Have you every wondered?

@Lakota12 (42794)
United States
March 25, 2007 11:50pm CST
Why people pick you to be a friend on here ? I wonder for whenI look at profiles of the ones that invite me to be a friend I wonder if the liked what I have posted or one of my responces or just like my nmae and advatar. What makes you ask some one to be a friend? What makes you decide which ones to pick and which ones not to pick? I look at profiles and if I see nothing in common I dont know weather to pick or not some times I pick to see dicussions that they post. And I put notify on .
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• United States
2 Apr 07
I don't pick my friends here. I actually accept everyone who wants to be my friend. I joined myLot for the discussions, and not all of the discussions that my friends have been posting are "repliable" by me. I just turned the "notify" to off because I don't always get to log-in anyway, and the messages clog my e-mail (sorry about that). I never deleted anyone, though, and I don't really feel bad if I already got deleted because it's really impossible to answer all friends' discussions. As to my experience, there are 2 types of friends here who request to be my friend. One is because they like my responses to their discussion (or they like my discussion). I would know that because the friend request would get in immediately after the response. The other type are those who send links or offer money-making ventures which I would also get after I accept them as friends. I don't expect much from my friends here because I don't reply to some of their discussions anyway. I guess it's just a 'live and let live' sort of thing. Nevertheless, I enjoy the discussions. As for you, happy myLotting!
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@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
3 Apr 07
thanks this was a well thought out responce nad I am sure all works out for you this way happy mylotting
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@austere (2816)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
i choose friend when i find their response sensible. i believe that you will know about the person the way she thinks, and here, it's the way he or she responds to a discussion. I know it would be hard to look for a honest person in the internet but somehow of course we can tell if the person is sicere in her response or not through the different responses she or he posts in different discussions. if she or he seems like a good person, then i wouldnt mind adding him or her up in my friends list. About those who invite me to be their friend, i accepted them all. Friendship is something one should not decline to. That's what ive learn and i believe it to be true!
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
2 Apr 07
very good nice way to look at it
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• Philippines
2 Apr 07
I usually invite my friends as of now. So I'm guilty for having inviting you(^^,LOL^^,)But I really appreciate that you have accepted my invitation. You ask why? Generally speaking, I usually choose to invite a friend because I like their answer to the discussion I have commented on too or have just pass by. Or sometimes because I love their avatar and when I check their profile, their discussions appealed to me even if I wasn't able to answer to one of their's yet. And because I'm a newbie and to have friends means that you have a handful of discussion ready to be answer. So your mind won't be too scattered over mylot.(searching and searching..)(^^LOL^^,) And Of course as a newbie it gives you the opportunity to get notice too, and maybe they'll answer to your discussions too. By the way, I only have two and I'm happy that some have answered and they are very supportive. That's what I love too in mylot, the support and the opportunity to learn more too. I invite a lot of people here to be my friends. Even if sometimes I have answered to one of their discussions, it seems like they didn't even noticed or cared. Because I have a more than 2 weeeks pending request. But it is okay and I understand, maybe they want me to answer more of their discussions before considering to add me. That's why I really appreciate people like you, who approves invitation's of newbies like me. It means a lot to me. And so far, I love all the people who accepted me as their friends, I'm very greatful. And the main reason why I wasn't able to respond to others discussions yet. It is not really that I don't care. It is just too overwhelming really. I still have 100 + notification in my email. Hay! And I promise myself to respond to at least 1 discussion of my friends. Someone told me that it will be difficult. But I'll try my best. And I have so many thank yous to extend. So I would like to take this opportunity to thank you too for adding me to your friends. It may be my first time to answer to your discussion but I really really appreciate that you added me to your friends. Thank you!(^^,) And I'll pray too for your mom. Godbless! Have a nice day!(^^,)
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
2 Apr 07
how nice that you sent a thank you I apreciate it very much . I does take awahile to go thru emails to respond but I do get thu them some time in the day even if I have to set here till 11 pm some nights then other times Ihave to go looking for something to respond too . Thanks again
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
2 Apr 07
and thanks for prayers she is doing better I will be glad when her phone gets hocked up in this new place
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
You're welcome! More blessings! (^^,)
@momknows (284)
• United States
26 Mar 07
I have not picked anyone to be my friend here, but I did accept you. I think your asked to be friends just to get you to respond to topics and help them make money. They don't really care who you are or what your interested in, they just want the friend status. By the way how is your mom doing?
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
26 Mar 07
on you I think I like the way you responded to a post why I asked . and thanks for asking she gets better each day they really have to work on her speech tho in the evening it is real hard to understand what she is saying mornings are better for her and me to talk She is looking forward for us going up there for her birthday next month which is also my daughters birthday
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@momknows (284)
• United States
26 Mar 07
You and your family are in my prayers. I went though the samething with my grandmother a few years back. My best advice is to be patient with her and let her mumble through her speech, if you continue to interupt and finish her sentences she will slowly stop talking.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
26 Mar 07
thanks i really repeat what she says so I can make sure I have it right and I wait for her to get her thought together last night she had a visitor there and she was repeating what mom said and she went on and on and was getting my daughter upset the way she was doing things we were all on speaker phones
@ydnac22 (804)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
If somebody respond in one of my discussions and i found her or his respond very convincing i right away invite them.I dont care what she or he have in their profile,dont care how old they are or from where as long as i was touched by their replies then thats it!
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@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
2 Apr 07
another way to look at it and very good responce too
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@dixielol (1581)
• United States
1 Apr 07
Yep, I wonder that too. I use to have my aviater as a pic of me. I got alot more friends request then then I do now. especially from guys. Now mostly, I get request from woman & moms. I have suggested that mylot do a little changing in that department. I think it would be good if when you send someone a friend request there was a box that had to be filled out that said: I want to be your friend because... I go through there discussions & try to see if I have answered one of there posts or if they have responded to one of mine. But alot of times it was neither one. So I am just sitting there thinking "Were did they find me? Why do they want to be my friend? Will they ask good qustions? Or respond to mine?" You look at some people & they have 500 friends but only answered/started 50 discussions. Makes me wonder why they want so many people as friends.
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@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
1 Apr 07
thats the question where did they find us and if they will respo9nd or put notify on so we can respond to thier posts
@y4175317 (204)
• Indonesia
1 Apr 07
maybe he want to be ur friends thats all
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@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
1 Apr 07
could be just was wondering why on alot of poeple when we have nothing in common
@yomy1984 (177)
• United States
31 Mar 07
inviting to become yours friends is like collecting antiques..you never like the physical because of the ancient style but when you take a look and observe you better know that behind that figure,,theres a story inside.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
1 Apr 07
this is so true
@patrice7 (1197)
• United States
30 Mar 07
hello lakota!. i also wonder why people add me as there friend. i had been away for like 3 weeks or a month and then when i came back i saw that there were at least 47 people trying to add me. and i wondered why would they add me when i havent even been active for some time.. i do however like some of the friends that i have because they really do help me out and i also help them out with their discussions. also to help out my other friends i always go to the discussions my friends started and then answer their discussions. some of my friends however do not really help me at all and some of them apparently have stopped posting.. anyway i dont delete friends because i still believe that maybe one day they will notice one of my discussions and respond to it. well never know..
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@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
30 Mar 07
thats why I havent deleted any one I also think they might very well turn notify on so I get their post in my eamil
@polachicago (19143)
• United States
28 Mar 07
Some people ask me to be my friends, some I asked. If I ask people for friendship, usually because I like what they say, or avatar looks very friendly and nice. I trust my instincts.
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@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
28 Mar 07
this is good one too
@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
30 Mar 07
Hey LKo12 I pick my friends by first -of course- their avatar then there discussion types lastly I keep the friends who respond to my discussions +'s 2 U
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
30 Mar 07
Yes its a good way
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@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
2 Apr 07
TY |:D more +'s 4 U
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
2 Apr 07
thanks
• Latvia
3 May 07
For me it is always a good conversation. So I guess if I like discussion topic or answers it would make other person interesting to me. I have some people on my mylot friends list I never talked to. I don't know why they choosed me?!
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
3 May 07
I feel the same thats why I postede this to find out lol
@twils2 (1821)
• United States
3 Apr 07
First off, Thank you for accepting me as a friend. I asked you because I liked what you had to say. Funny thing, just the other day I was looking at some of the profiles of some of my friends and some of them havent logged in about 3 or 4 weeks. Thats when its time to say goodbye. I dont always have time to respond to every discussion that my friends post but I try to make it a point to respond to a few of them from everyone on my list at least a few times a month. Again, Thanks
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
3 Apr 07
your most welcome. This is the kind of responce I was looking for. I also find friens that havent logged in in awhile
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• Latvia
30 Mar 07
Good topic!!! I was wondering about it as well. I can talk about myself - I pick request friends not that often, but if I do, it is when I have good convesations with that person or we participate at eachother's discussions. i like the way they talk and the way they think.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
30 Mar 07
am the same way I think .I havent invited to many but I get invited a lot and I have exceptted a few got 48 friends now but I dont get that many emails withthier post in them So they just set there
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
27 Mar 07
If someone gives a good response I will check out their Profile and I take it from there. If the Profile shows the Interrest then I will invite If they request me then again I check the Profile if there is no Interrest I will deny.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
28 Mar 07
you do about the same as me but then sometimes I approve just to see hwat they come up with lol
• United States
26 Mar 07
I do the same as you and I also check out some of the responses they have made that play a big part in my decision. If they seem rude, snappy, supercilious or just give a one or two word answer then these are also defining factors.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
27 Mar 07
got that right
@wmg2006 (5386)
• United States
26 Mar 07
I think I am picked mostly because of my avatar. When I pick someone it is because I relate to their discussions and want to be able to respond to more just like the ones they have. I have picked only a hand full of friends, but I have been picked hundreds of times.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
27 Mar 07
I am same way I am most ly picked by some one and that got me to thinking why me ? lol
@callarse1 (4796)
• United States
4 May 07
Normally I don't add friends, but they add me. I noticed if I answer their discussion many people will add me as their friend and I guess that is their criteria: I answer their discussion and they like my answer and add me as a friend. The ones I reject are the people that I see have a lot of one line discussions, sorry I don't want to have a friend on here that is breaking rules. I don't turn notify on because I don't want to get a lot of email. However, I visit myLot a lot so I really don't think I need to turn it on. Have a nice day. Pablo
@hezoid (2150)
4 May 07
I think people are either: a) Geuinely interested in my discussions and thus want to add me as a friend. b) Not actually interested and pick me without bothering to even read my discussions in the hope that by becoming their friend i will reply to their discussions so they'll earn more. c) Trying to get me to be their friend so they can get pester me to use all their referral links to join up to other sites and thus make them more money. Personally i don't bother asking to add someone as a friend unless i'm genuinely interested in their discussions.
@kelly60 (4550)
• United States
27 Apr 07
Actually, I wonder that a lot. I know that some ask for legitimate reasons, such as liking something that you said, or having common interests. Others I have discovered have requested me only to spam. Others are looking for numbers because they think that they will get more responses if they have more friends. However, others request for other reasons. I started a discussion asking why people were requesting me as a friend, in hopes of getting answers to this very question. This is the link to that discussion if you would like to see what responses I got: http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/940254.aspx