Arguments

@Mickie30 (2631)
March 25, 2007 11:02am CST
My husband and I keep arguing over silly little things, but it really gets to me. Then he tells me to forget it and not to carry on the argument which really hurts because in his way he is telling me to shut up which I find disrespectful. We have some sort of row every day over something so trivial and then it blows up and I end up having a lot of anger towards my husband. Does this happen to anyone else and have you found any ways around this?
3 responses
• Canada
25 Mar 07
What exactly are you arguing about??? I have been with my husband for 10 years and we have disagreed maybe 5 times but it never ended up in an argument. If I want something done -- I do it. If I want something done MY way -- I do it. He does the same thing. We don't argue about money because we sat down early and decided what we were doing to do. We don't argue about kids because we sat down early and sorted it out early. Poor communication starts most arguments. So fix your communication skills and help him fix his.
@Mickie30 (2631)
25 Mar 07
Thanks for your advice. We argue over silly things like I said like who is going on the internet. We both have a lot of insecurities and say sorry lots of times to each other. I get annoyed by him leaving the toilet unflushed or his shoes around the house. We are both messy people. We do argue over money sometimes but, mostly it is silly petty things. I also am getting over mental health problems and I still think this affects me somewhat.
@yanstill (1491)
• China
26 Mar 07
maybe you can make a rule,today you are on the internet,tommorow his turn,something like that.
@yanstill (1491)
• China
26 Mar 07
i think close people argues on small things,because they care about each other,because they are not afraid to say it out,to let you know what they feel,and you can make it better together.
@Mickie30 (2631)
26 Mar 07
Yes you are right people who love each other are not afraid to sat things and that causes arguments sometimes. Some people say arguments are healthy I don't know whether I would agree with that though.
@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
25 Mar 07
whenever my hubby and I have an argument he really don't say anything just stands there and it make me madder when he don't say anything I would say to him Please say soething and he would say what do you want me to say? I thought oh forget it He has always been that way to me I do the yelling and he just sits there. So I guess he wins..LOL