Mylot debates.
By crimsonblues
@crimsonblues (1191)
United States
March 24, 2007 3:52pm CST
I have a question. If you don't agree with a post or what the post says...do you still comment on the post? Do you move on to the next topic?
I move on to the next topic. I don't think it's my place to tell someone what they have wrote is stupid or otherwise comment negatively towards them.
Obviously, a lot of people here have different feelings on this topic. I know a lady who I've read since day one recently had some problems with a situation like this.
How do you personally handle someone you find to be rude or offensive?
I'm curious to know if other mylot members have had this prolem and what they've done to solve the situation.
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24 responses
@xfallenxlostx (2074)
• United States
25 Mar 07
i post on topics that interest me whether i agree with the topic starter or not. Afterall, this IS a discussion site and it's hard to have a real discussion without all sides, right?
You obviously chose debating as a subject you like since you have this post in the debating section. You can't have a debate withouth several different sides. If you don't like to post where you have a different opinion, then you really don't like debating.
i'm not saying you should tell someone they are stupid for feeling one way while you feel another. That is NOT what a discussion or a debate it about. It is about sharing sides and viewpoints and respecting one another.
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@crimsonblues (1191)
• United States
25 Mar 07
You are rude. This is exactly the kind of reply I was talking about. You have chosen not to answer the question,(Do you comment anyway or just move on) and instead have decided to make a rude and false generalization about me. Yes, this is posted in the debate section. You do not know if I ever post or comment in this section. YOU DO NOT know me, so DO NOT act like you do. You have not respected me or my posting with your rude and pointless comment. I was not asking for permission to debate or permission from YOU to comment in a section. I was simply asking how people deal with rude comments from people who obviously did not read the posting they are wanting to discuss. Thank you for proving my point.
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@soccermom (3198)
• United States
25 Mar 07
MyLot is based on opinion, and if I run across a discussion on a topic I am passionate about I respond regardless of whether I agree with the poster or not. I try not to say anything inflammatory or attack character at all. If I am being attacked personally I try to set this person straight, rate them accordingly and not give in if they want to argue.
@dana234 (2114)
• Spain
25 Mar 07
If I come across a post that I don´t like, I would never make a negative comment on it. Nobody is forcing me to answer, so I move on.
If I received an extremely offensive response to one of my discussions, I would report them. Luckily this hasn´t happened yet.
@CaroleeKaufold (1853)
• United States
24 Mar 07
I give them a - or ! I will not reply to something I think is plain dumb
@tallpaulno44a (1574)
• United States
25 Mar 07
If I feel that I an add to the discussion, whether by agreeing, disagreeing, or adding a different point of view, i will do so. The key is to disagree respectfully, honoring the others' rights to their opinions, and to refrain from being rude.
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@mavrone_yefriend (117)
• India
25 Mar 07
Hi dear, well I've never faced any such situations till now, when I'm reading any post, I read it with an open mind and if I feel that I will be able to give some useful respose to that then only i respond else I move on.
Here every response has some feelings and some anxiety so you can't tell that this post is good or bad so need to accept and respect every stuff.
@deladieri (170)
• Indonesia
25 Mar 07
well, lately if i see a topic that i don't agree, i usually past it. Negativity is a thing that i avoid.
@enchantedleppard (1541)
• United States
4 Mar 08
If it is a topic that I don't agree with, I usually move on to my interests however if I have a strong opinion, I will comment stating how I feel but never to disrespect someone because everyones entitled to their own opinion. If they are rude and offensive I tell them about themselves, much like you do. As for people who start discussions like "I like 2 eat tacos what do u like to eat?" I ignore those too.. I like me some good beefy discussion.. lol.
@easymoney75503 (1702)
• United States
25 Mar 07
even if i dont agree with something someone says i will still post if the topic interrest me. different ideas etc are needed so that people get a better look from all points. you dont have to agree about things to get along though. my husband says all the time opions are like buttholes everyone has one and they are all stinky. lol. he has a few other saying too but i dont know how to say them without being completely rude. lol arent husbands great sometimes.
@scarlet_woman (23465)
• United States
25 Mar 07
i usually just go on to the next post-i don't comment on it.not worth the energy.
if somebody's being purposely insulting,the best thing to do probably is just report it.
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@amarie (170)
• United States
25 Mar 07
I normally move on to the next topic but debating the issue could be beneficial. Be debating you will have more sentences which in turn means that you could possibly make more money. This may also help the poster as well because he or she will have a hot topic brewing and people will possibly rate it.
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@kamran12 (5526)
• Pakistan
25 Mar 07
offcourse the very idea of the site is about discussion. any discussion has fors and againsts. so it's only natural that one should participate in the discussion of one's area of interest wether or not it conforms to your own idealogy. otherwise the purpose won't be met.
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@myfanwy65 (1030)
• United States
18 Nov 07
I have found myself moving on to the next topic, as well. I'm tired of arguing with people. When someone is rude, I usually make one comment and then move on. Again, I'm not going to get into a full blown argument. We disagree and most of the time the other person is not going to change my mind.
@milkfish (371)
• Philippines
19 Nov 07
I love a good debate. I guess its good to have opposing view for a discussion here in mylot, we get to see both sides of the coins. As long as we are not rude or offensive in our discussion, there is nothing to fear in having opposing views. However, it cannot be denied that there are those who give us negative rating if they think that we are not agreaable to their discussion. This should not be the case. As long as we have facts to support our discussion, we have the right to our personal opinion.
@lifetalk (679)
• Pakistan
25 Mar 07
Well, most of the time i just move on to the next post and read the other replies. As long as the post that i dont agree with has nothing offensive towards my religion or community. Even in that case, i dont tend to insult or get angry at the person, and give him/her negative rating and stuff. I just comment on it, and instead of doing anything out of the wild, i just defend my religion/community by actually supporting my points in a way that's neither offensive nor does it portray anykind of negative thoughts towards the person.
@abi1005 (194)
• Philippines
5 Nov 07
hi there...whenever i came across with a topic i don't agree with, i still post my opinion. anyways, this is what is mylot for..to share our opinions. it is just up to the reader how he/she takes other's opinion. in my case, whenever someone disagrees with me or someone would criticize me, i never take it negatively..i read/listen to what everybody would say and from there, i will weigh things up. other people's opinion helped me in developing myself. for sure, they didn't mean hurting your feelings. they might just wanted to help you sort things up.
@SheliaLee (2736)
• United States
25 Mar 07
I agree with you that it is wrong to be rude to someone. If there is a topic brought up where I don't agree with what the person is saying then I give my opinion but in a nice way. This site is for giving your opinions on different subjects but you can give your opinion and be nice about it at the same time.
If someone should be rude to me I will just ignore what they say. As far as I know it is not a requirement to respond to a comment that people make about your discussion.
Have a great day!!
@aso322 (75)
• United States
25 Mar 07
I haven't been here long enough to experience anything like that, but if I see a post that has turned into a debate and I have an opinion to share, I will definitely share it. Not saying that anyone else has said this, but I think it's sad that debating has such a negative connotation to most people. I think it's healthy and normal to politely debate with people. Everyone has different opinions, and sharing them is half the fun! :)
@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
24 Apr 07
for me, I like to comment if I understand and know something about the topic. I normally read through the discussion and if I dont agree on a topic or simply dont know how to comment, I just leave it. Many of us have different views on one topic. When we start a topic, we must get ourselves ready to accept all kind of views. Some maybe useful, some maybe rude, others maybe sensitive. So, all these kind of responses is useful to build a healthy discussion. We discuss a lot of thing in mylot, we also share a lot of stories in mylot. We become a big community and in that community we have good responder and not so good responder. Overall, we must be open-minded and accept other responses positively.
