want others to think that people in a certain area or region behave tactlessly at times. There's nothing to lose in being polite. Whether we are presidents of large corporations or people who have achieved so much in life, we still belong to the human race...and it is but human to feel good or bad, depending on the situation we are being put into. We can always assume our positions in our own areas of responsibilities...outside, we are human just like the rest of the world.