how do you release your anger?

Philippines
March 23, 2007 1:19pm CST
what would be the best way to release anger? that as much as possible you dont want to get someone else or yourself hurt in the process. i would usually light a cigarette to calm my nerves, but i'm trying to quit. i can't think of anything else. or how to release my anger. i would get in trouble if i would just start punching people on the face when they piss me off. let me know how you release your anger.. thanks!
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@rainbow (6763)
24 Mar 07
http://advice7.com/games_movies/anger.html try it, it's free and saves you hitting someone, lol. Not completely effective but it gives you a breathing space, lol. Help me wwn my boys are driving my crazy anyway. Other than that, make a nice warm drink and go to bed with a book if you can, take the dog for a walk, anything to get away, lol. Good luck I know how you feel this week, believe me!
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
hahah! thanks!
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@rainbow (6763)
24 Mar 07
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• United States
23 Mar 07
my FAVORITE anger release of all time is collecting all the glass bottles out of my recycle bin, going down to this abandonded concrete warehouse that i know, and channeling all my anger into the glass as i throw it at the wall. granted this may not be a possibility for you, but you could try driving around [or walking] listening to angry music, and then after a while toning it down to something that makes you happy, or go to someplace where no one can hear you and just yell about all the things making you angry, something like that. a lot of people will tell you take deep breaths or write it out, but getting creative and actually physically DOING something has always made me feel a whole lot better than writing something no one will ever see or taking deep breaths.
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
aaawww... how i wish i would be able to do your first suggestion! that's so cool and will actually work for me! yeah, i think i'm also someone who would need something creative and physical to do to release my anger. thanks for the advice!
• United States
23 Mar 07
no problem. yeah, i'm lucky to live in a town with a waterfront that used to be really industrial. tons of abandonded places and train tracks and stuff like that. exploring places like that also calms me down when i'm angry. its pretty much free reign to throw stuff and spray paint and yell and do whatever. you could try looking for cool places that only you and a few other people know about too. most towns have at least a couple, and they are really nice at times when you are stressed or angry.
@limalimon (638)
• Mexico
25 Mar 07
doing a lot of exercise. i ride 2 hours in my bike
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
also good for the figure, eh! heheheh! thanks!
• Canada
25 Mar 07
light up a smoke, go for a walk, take a bath, punch the heck outta a punching bag, read a book or when its really really bad the only thing that will help me is blaring Evanescence music
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
need to get a copy of the Evanescence CD.. hmm... thanks!
@dbeast (1499)
• India
24 Mar 07
well i would take it out by playing a computer game.i have umpteen no of funny games that can release stress.so i play them or i go for a nice long run.that can really reduce stress.i would play soccer otherwise.contact sports can help reduce stress a lot better.
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
running can be a good thing for me.. thanks!
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
Confront the cause, scream, chop meat, pick ice, break glass, cook, clean house, walk it out or plain just go crazy for a while. And if its really bad and i can't do anything about it but cry.
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
i like the go crazy for a while bit! thanks!
@paul23am (12)
• Nigeria
24 Mar 07
Anger is an emotional excitment triggered by intense displeasure over insult or injury. So i do my best to stay within limits when angry, or i walk away fron the hot spot immediately after becoimg angry, or sit down, or lie down if anger persist.
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
walking.. thanks for the advice!
@tugushk (51)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
got this from lily allen's single (smile). "at worst i feel bad for awhile. but then i just smile!" this really works!
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
really hard thing to do.. should work though.. thanks!
• India
24 Mar 07
i release my anger by shouting in a very loud voice to release all my tensions.i even put my heead in a whole bucket of water till my all tensions go out of my head it feels great after tht.u may try it but dont forget to take ur head otu till u cant breath ok.
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
yeah, i hope i would rememeber to take my head out.. hehehe! thanks!
• Indonesia
24 Mar 07
just put a glass of water and go to sleep...:D
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
yeah.. thanks!
@sshazie (253)
• Singapore
24 Mar 07
1)usually i'll need to smoke...to keep my mouth shut either to ignore the other party or just to prevent myself from spilling the wrong words that i might regret later. 2)if i cant smoke there i will turn to playing my nintendo DS 3)if i really need to let go.. the most i'll just hurl f*** U... errr its not good...but a good reliever sometimes :P
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
yeah.. heheh! thanks for the reply!
• India
23 Mar 07
You can release anger the right or the wrong way. Regardless of whether you have an anger problem yourself or not, it is important for everyone to understand what the right ways of releasing anger are. One of the best ways to release anger is to give yourself the permission to express anger. In other words, just because you are taught or raised to suppress your anger doesn't mean that this is necessary the way you should go. In fact, it is quite healthy to express your anger as long as you do it correctly. There's nothing wrong with expressing fear, rage, anger or sadness although many people are taught otherwise when they grow up. Remember that anger management relies both on mental and physical effort. Although mental therapy alone will helpful you tremendously for releasing your anger, it can only take you so far. The same applies for exercise too. However, if you combine both mental therapy and exercising, you will then have access to an incredible positive and life-altering solution. How to apply both? Do a particular physical activity along with the mental intention of releasing your anger. It might be obvious but the most important things of all to remember is to never hurt others when you release your anger. Make sure you give yourself the opportunity to express safely your anger, without hurting anyone else in the process. Your main goal here is to express your negative emotion without someone receiving the backlash of the anger itself. Finally, if you feel the need to express yourself in any of these ways, make sure that you are either totally alone so that you don't feel uncomfortable or otherwise inhibited , or that you are surrounded with people who are supportive of this type of activity and of you as a whole.
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
thanks for your response!
@towongfoo27 (2989)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I would like to go to the top of a hill and scream my lungs out. When I got frustrated in the military, I would sometimes turn on the music to drown out the fact that I was about to scream, sometimes into my pillow. Othertimes my face flushes, and my eyes become red and teary. My anger seems to manifest itself via screaming, flushing, and angry tears. At least it is better than ending up with high-blood pressure by keeping it pushed down, no? If I get really mad, I become verbally aggressive, yet I do not hurt other people via losing control of myself physically. I even had a friend tell me that she prefers smashing coffee-cups on her kitchen floor.
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
yeah! i scream with my face on a pillow too! and it's really not good to just keep feelings like anger bottled up inside. and smashing coffee cups could be fun! hehehe! thanks for the reply!
@kk_84in (1691)
• India
23 Mar 07
when you are angrt you have to be patient..usually I do not speak with anyone if I am angry because I do not have control on what I am saying....so I try to be quite as possible... Think twice befoew you speak!!!
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
yeah, that's why sometimes i don't really like it when friends would approach me and would want to talk about why i'm angry. i know what they're trying to do, but sometimes it's really best to just be quiet. thanks for the reply!
• India
23 Mar 07
start counting 10,9,8,7.... so on till 1 .repeat till u cool down.if very angry start from 20.
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
cute advice! funny but it can work! thanks!
@babystar1 (4236)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I release my anger by taking a long walk, that really helps me a lot. I dont punch people I dont wnat to get punched back, lol.
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
heheh! yeah, that almost happened to me.. ;p thanks for the advice! i can be tagged the "walk-out" queen if i take a walk.. but that's a good suggestion.
@magikrose (5424)
• United States
23 Mar 07
Hmmm...........what I like to do to vent anger is I will either come to mylot and respond to discussions, go to pogo and play a few games or go to neopets and play a few games. The only other thing I might do is play my PS2 or crochet.
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
hmm... yeah, that's a good idea, go into a totally different workld.. crochet? the craft? cool! thanks for the reply
• United States
7 May 07
When I get angery or fustrated I usually tend to close my eyes for a second and visualise, something that always makes you happy. "Like the silly way your dog falls off the couch. Or think about the romatic knight from a love story." What ever makes your happy or smile.
@diansinta (7551)
• Indonesia
7 May 07
old people suggest me to lay down in sleep possision. but i always forget to practise
@Denmarkguy (1845)
• United States
1 May 07
I don't tend to get angry very often-- I guess you could say that I have a very long "fuse" or a very calm temper. On the occasions when I DO get really angry, I find that the best thing I can do is get outside and do something else-- usually something physical like go for a run, or for a really long walk-- preferable somewhere with few people. Sometimes just going out and doing something like mowing the lawn works well-- I find that I can "channel" the energy that otherwise would go into an angry outburst into whatever I am psysically doing.