she was a lesbian all along

@leechamp (186)
Philippines
March 23, 2007 9:07pm CST
It came as a big surprise to me when i received a far away card from a dear friend whom i never seen for several years and told me that she is now in America and she is very happy with her partner...I thought all along that her partner is a he, and then i discovered her partner is a she. Well, I tried to think of all the events that we used to have when she was still here, but it never occurred to me that she is a lesbian...but in any friendships, what i really wish her, is that i hope she is really happy where she is now, and I understand her. How would you feel if you were in my shoes?
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• United States
24 Mar 07
I would probably feel pretty much like you do. I would have a moment of thinking "Oh! really? how about that!" but still be happy for her. The revelation of her sexuality would probably have little effect on how I felt about her as a friend. My way of thinking is : I don't care if you are gay, unless, I want to date you myself, in which case such information would be useful. Doesn't really fit on a bumper sticker though... so I doubt if it will become a popular motto. :-)
@leechamp (186)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
Thanks, I really appreciate your comment. I am at peace now knowing that she has finally found herself with someone who loves and accepts her the way she is.
@cdparazo (5769)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
I would also feel happy for my friend that at last she has found the freedom to express herself and the courage to show her real self. Most of them takes time to accept themselves. It is already hard for them to get to the point of realization, let's not make it hard by being judgmental on them as what most people may do.
@leechamp (186)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
Yes, certainly it takes a lot of courage to break free of who yopu reall feel you are. Society is very judgement at times, but it feels peaceful when you think what you've done was the right thing.
@onabreak2 (1162)
• United States
24 Mar 07
That happened to my daughter. She had a friend from grade school a beautiful girl. Last thing she had heard she was married. Then she got a divorce. Then the next thing she knew she was a lesbian. So it can happen. Who knows why. She never asked her. Guess she just likes girls better or maybe she was mistreated by a man.
@leechamp (186)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
yeah, maybe you are right. but, also there maybe other reasons why, if only we do have the chance to really talk about it, but i also would like to respect her privacy. it is her right to keep things abt herself all by herself if that would keep her life seemingly in good balance.