"Friends" who spam you

@nicolec (2673)
United States
March 27, 2007 10:24am CST
This has happened to me twice now. I get a friend request, check out their profile and their discussions, decide to add them as a friend. Then almost imediatly, they send me a private message trying to get me to join their sites or some other nonsense close to that. I delete them immediatly as that is not what I am here for. And I certainly don't need to be bothered with people who need me as a friend only to clog my inbox with junk. Has this happened to anyone else? Do you find this acceptable behavior or are you like me?
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@SageMother (2277)
• United States
27 Mar 07
This happens to me every once in a while. I don't mind if from those who have been on my friends list for a while but to have a new person start in causes me to delete them. I am here because it is a relatively pleasant way to make a little extra cash and network with people who have the same interests. I take a look at the sites people send to me when they wish me to use their referral link, but they don't pressure me to join their sites. I think that is quite fair. People should really slow down and think before they start trying to recruit. They are more likely to get a favorable response from me if they take their time.
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@nicolec (2673)
• United States
27 Mar 07
I can understand if it's someone I have started a repore with. Maybe they send me something that says 'hey I found this why don't you check it out'. But like you said, the ones that do it right away irk me.
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@palina77 (1178)
• United States
27 Mar 07
Yes, it happend to me but I did not deleted. If you make friend here there is scope to exchange private mail and for this reason mylot authority kept a provision to exchange private message between friends. If some of your friends invite you for some work or task is not liking to you you can response then politely so that they will understand your behaviour and will not do it again. Friend may approach for dating, for loving, for other private task that may not mean that you will accept those, if it not upto your satisfaction then if you let them know it is better either they will keep friendship with you or not or they may be more attractive for you and more helpful to you so why to be deleted, they could not come to you through net so I do not delete friends just react their approach politely if not choiceable to me.
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@royal52gens (5380)
• United States
27 Mar 07
Just like you, I had the same thing occur. Just like you, I deleted that person very fast.That is so wrong what they are doing. I should have reported them to MyLot but I don't recall seeing that option.
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@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
27 Mar 07
I agree with you, I have had this happen a couple of times, and deleted them as well. People arent supposed to be spamming on here, and this needs to be taken care of.
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@natmes (19)
• Kenya
28 Mar 07
i fully support this and i feel that they should scrapped from the system!
• United States
27 Mar 07
I agree with you. Yes, this has happened to me several times. I delete them immediately. Sometimes, I will let them do it to me once or twice and that's it.
@marciascott (25555)
• United States
27 Mar 07
that does get on you nerve. I have had a few do that to me too.
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
28 Mar 07
I don't see a reason for it myself. i have not had this happen to me as of yet but I am sure it will. There are pleanty of ways to get the word out about something. If it is that important why not start a discussion and post a link. I have seen people do this before on here. We all hate spam so why do it to each other?
@nicolec (2673)
• United States
28 Mar 07
Yes that's what i said, start a discussion. You'll probably get to more people that way.
@Eskimo (2317)
28 Mar 07
This hasn't happened to me yet, I have had some private messages from friends for legitimate reasons. MyLot doesn't allow referral links to be part of a discussion, and recommends that they are sent by Private Message, but ONLY after being asked to by a member. Unsolicited referral links should not be sent. You have the option of removing them from your list of friends which will stop them from sending Private Messages, or you can report them to MyLot (or both). In any case I wouldn't respond to any more of their discussions.
@nicolec (2673)
• United States
28 Mar 07
Out of curiosity, where does it say that MYlot does not allow referral links? I've seen people say that, but I don't know where it is written in mylot's rules.
@natmes (19)
• Kenya
28 Mar 07
I agree with you that these kind of people should be extradicted,in a loose sense,from the My lot community because we are here not to start encouraging people to go to other different sites and send malware to your friends. Its totally unfair and I believe that My Lot management should step up to the plate and keep a keen eye on such people.Their accounts should even be closed. I believe this will make guys of this calibre to steer away from such behaviour.
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@nicolec (2673)
• United States
28 Mar 07
I agree. there is a reason why there are interests such 'make extra money'. Go post your links there is a discussion. IF I choose to make extra money, I will come look for it. But don't come after me.
@crazynurse (7489)
• United States
28 Mar 07
Let me put a twist on this that I don't think you have considered. I am the person whom maries (post 4 on this discussion) is talking about. I am her myLot friend and I did message her about a new site that I had discovered. Rather than view this only as spam, do try to see that I did this in a different spirit. Just as I would call a 'real life' friend about an incredible sale on baby clothes, and tell her when/where/how, I contacted my myLot friends about what I thought was a good deal. It was not meant as spam, rather as a favor if you will. I assumed that, like me, one of her reasons for being here was to make a little bit of money while enjoying chatting with friends. Thankfully, she must have realized that I didn't mean any harm and didn't delete me! Sometimes, the person who sends what you deem spam, is doing it in the spirit of friendship. (at least that was my case when I messaged my closest myLot friends) Just wanted to throw out my reasons for doing something similar to what you describe. (I didn't ask for the friendship and then send messages, I was already friends with the people to whom I sent messages) Thanks for letting me explain a different viewpoint!
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@nicolec (2673)
• United States
28 Mar 07
Yes, crazy, we understand when you message your 'closest mylot friends'. If someone I have built a repoire on here with sent me a site to check out, I just might do that. But we are talking about the people you add as friends and then an hour later sends you all these sites. He didn't want to be my 'friend' on here, he only wants to make money off of me. so I understand your side, but this is a little different.
• United States
28 Mar 07
Within the past week, I've had two people request to add me as friend. I checked out their profile and they seemed alright so I added them. Well, within a few hours of adding them, they decided to send me long spam messages about how I can sign up on all of these different sites to start making income online. So, I deleted the messages and deleted them. I'm not in the mood to be spammed or try out a bunch of crappy websites that these people are sending me. Not my thing.
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@nicolec (2673)
• United States
28 Mar 07
Yes, exactly! It's like within a few hours. It's not some one I have been on here with for a few weeks. I too can't be bothered.
@inked4life (4227)
• United States
27 Mar 07
This has only happened to me once. No sooner had I accepted the perosn as a friend than they hit me with 3 messages promoting their affiliate programs. I deleted the user immediately....to me, it's just unacceptable. I don't add friends so that I can be spammed, I get enough of that in my regular mail.
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@nicolec (2673)
• United States
27 Mar 07
So is that all I have to do? Spam you and then I get deleted from your friends list? Yeesh, I didn't realize it was that easy!!! Ha ha. But I do agree, who needs spam from friends when you get enough from strangers.
• China
28 Mar 07
Such a thing hasn't happened to me. I do have several friends here, and one of them sent me messages, but not for joining their sites or try to get me as their referral in other site. This friend just gave me some advice on how to earn more in mylot. It sounds good. I have tried it and found it work. This kind of friend can be named friend cause they want to help you, not scam. As to your experience, I advise you not to pay attention to them. You have your own definite aim, and you can judge good from bad by yourself.
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@happymommy3 (2013)
• United States
28 Mar 07
Oh yes, this has happened to me a couple of times already. They've only done it once so I haven't deleted them just yet, thought about giving them a chance, so if they keep doing it I will delete them.
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@badkat83 (1621)
• United States
28 Mar 07
yes i have had this happen recently. i deleted them right away too. they just want to make money.
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@villageanne (8554)
• United States
28 Mar 07
I hate to be spamed. I refuse to even aswer the email if I am spamed. On gather, I have quit reading my email all together because of spam. I did not join mylot to be spamed.
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@MrNiceGuy (4147)
• United States
28 Mar 07
I do not accept friend requests any more for this very reason. I was spammed by a friend a day after I approved them and I immediately deleted the message and them as a friend. I think its awful that people try to take advantage of mylots messaging and the friend system.
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• Philippines
28 Mar 07
There were two who did that to me. But I just let it go. The truth is, until this time, the only use of the net for me is mylot. I only do my lot everyday and I switch to card games when mylot gets to be so slow. As for the one who sent me that message, it seems that he/she has been gone from my mylot life. I haven't heard from him/her from then onwards. It could be that they request that we take them as friends just so as they can do just that, have referrals for their site. It kind of appears to me now that they are earning much higher over there than here. However, I stayed in mylot because I enjoy doing this postings everyday with people who make some sense communicating with.
@aprilsong (1886)
• China
28 Mar 07
Fortunately,i have never met such a friend untill now. Yes,in choosing a friend,we should be careful. A true friend should be the one who can share joys and sads with you,the one who can answer your questions,give you advice.If a person contact you just want to meet his or her needs,he or she is not true friend. I have met some bad guys in chatroom. As soon as you talk with him, he asked you for pics,cam to cam talks.... Well, in my opinion, this kind of men are searching for a lover rather than a friend. At this time,i will leave him away.
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@vanities (11376)
• Davao, Philippines
28 Mar 07
inviting you some site to visit in especially if we can make money out of it ..i dont consider it as a spam...jsut trying their luck maybe to gain more referrals..besides that thing is i considered spamming...specially those nonsense things...