Do you think that having kids can make you happy?

China
March 23, 2007 10:37pm CST
I am a chinese.It is the first time I start a new discussion.I am not good at English.In my memory, I am always feeling having baby is a bad thing for his father and mother,because they will spend a lot of time on their little baby and they wil never have time to live lesiurily. Furtemore,if you don't have plentiful money for you kids, your life will become hard!So,I think that having kids will make you unhappy!Do you agree with my opion?OK,Let's start our discussion!Come on,my dear friends!
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@shineison (874)
• Uganda
24 Mar 07
YES i am sure Having kids makes me Happy every time. Lot of love attached with Kids, The love we cant now but when we have Kids then we understand that Love.
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• Nigeria
24 Mar 07
havin a baby is thing of mind. You dont have to be ashamed of rearing babies they are the of every parents
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@cherriemae (3374)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
Yes, absolutely that having kids can make me happy. I am already a mom of a 2yr old girl. And i can say that i'm so lucky to have her in my life. I am a single parent, but i'm still happy though my child has no daddy. My daughter is my bestfriend, she is my life, she makes me happy everyday. Though i'm not that rich in material things, that i cant afford to buy all of her needs, i always see to it that i care and love her. I still think of spending my time to my friends, but i will never spend much time to them because i already have my child and i'm not regretting. I'm sure of that.
• United States
24 Mar 07
I think that having a child can make some couples very happy, while others are happy not having a child. I think soceity places too much emphasis on having and not having children. It is a very personal choice and should be left that way. My two brothers have children and would not want it any other way. I do not have children and I am happy too. Welcome to mylots !!
• United States
24 Mar 07
I do think having a baby can make a couples relationship stronger and more happy! They have something to share together.
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• Malaysia
24 Mar 07
yes, i'm very happy to have my first baby.....in this september..... t
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@Jellytang (698)
• China
25 Mar 07
Having kids not only can make me happy,but also can make my big family happy.I like kids very much,and I can stay with them all day long.Now,I am still very young,so the decision to have a kid is far away from me.In fact,I have to earn much money before I have a kid,otherwise how can we live well in the cruel society.
@7nicole1 (1634)
• Canada
25 Mar 07
Well soryy friend I dont agree with you. Although your right in some aspects like you wont have alot of free time and money are correct I think the point of life is to have and raise children and watch what they become after all you have teached them. Im only 30 and up to 3 years ago I had no kids but when I hooked up with my girlfriend she already had 3 kids so I became an instant father figure. We dont have much time to do anything ourselfs anymore but truthfully I wouldnt have it any other way. As far as Im concerend my children really do think of me like a god in their eyes and theres no feeling better then when your child comes to you with a problem and you can fix it for them and be their hero. To me having and raising kids is what life is all about or well it is for me at least.
@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
25 Mar 07
Oh yes, having children makes you happy. I only have one, and I find it difficult at times to cope with the demands of parenthood but there is huge satisfaction to be found in this role. It is as if a new door has been opened in my life. for a few weeks after the birth itself, I was on a high, I felt amazing (no post natal depression, in fact quite the opposite) and while I have come down off this high and settled into a somewhat routine, it feels great to be a parent. If a person is having issues in their life which makes them unhappy, I would most definitely not suggest having a child to remove the unhappiness, no way. It could act with the opposite effect! But I think that having a child can enhance existing happiness in your life.
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@Zelmarq (11503)
• Cebu City, Philippines
25 Mar 07
Yes, kids are heaven's gifts and they are God's angels. babies arenot bad, they are such adorable beings.
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@julaqq (141)
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
Having kids is fulfilling God's desire to procreate. Having done so could also make our life complete, experience joy and and happiness in life. You can have all the things in the world but not having your own kid can leave you empty, lonely and unhappy.
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@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
24 Mar 07
I would think it all depends on your your goal in life is, Your parents had you because they believed that to complete you family a child was necessary. I would assume from your post you do not want children, and that is your choice, from my own experience my children are my joy, and I truly believe that I could attain any thing in my life I chose to because they were important to me.When we have children we have a purpose to work for, and I do not believe in giving a child every thing they want, they from a very early age can earn the extras, by doing chores or small jobs, we have to teach our children to become responsible adults, and that is a big job. I would recommend that you look at all the options and go from there.There is nothing worse than having a child that is not wanted. that is a crime.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
24 Mar 07
Having kids can make some very happy. They of course have already loved children and so having one or two would be what they wished for. They do not mind the sacrifices or how much it costs to feed and clothe them as those who do not believe children are a blessing do. For them, there is no sacrifice and if someone to tell them how much they missed, they would look at them funny. You do not need plenty of money to raise children because while you work, you are keeping the house, providing food and clothing. The money does not come in one huge sum. No one gives a parent a roomful of gold and says, "this is to raise your children and when you run out, you are out of luck." No one says to a poor person, "here is a bag of copper coins, when you run out, there is nothing left, so don't have children." We are working all the time, and the husband will work longer, the wife will go without that fancy dress or the vacation in a foreign land because they both love their children. And you have the wrong idea, not all babies get up up in a fret. You can live leisurely with a quiet baby.
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
having a baby is a gift from god and not everybody is given with that gift. my baby is the best thing that ever happened to me.
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@aweins (4203)
• India
24 Mar 07
:-), hello my friend , welcome to mylot as you chinese we indians have an equally old civilazation n culture which had played its part in studying life and the world.And these teachings have been very worthy . Happiness is never achieved or is never a result of only things or situations. for example , you may feel very comfortable and happy in an air conditioned room as compared to a non air conditioned room where it is hot and sweaty, but in reality it is non the air condition or the air conditioned room atmosphere which is solely responsible for your happiness because it is possible to be the unhappiest being on earth inside the same air conditioned room depending on various situations and your personal outlook and attitude. It is this outlook and attitude which is indispensible to have and enjoy happiness. Without this no material thing or situations can bring happiness. Again here, it is your outlook and your thinking which makes you feel that having a baby can be an unhappy situation. well wish you all the best and have a great time here on mylot.
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• Philippines
24 Mar 07
Well for me having a baby is really a difficult one especially when you are not yet ready for this responsibility, but you know what, those hardships are very worth it if you have your own baby. Its a kind of joy that no other material and good leisure can give. Its more of a different level of happiness I tell you,eventhough sometimes you'll find it hard, but once you'll see them smile, plays with you and even tell you i love you then you'll really find the true essence of life,especially when you are a mother =) By the way, my child is a half chinese =)
@gleznov (391)
• United States
24 Mar 07
Hi greensun! You are right on many points. First off, let me say that you will love your kids like crazy, and you wouldn't trade them for the world. Disclaimer aside... Children take from you... 1) ALL of your time 2) ALL of your energy 3) ALL of your money Ok, maybe not ALL of your money, but mooooore than enough. I tell my single friends, if you have hobbies, and enjoy life, and like quiet, relaxation, or sleep, DON'T HAVE KIDS. At some point, if you want kids bad enough, then you will know and you will have them. But they take so much from you, and you really have to be ready to give it to them. Because once you make that decision, it's 20 years before you have the choice again. I am often frustrated that I can't spend time on my hobbies, have peace and quiet for ONE FLIPPIN MINUTE! Read in the tub for an hour. Go out and see friends... But that's the price you pay. And luckily, our baby is cute enough that when he crawls up on the bed and cuddles up to watch TV, I start to not mind so much... Who needs a life anyway? It's your kid's turn now. So have them when you are ready for the commitment. They DO end the romance. They DO end a lot of your life. But they open up another world too, and there are tons of positives. Since you asked for the negatives, there they are. There is, however, no sense of regret, because you would never give them up for anything.
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• United States
24 Mar 07
I do think having a baby can make a couples relationship stronger and more happy! They have something to share together.
@smints8985 (1595)
• United States
24 Mar 07
I do not agree completely. I'm 21 and way before I have always had it in my mind that the thing that would make me feel complete or fulfilled is the time when I get to have my own family, and that includes children, I have been thinking that in the future I want 4, I want to have a big family cause there's only me and my brother in our family, and I have always thought that having more siblings is better. Despite the joy that a child brings in a family, I am aware that there are couples that choose not to have children, I really don't completely understand why people would not want kids, but then if that is what works for them then fine, it is better if they enjoy life with just the two of them, it is better that way rather than have kids than you won't take good care of.
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• China
24 Mar 07
It's very happy for me to have a new baby. I can imagine how wonderful that walk with my hubby and my baby.
@myklaire (437)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
welcome to mylot. Your english is good being a chinese. You need to polish more, you're on your way to a better english. I've been working in Taiwan, it so rare to find one who could speak good english... Anyway, i'm 29 years old and I have two kids now. They are the best things that happened to me, best gifts that God has given me. They give you inspiration and motivation to work hard so you can provide and give them good life much better than my own life.