Would you move for love?

@ehlana88 (330)
United States
March 24, 2007 11:51pm CST
I have been in long distance relationships before or in relationships where my partner has gotten a job that requires them to move a great distance away. Each time I have moved and the relationship has eventually fallen apart. This, of course, leaves me in a new area, struggling to set myself up. I'm in a new relationship and the question has come up again. Would you move for love? I find myself hesitating. It is early in the relationship and I just don't know if I can be left in an area struggling to make it. I would want him to move here where I have the support and the family and friends. Would you move?
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• United States
26 Mar 07
you have to decide for yourself. 4 years ago i married a woman from the philippines. now i live in oklahoma and the distance between me and her was 7,500 miles. that and the 13 hour time diference. talk about long distance! but my wife was worth is. you have to ask yourself, is the other person worth it? i have been living here in the philippines for the past four years. i do not regret my decision to move to be with her. simply, because she was and still is worth it
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@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
26 Mar 07
Yes, I would move for love I know it is very hard if the relationship does not work out but it is better to give it a try I would at least do it as we do not know whether it is going to work or not so we have to give it a try if we really love the other person. Well you say that it is only early days so I think that you would not know if you were in love properly or not it is very difficult when you have the support where you are and especially your family and friends.
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
i already did :) it was a thought i considered for many times. i had to leave my work, my friends, my comfort zone and start all over again. it was not that difficult adjusting because i have my husband and he is really supportive with anything i need. he makes sure that i feel comfortable with my new place. i miss everything that i left behind but it was my choice to move on. there are times that i regret being here but when i see the effort of my husband, i forget all about it. so far, i feel better now that i am with him each day. though i am still struggling and adapting :)
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@prasad1961 (5603)
• India
25 Mar 07
Remember that if there is anything sweeter than all sweet things, more auspicious than all auspicious things, holier than all holy objects, verily it is the name of the Lord. He is omnipresent, so he may be available in distant relations and in new relations. Just identify them with your knowledge. That can move you to destination with satisfaction.
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@lanshang (139)
• China
25 Mar 07
I prefer talking with him first.As you said, your relationship is still early,it would be too risky to move to a new environment with someome who you are not quite familiar with.Furthermore,if the guy really loves you,he will make some sacrifice for you.
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• United States
25 Mar 07
I think that this is a question only you can answer. I might move to be with someone I love, but I'd want to make sure it was a place where I could be happy on my own if it came to that. If it's early in the relationship I personally think you are right to hesitate. Maybe before you start dating someone you should ask him if there's any chance at all that his job will require him to move away, since it keeps coming up :-).
@Zelmarq (11503)
• Cebu City, Philippines
25 Mar 07
If I have to then why not. If id be left with no other option, i would move. O love him very much that I would go where he goes.