I was betrayed.=(

she betrayed me... - I was betrayed
@Greyh22 (110)
Philippines
March 27, 2007 5:35am CST
I really trusted that person. She was my friend. I treat her nice, I share my problems to her. She knows things that my family don't know. I felt so sad and betrayed when I found out that she has my journal. It's not an ordinary journal. It is where my x-boyfriend and I share the things, problems, and secrets about ourselves. It was personal. There are things and situations where only me and my x knows. THEN SHE READ IT! she knows that it is personal then why should she read it? and besides, it was really hidden. I hid it in a place where no one can find it. How did she have it? I don't wanna think that she sneaked, but since she have it, then it might be true.=( My trust in her really faded away. I don't know how to treat her now. It's so sad 'coz i really trusted her.=( How will you feel if that happens to you? What will you do? 'coz in my case, I don't know what to do. By the way, she doesn't know that I found my OWN journal in her room. I just saw my journal hidden at the side of her bed.=(
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@bonbon50 (659)
• United States
27 Mar 07
As the saying goes, 'With friends like that, who needs enemies!' I would drop her as a friend. I personally have always detested anyone who would invade my privacy like that, let alone take such a personal possession! I hope you took your journal back. You should have left a note in it's place saying, 'How could you?'
@Greyh22 (110)
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
I took my journal back but I didn't leave a note. I don't know why I can't confront her. I can't do that. Even if i wan't to, I really can't. I don't know why. I just don't want to make a sad impression in a person's face. I'm not good at confronting. And I hate that trait of mine. Maybe I'll let my friend figure out that I have it already.
@teflon09 (208)
• India
28 Mar 07
do some plain talking mate. you got to stop people in their tracks who seem to play with your trust.. Be bold my friend.. that quality of yours of not trying to hurt even when someone falters is not a virtue but a debility.. you better realize it and start living your life.. True, you should not be aggressive or rude with anyone but not living & leading the life in a proper way is your drawback as well.. you got to be assertive without being dominating..Take the rough with the smooth., don't say you don't have it.. everything can be gotten by simply trying to do it first.. Good luck mate..
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@bluewings (3857)
27 Mar 07
I think you cdon't want to confront her because you don't want to ask her nasty questions as she has been your wonderful friend all this while,except for this incident.It could be possible that her curiosity about her best friend's personal life got the better of her,which shouldn't have been the case.I think you should confront her and ask why she did this.If her reasons convince you and you believe her and can forgive her,then who knows,she might change herself rather than losing you as a friend.However,if she comes up with a reason that you can't buy ,then I guess,you have a decision to make.I hope you make the right decision,but sooner or later you will have to talk to her and the sooner the better.Goodluck.
• Canada
27 Mar 07
This is awful! you really need to talkj to her and not let this go. She needs to know how upset u are! and you need to know why she did this! Is it possible that she is interested in ur ex? I know that sounds terrible but why else would she do this? You seriously need to talk to her and figure this out!! If you cannot talk to her then u need to just drop her as afriend because god knows what she will do next! Maybe next time it will be money or something else that is important!
@Greyh22 (110)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
I never thought of that. The one who betrayed me? Interested in my ex? I don't think so. 'coz she should have told me before. And besides. She hates my ex.
@navtech (1776)
• India
27 Mar 07
I had bitter experience with one gentleman (though he was not my friend) whom I helped him financially and also got him a job. But after he joined the employment, with a few days I received a call from his employer stating that he was sent to bank deposit money but he never returned. I was put into such a embarrasing situation I had to return the money to his employer since I am responsible for providing a job for that gentleman. Of course, ultimately police got him when he was trying to cheat a man in railway station. Whether friend or known people we have to be very careful about our privacy.
@Greyh22 (110)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
Aww... that's so sad. That's more difficult than my situation.
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
27 Mar 07
I hate to confront people too but I think you have to in this situation. There could be an explanation. Maybe she picked it up with something else that was on top of it and didn't realize it. I know its doubtful but I would have to ask her about it. If she did take it and read it, I think that would be the end of our friendship.
@Greyh22 (110)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
I really think she didn't picked it up... she just took it 'coz she snooped around my room... it's so sad. I think I can't trust her anymore..
@salsen (108)
• Turkey
27 Mar 07
are you still friends? I don't think she deserves that. perhaps she envies you so much and did such a thing.If she gets really sorry you should give her another chance but you should be careful and see her as an ordinary friend. Don't let her get closer to you until you trust her again.
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• Malaysia
27 Mar 07
friends forever..together...
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• India
27 Mar 07
damn that female , , ,i would hate her bigtime she wudnt even deserve a smile .its not her right to sneak on urs... hey sweetheart believe in urself and dont keep any secrets written , , , , his has happened to ,me many times, , , i used to write a diary , ,( and ofcourse it was english ) and it had all the posiible secrets ..... my mom happened to sneak peak and read it .... it tore the entire diary into pieces and threw it out of the window ..... i haaaaaaaaaaaaaate wen people do that ...... i started writing again , ,i barely gave it a fresh start , my roomate read it ,,,,,,,,,, i no more stay in the room , i dont even look at his face , but stiil pay the rents to the room ,........... such people dont deserve any frienndship ,, theyu must be ruined................. ( (((((( hey im sooo sorry if im writing such way ,.,,,, just that ive also been thru this ))))) ]benny
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@jross143 (52)
• Italy
27 Mar 07
ohh how sad, u know what it is better u talk with her bout ur journal ask her y she took ur journal despite of everything that she knows it's too personal.. talk is the best way to solve every problem that u have remeber that.. anyways she's been ur friend give her a chance to explain.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
27 Mar 07
Since you have your journal back, definitely put your personal items under lock and key. I would now speak to her and tell her how you feel. You have the right to do that. She has invaded your privacy and it should be addressed. I believe that people make mistakes but this is a very big one. This is very sad, she has betrayed your trust and friendship because of her curiosity. I have had this happen but not with a journal, it still hurt the same though. I never spoke to her again after I told her how I felt. She got very angry with me and I decided to end my friendship after that. I hope it doesn't come to that, but if it does, your not losing anything.
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• United States
27 Mar 07
You have every right to be soo angry with her for stealing you journal. You should confront her and let her know how betrayed you are and tell her that you don't know if you could ever trust her again. She must have been snooping through your stuff to get it, especially since you had it well hidden. If any of my friends ever did that I would be so angry and our relationship would be in trouble, and maybe bruised forever.
• Pakistan
27 Mar 07
I Think U Should Talk With Her Try To Figar Out What`s Come On In Her Mind
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@anant123 (66)
• United States
27 Mar 07
if she has done this to you, it clearly means she has never been a good friend to you.... it also depends on the contents of the journal you are talking about...as you have said its too personal with few things which you dont want even her to know, then i must say that she is on the wrong side and you must review your friendship with her....
@ailegal (49)
• India
27 Mar 07
You still call her a friend? Amazing! Your friend is a freak. She has a deep psychological problem. Perhaps she has some hidden agenda for you. Think and find out any past incident in which you offended her or her prestige was lowered before others. Don't get me wrong but I'll blame you for all these. Because you revealed all your secrets to this woman and she is taking the benefits of the situation. You know there is a universal law? It is ; if we cannot keep our secrets burried in our chests and disclose it to others then how we can expect that he or she will keep our secrets to him or her own? It has been better that you've retrieved your Journal. She stole it from your hidden place and you've just retrieved it. So why should you leave a note? Did she leave any when she took it with her? Just create a distance from her and gradually wipe her out. Don't haste because she might black mail or extort you with any of your secrets. Lastly, a word of advice, never ever trust a person without his or her trustyworthyness is proved.
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• Canada
27 Mar 07
I am so sorry that you are having to experience this hurt. I, too, recently went through a similar situation which left me devastated. One of my best friends in real life, someone that I entrusted with my deepest secrets, and I had a horrible falling out and not only did she go to all of my internet sites telling these secrets, she also made up lies to go with them. One of the sites she went to was myLot. She totally humiliated me. I was put in the position of having to report her and then I cancelled my membership and have come back with this new identity. The whole situation has left me with a really bad taste in my mouth. If we cannot entrust our best friends with our secrets, then who can we trust? Apparently no one. I know I will never allow myself to get that close to anyone again.
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@potpot (26)
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
"Your BEST friend is your WORST enemy.." If that happens to me, definitely i will feel bad. I don't think I can trust her again as much as I trusted her before the incident happen. My advice for you is, try to talk to her. Ask her why did she do that. Just let her feel how sad you are because of what had happened.
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• United States
27 Mar 07
If I were you I will tell her that I know what she did and see how she reacts to the situation. I understand how you feel but you want get over it until you talk to her.
@ajay44 (17)
• India
27 Mar 07
I am sorry about u. We all share our things with friends more than our parents, i do not know why it happens. My thinging is first trust u r parents as they have given us life, but i do not tell anyone which i want to hide for myself.as i beleive in myself and there is no fear of others. Do not worry that u r friend has disclosed u r personal details. To my knowledege there is no sceret on this world one or the other day everything will be disclosed u are there or not. In mahabharat the great holy book of India There was time when maharaja yudishtar give curse to his mother saying that no secret will be there in heart of women. and this is the proof. Now everything is open, burn/distroy all that u think may cause trouble for u and cut-off with u r friend. take care
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• United States
27 Mar 07
Anyone who would invade your privacy like that needs to be out of your life-for your own protection. Someone did that to me once-the pain of that betrayal was so great, it took me twenty years to start writing seriously again.
• United States
27 Mar 07
I am very sorry to hear this. I'm not sure if her intention was to deceive you though. Did you ask her why she took your journal? She might have been jealous of the relationship you had with your boyfriend. I know one of my friends grew angry with me because I started spending more time with a boyfriend. My friend and I always said we would never let a boy get in the way of our friendship...but we did. But I agree...it would be hard to trust her again. I do think you need to confront her on the issue though. You deserve to know why she betrayed you and you need those answers to be able to move on from the pain she caused you.
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
As far as I can comprehend this particular situation it seems that your friend has/had access to your private bedroom right? She wouldn't have had your journal if she was not able to be in your room whether you were there or not. Now, with regards to reading the contents of your journal...there are a lot of "Pandora's boxes" that are very tempting to peek into right? Your journal is not an exception. Regardless how careful you were in hiding it...it was still found right? Now the question is...if you would still trust your friend or not? I wouldn't! Why? Because of the simple fact that people should not be touching or snooping on your private property inside your private domain. Even as friends, family, etc. there is a line that shouldn't be crossed. You were crossed. You may have been friends with her for the longest time but I guess you know you should do with this situation. Just my two cents worth.
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