Are You a Social Person?

United States
March 23, 2007 11:11am CST
When meeting new people are you a social person, or are you shy? I tend to be really shy around new people, but once I get to know someone I open up pretty fast. I know people though who have no problem talking to strangers and acting like they've been friends forever.
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11 responses
• United States
23 Mar 07
It depends for me. I am usually pretty shy, although if I have something in common with the person I am meeting and can get into a good conversation, then I am pretty relaxed. Nowadays, I am a lot less outgoing than I used to be. When I was in college, I was definitely a social person. I couldn't go anywhere without meeting someone or striking up a conversation. It's not like that for me anymore; it's good sometimes, but other times I wish it were still as easy for me as it used to be.
@shisid (104)
• United States
24 Mar 07
Nice topic to discuss.I too need some time before talking freely to any new person.After I've known them for some time then I can really be friends with that person.I guess its all in your nature whether you are an extrovert or introvert.I really envy people who can so easily mix and get along with strangers..what say!
• United States
24 Mar 07
I envy people like that as well. I wish I could walk up to a total stranger and start a conversation!
@sunnypub (2131)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I am definately a bit shy. In fact people seem to think I am stuck up when they first meet me. I am not sure why that is. Once I feel comfortable with someone then I will share my entire life with them if they let me. I have to feel a connection though. I am totally one of those you have to really know me to love me types. My best friend is constantly trying to explain to her other friends why we are friends because on the outside we are so different. I think it is pretty funny. I have just never really been one to go for having a lot of acquaintences. I prefer a small group of loyal true friends, so I guess I am standoffish when meeting new people. I suppose in some way I am reading them and trying to decide if they are worhty of true friendship, although I don't consciously do this.
• United States
23 Mar 07
I'm the same way. I'd much rather have few close friends than tons of aquaintances.
• United States
25 Mar 07
I am not a socialable person at all! I will admit it. I have a hard time opening up to people. When I first met my friend of eight years now, she thought I was a snob. After she got to know me, she said I talked to much (smile) and her perspective of me was so different, and she loves me like a sister and will do anything for me. I am just very picky on who I communicate with. If the topic is intresting I'll put my 2cents in but if not, why respond? I will not hold a conversation that has no interest to me, or with someone I don't like I'd leave the room. Sometimes communicating can lead to a misunderstanding. So to avoid these things I won't participate.
@xParanoiax (6999)
• United States
25 Mar 07
I'm a bit inbetween myself..though I would not describe myself as 'social' even in my most unshy moments. I'm probably what most would escribe as 'quiet'. New people are always around me, and I'm hesitant to speak with new folks..my self-confidence still isn't doing so great. But when they do talk to me, I will reply..quietly, softly..but not shyly lol. Not usually anymore anyway. Most other times, I'll express my most stretched politeness. Disregarded several social things, cutting conversation's short for example.. It just takes a person to stick around and try not to startle me too much before I'll get into a real conversation with them. I don't take kindly to being startled..though life's plenty crazy, in new situations I'm always expecting the unexpected..people actually doing or saying the unexpected however can sometimes startle me slightly. People just don't often realize this and that's why I have three close friends and not any more of them lol. It might also be why people either like or dislike me immediately lol..but I'm unsure of that factoid. Online it's different. The enviroment is calculated, controled, and mostly does as I wish and expect it too..so I'm much more relaxed and can be quite more social than I would be offline. ^_^
@merlblue (275)
• United Arab Emirates
24 Mar 07
i think were the same. i am always shy around new people that i meet. but when i get to know them i becoming a different person they used to know. :P
• China
24 Mar 07
Im a social person. I find it pretty easy to get along with people that i have just met. But, there are times that i can be a very shy person. It depends on who i meet. If i meet someone that is much older than i tend to be shy. But if i meet someone younger or the same age, its easy to be friendly. Oh... and the look of the person also determines. I dont judge people ugly or good-looking. What i mean here is if someone looks scary with too many tattoos or piercing, i would be scared (not even shy... scared...) Um...but for me, being friendly is not being open. Im friendly, but im very introverted.
@karen_24 (320)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
yup im a social person beacuse i like meeting new people around us....and it make me interesting when it comes to make friends.....
• United States
24 Mar 07
Im the same way. I hate being shy . I feel i miss out on so much but cant get my self to open up.
@ana1361 (98)
• Sweden
23 Mar 07
I think i m not a shy person too if i have a tendency to talk with anyone i do but i f i dont want i behave almost in way that the others think that i m vain or shy
@dfinster (3537)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I like to think I'm a pretty social person. I do have a hard time talking to someone a whole lot when I first meet them. I kind of hang ack a little to see what kind of person they are as far as what they're talking about though.