When someone offers to buy you a drink is it ok to ask for the money?

@coolseeds (3921)
United States
March 23, 2007 12:54pm CST
They were willing to invest the cost of the drink in your pleasure. Is it ok to say no but I'll take the money?
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@quispy (572)
• United States
23 Mar 07
Not at all. They are looking to get to know you, or at least enough to see if they want to spend more time with you. You can try to ask for the money, but you won't meet any people that way, and you better switch bars often!
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@coolseeds (3921)
• United States
24 Mar 07
One thing you will not find a shortage of in the USA is definitely bars. They manage to remain open in the poorest areas. Kind of makes me wonder how.
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• United States
23 Mar 07
Sure...but you'd better hope you don't want to go out with the guys best friend, or anyone he knows, for that matter. I imagine someone who gets this response would be highly irate, would probably tell everyone he knew what a b*tch you were. But it might be worth it for the laughs
@coolseeds (3921)
• United States
23 Mar 07
So would you ask for the money since you said it was ok?
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@joanana (770)
• United States
25 Mar 07
I would have to say that it would be silly to ask for the money. The reason they're asking if you'd like a drink is because they're interested in you. If you're not interested in them accepting the money could imply an interest you don't have or that that's your "price" so to speak.
@coolseeds (3921)
• United States
25 Mar 07
Accepting a drink for conversation is a price. Is there a difference? What if someone was interested but they wanted the money instead?
@joanana (770)
• United States
25 Mar 07
It would still be rude because then you are implying that they have to pay you in order to keep your interest.
@coolseeds (3921)
• United States
25 Mar 07
Isn't it rude that they are implying they have to buy your interest with a drink? I am not saying it is the proper thing to do. I am just questioning what is.
@KrisNY (7591)
• United States
25 Mar 07
LOL-- sure why not?? I personally wouldn't.. I'd be like no man I can buy my own thanks! But why not-- If the man is ballsy enough to ask to buy you one- you can be ballsy right back and ask for the money- LOL Thanks for the laugh-- I'm always looking for the lighter side of mylot!
@coolseeds (3921)
• United States
25 Mar 07
Finally someone with some sense. LOL. Anyone trying this please make sure that you expect people to be mean to you.
@superbren (856)
24 Mar 07
no no no. that is so funny. i think i would burst with laughter if anyone asked me for the money instead.
@coolseeds (3921)
• United States
24 Mar 07
I thought it was fun question for discussion. I am wondering if any one is going to say "Sure I do that all of the time" lol
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
23 Mar 07
No i really don't think that would be the best thing to do...It is basically almost the same thing but i believe it would be impolite to ask for the money,if you turn down the drink..Thats my opinion..
@coolseeds (3921)
• United States
24 Mar 07
So if it is the same thing then why is it impolite? =) I am pointing out something. It is alright to say yes and take the drink and the bar profits but it is not ok to say can I have the money and profit yourself. The bar does not profit if you take the money. I think some bar owner made this rule. lol
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• United States
25 Mar 07
Definately not.....I would find it quite rude and you certainly would never get another invitation from me for anything.
@brimia (6584)
• United States
24 Mar 07
No, it's not ok. They want to have a drink with you, not pay you to sit there.
24 Mar 07
In my humble opinion, it would be a rude and selfish act on your part. I do not see how this would be well received by anyone. Put yourself in their shoes and see what you think. Draven the Respectful Atheist http://dravenwriter.blogspot.com
@ILANEDRI (1922)
• Israel
23 Mar 07
That will be so rude thing to do. The guy just offer you a drink, and now you ask for the money? Way too rude. Only people with balls can do such things. I think it's very not nice thing to do to a person.
• United States
23 Mar 07
Yes I agree with most of the responses so far. If they are going to offer to buy you a drink it's because they like you and are very interested to get to know you better. If you were to ask for the money instead of the drink that would not only be terribly rude, but an insult in my view. So no if a woman offered me a drink, I'd just take the drink and go from there.
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I think I would be too ashamed or embarrassed to ask them for the money instead. If you knew the person, it may be different though. I think I would be able to ask a friend if they mind if I just took the money because I sure could use it towards something else instead. If someone was just being nice and offered me a drink because they were getting one, I think they would look at me like a begger if I asked them for the money instead. They may think I am a mooch or a bum for doing that.