Why do we always argue with our partner? Do you? Of what about?

Philippines
March 25, 2007 8:39am CST
im really a bit upset today, just some little things could really get into shouting match, its so embarassing. my partner is the type thats hysterical whever shes being argued the opposite, really makes me mad evreytime she throws tantrums for simple arguments. shes not the type who who accepts others opinions easily, goes into "berserk" mode. i just usually stay away from here not responding or makin a sound, keep on doin things oblivious to her presence which i felt makes her more angrier. but if i had to respond it will just be her voice all over the universe, no use arguing. she used to be mild mannered until i just dont know what changes her. but i could sense before hand that shes not the type to argue with or show opinions against hers. our lawyer even scolded her for being such, that somehow embarasses her (iwas smikin when it happened) made her mellow as a cat whenever we are the presence of our lawyer (the man had abooming voice too i think that helps).
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@AKRao24 (13341)
• India
10 May 07
Well this is an interesting topic! I many times thought why it happens and if happens does it happens with me only or what! But having thought care fully I have come to some conclusions why our partner always argues : 1.Arguement is never one sided, that means we are also getting indulged into it to prove our point, then what is wrong our partner also want to do the same! 2.We are not arguing with strangers or unknown people in our daily life , we generally get into arguments on petty things with our partner because we care for and may sound bit crude, take the partner for granted and we can't tolerate the deviation from our expected type of conduct! 3. We feel that the argument or a thing what our partner is doing is wrong and we don't want the partner to be blamed by some one else for doing that thing! Instead we prefer to get our selves into argument , thinking that we are doing a favour to our partner, which takes a ugly turn! 4.Difference of opinion is very common thing and we forget this simple thing and we try to convince our partner that our opinion is always correct! 5. By staying together for so many years we and our partners come to know about each other in every aspect and we know each others weak points and strong points, so it takes no time to attack on each ones weak points and a small argument ends up in a big mess! 6.Some times over possessiveness of ours may unnecessarily subject our partners to face unwanted arguments! 7. Because of our failures at some place which is no way connected to our partners we unnecessarily indulge into meaningless arguments and vent out our anger! These are few observations made by me ! May be they may not hold true for every one! These are very personal opinions and I am presenting just for the discussion! Thansk for initiating such an interesting topic dear friend! Wish you and your partner all the best and May God Bless you both !
• Philippines
11 May 07
Wow! Just a great response you did there my friend, so beautifully said. Those are good enough quantities to remember not just blowing off my top too now.
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@im_anna (718)
• Philippines
10 May 07
Relationships are often charged with pain, they try us, confuse us, frighten us, threaten us, and make us wear. But they also uplift us and fulfill us. It is though the pain we suffer in our relationship that we strengthen our love for one another and grow as individuals.
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• Philippines
11 May 07
Lovely said it well...sweet, yeah i guess it happens more to strengthen us & allow us to grow in maturity. Thanks Anna.
@mivarg (277)
• India
18 May 07
If you love your partner, I guess you should learn to come to terms with it. there is no use changing her in accordance with your idea of a partner. I guess you must try to communicate more with her and persuade sometimes, though it may take some time, that there are many ways of look at things, and it is okay to be proven wrongsome times. I won't ask you to raise your voice or outsmart her. if there is some true love existing between the two of you, you may be able to learn to survive. But if you feel that your dislike for her behavious arises from some strong reason related to your love life, I guess you should not waste any more of your time on this, and asknherb whether she too feels the same and you can part. Bold though this may seem, this would be the best way to put an end to a situation which you do not want to be in. All the Best!