How to confront a friend?

@maucute (980)
Philippines
March 24, 2007 12:51pm CST
Actually, I'm talking about one of my friends in school. I'm not sure if what really has make an impact of her being like that, but the thing is many of us have really noticed her attitude towards us as well as other people. For a friend she is a bit nice, sociable but there are times when she's just tactless in things that she'd said to people. Or in times where we talked about something and she joined in the conversation showing us that she knows every singe detail of it and has something much more greater than it (if we're talking about things we have). Friends have been discussing how to tell her about this, but it's really hard. I know if you're a caring friend then you should confront her about it so that she could be aware of her actions. any idea how she came to be like this? and any suggestions how to tell her not hurting her feelings? Thanks..
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4 responses
@deepti15 (1190)
• India
26 Mar 07
well, people are people, its tough to change them. From what you have written about you friend I think she needs some one to talk to , to share what she feels. may be there is someting that needs to be discussed out. She looks like a troubled child. She needs help, she is rude but there has to be a reason for this. May be she is striving for attention or may be she just wants to prove herself.
@maucute (980)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
Yup, it's really hard to change a person. He/she must be willing enough to do it for themselves.. Actually she have got lots of friends but some would back-stabbed her because of her attitude, sometimes people can't dare to tolerate it anymore. I'm really not sure if there's something that troubled her because for I know, she speaks out what's on her mind.. Based from her friends' observation, when compared her to other person similar to her, she's the type that would talk and talk as if she knows everything or everything is just connected to her but sometimes she shows nothing..
@mlgb_24 (638)
24 Mar 07
sometimes it's hard to be honest without hurting..but if you are really a true friend, it always pays to be honest, that leave your friend being back-stabbed by othe people becuase of the bad behaviour. say it in a nice way and i'm sure your friend will appreciate it more..if not, at least your intentions are pure.
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@maucute (980)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
yup, sure is hard.. People have been pointing at each other on who's going to tell her about it but until now, nobody did have the courage to do so.. I felt pretty bad about it because I myself wanted her to be aware of it. Thanks for the advice, that's what we really have to do..
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
She needs some love that's all. Maybe nobody notices her so she seeks attention
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@maucute (980)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
I guess that's one thing, her need of attention. She has all the resources she needs, her mom is willing to give her everything she needed, she's a smooth talker when asking for things so that they would be done her way.. thanks. :)
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
30 Mar 07
Well there is no other Way then just telling her straight out in the nicest way and she either takes notice or doesn't She might not even realize she is doing it so one of you will have to tell her.
@maucute (980)
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
I guess that's why she is still like that, nobody really had the courage to tel straight to her.. We've just become close for the last 2 years because of the projects but it's her friends that shared to me she's like that and they're really having a hard time explaining because sometimes it would really get into their nerves but they couldn't do a thing either to shut up or say something greater than it that would also make her shut up.. Thanks though, I know that's one thing that is in need to be done..