my uncle died today. didn't visit him when he was sick. should i feel guilty?
By mquidem
@mquidem (42)
Philippines
March 23, 2007 11:32pm CST
i woke up this morning with neews that my uncle died. it was a shock to me because it was just 3 days ago that the doctor said the cancer cells were gone and he would be ok soon. i felt bad because i didn't get the chance to visit him in the hospital because of my busy schedule. actually, after i heard that he was going to be alright i kinda thought there's no urgency for me to visit him. now i feel guilty for not seeing him before he died. he was really close to the family and he was one of the few uncles thati have that were close to my father. i feel guilty for not being there for him when he needed us to comfort him. me and siblings were close to him as compared to the rest of my father's brother. should i feel guilty for not seeing him before his death?
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@pilbara (1436)
• Australia
24 Mar 07
I guess the question is, how often did you go and see him while he was sick? If you feel that you did this enough while he was sick then you would have offered him the support that was needed and there is no point in feeling guilty, particularly when you had been told he would be ok.
Even if not, do you think he would really want you feeling guilty about this? It is an awful load to be carrying around.
@pilbara (1436)
• Australia
26 Mar 07
That is such a shame. It's awful when that happens.
All I can say is what i said before, that your uncle would not want you to be carrying around a load of guilt, he would want you to continue to have a happy life, so the best you can do is to remember him and all of the positive impacts he had on your life.
