how do you walk out of your sad momnet?

China
March 27, 2007 6:17am CST
when you broke up, just as an example, or was hurt by you love deeply, or fail , or are scolded by your boss bitterly, orlose something valuable, how can you walk out of it? I once try to bury myself in books and music and painting, that only does work for a short time. what will you do? one of my friends said that he would drink and forgot , but what if you wake up?
8 responses
@anne25penn (3310)
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
it takes time before we do actually heal and move on. some people even mask or hide their pain so that they can function in their jobs and do their daily routine. When you have fully accepted the loss without feeling any pain, thats the time that you can say that you have moved on.
• China
27 Mar 07
yeah, one has to learn to grow up. No one can liger on where he was forever.
• China
27 Mar 07
yeah, one has to learn to grow up. No one can liger on where he was forever.
• Canada
10 Apr 07
Everyone reacts to sadness or grief differently...there are definite stages that we all go through such as denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance but we all go through them at our own pace. How we deal with them is what varies. Some people deal with them in a very destructive manner such as drinking too much...probably not a good choice. Others seek medical advice. Some may listen to sad music or cry or exercise or try to keep it inside, etc. and some may deal with it in an artisic manner; many famous paintings and books were created during periods of profound grief. You need to find what is right for you. Forget the destructive paths: I have talked to you enough to know that they are not well suited for you. Good luck my friend,I am here for you.
• Canada
10 Apr 07
Oh, and by the way, it does get better.
@zer0charly (5619)
• Philippines
10 Apr 07
when im in deeply hurt,or if someone hurted me so much,i just go to my friends and seek for comfort..i will cry as much as i can..crying is my way of easing the pain..even for a while..
• Philippines
10 Apr 07
I think for me to answer that is to answer first ... " what is ,my sad moment. I well,.. my sad moment is that when I walk going to my home agter office. After Office, I walk alone at the park going to my home and I see some couple. I feel sad because i dont have a lover yet. What i do is i buy food.
@aissha (2036)
• India
10 Apr 07
it happens with me a lot as i'm emotional and expect from loved soo..... whenevr bad thing happens to me ,i cry a lot ,it feels cleaning me and my anger and frustration kind of drained out of it. then i sing or listen and gradually back and palying with children or people who hv nothing to do with ur problem helps to move on ,all are tried and tested
@towongfoo27 (2989)
• United States
8 Apr 07
I don't think it a good idea to bury emotions underneath a blanket of distractions. Reason being is because those emotions and the issues connected to them usually resurface when you least expect them to. It is helpful to talk to someone, and to let the emotions express themselves on their own time. I do not think it a good idea to prolong or force the issue with manipulative actions like suiting the situation to your needs.
@borzack (597)
• Malaysia
3 Apr 07
i will try to get myself busy doing at least something, to not think of the things that made me sad, like doing the laundry, or vacuuming my room, listen to some up beat music, turn on the TV, do the dishes... things like that. it helps a bit. but if the sad thing is something like a close relative passed away, maybe it will take longer, nothing will help this in short period of time. cheers
@nikki05 (47)
• United States
3 Apr 07
when sad moment come in my laugh i start at first to cry .then now i want to laugh on myself .then i feel i comeout my sad moments .