Would you be annoyed if this happened to you??

Ireland
March 28, 2007 11:26am CST
I just received a request from somebody who wanted to join my list of friends. I checked their profile and their discussions seemed to be ok so I accepted them. Within seconds, she sent me a message with a dozen or more links to money making sites and asked me to join all of them. She joined myLot four weeks ago and she has 490 friends on her list. I am guessing that she is asking everybody to be her friend so that she can send spam to the in pms. I sent her a message to say I wasn't interested and that I had deleted her from my list of friends. Would you also do this or what would you have done?
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170 responses
• United States
28 Mar 07
You did a post. I'm so glad. I rated you + for it. Now, back to the question. I would have done exactly what you did my dear. She was just looking to make money off you be adding you as a referrel for these links. Not looking for friendship. We don't need takers for friends. I commend you for your correct actions. Have a blessed day my friend, M&M
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• Ireland
28 Mar 07
Yes, at last I made a post. I can't usually think of anything to post while I am at my pc, and when I do think of something, I have usually forgotten about it by the time I get to post it. Must be old age...lol. Thanks for the support margie, you are a very good friend. A + for you too.
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@irisheyes (4370)
• United States
28 Mar 07
Yes, that would annoy me. It would annoy me very much. When I get a friend request about the ony thing I check out religiously is how many friends they have. When the number starts to hover around 500, I don't accept the request. I can't see how anybody with that many friends can posibly reciprocate on the discussions. Getting referrals is another of their tricks. Sometimes, they are also serial posters who clog up my friends discussion area to the point where I can't even get to the other discussions my friends have started. I really like having a variety of friends in different age groups from different countries BUT I don't want friends with an agenda and it seems to me that people with hundreds and hundreds of friends already ALWAYS have an agenda.
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• Ireland
28 Mar 07
I didn't think of checking the number of friends she has. Thanks for the advice and I will be sure to do that in future.
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@irisheyes (4370)
• United States
28 Mar 07
Just wanted to add that I think deleting them was the right thing to do.
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• United States
28 Mar 07
I would work that delete button so fast it would send smoke off the keyboard. I tire of people requesting to be on my friend's list and they end up sending links to me. Bye bye baby!
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• Ireland
28 Mar 07
Oh that is so funny. The smoke wasn't coming from my keyboard, I think it was coming from my nostrils...lol. I will live and learn, and thanks for the advice.
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@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
28 Mar 07
I would have done the same thing! To me thats just not right really...I mean its one thing to PM you saying "hey thanks for the add, would you be interested in joining other programs?" or somehting along those lines but to just spam you like that isnt right IMO
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• Ireland
28 Mar 07
She's about the third one I received who sent me spam, but the others had the graciousness to wait a few days. Thanks for responding.
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@pitstop (12969)
• India
28 Mar 07
I would have done that and also warned her that I would report her to MyLot for spamming - just to scare her. I'm sure some of her discussions/responses are spam too. I can imagine how many of her 500 odd friends she has in her downline now!! God help them!!
• Ireland
28 Mar 07
I didn't bother to check on her responses. I was just so annoyed that I wanted to vent. I suppose according as she is being deleted from her friends, she is already makeing new requests. These people can be very devious. I don't think they want to work, they just want referrals to do the earning for them.
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@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
28 Mar 07
I know what you mean, Alexandria. When I was just a newbie, I kept accepting friends who wish to be on my list. Within the minures, they will either PM me or put their links on my profile through the comment section. Its really annoying. Being at mylot for 2 months now, I began to be choosy whom to accept as my friends. I will always wait for 2 to 3 days to check if they are active or not. I will also browse through their interests and discussions started. When I see that no activities happened within the duration time, I will deny them without hesitation. You're not alone. A lot of the members are receiving this kind of spammers too.
• Ireland
28 Mar 07
Thanks charms. It's good to know that I am not alone. I never liked to refuse a request from somebody to join my list of friends, for fear of hurting their feelings. However, from now on I will heed your advice and be more selective.
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@kareng (53375)
• United States
28 Mar 07
I would be turned off by that too. It could be considered abuse of the program here too.
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• Ireland
28 Mar 07
Thanks kareng and thank you for choosing me to be your friend.
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@Evacuee (1147)
28 Mar 07
Yup! I would be very annoyed at being propositioned in this way....what a 'friend'...!! I think she/he was only trying to cash in as a previous poster has said. I have 44 friends and I try to watch the discussions they have started and contribute as much as I can but I have never sent a message such as this and because I screen my friends I have never had a message like this from any of them. We should dump them and do as you have and post the problem on here.....name and shame...!! Or is that toooo aggressive?
• Ireland
28 Mar 07
Thank you Evacuee. I didn't name and shame them as myLot might delete the topic. If anybody wants the name of the person, they are quite welcome to send me a pm and I will certainly oblige them.
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• United States
28 Mar 07
I had this happen to me! I didn't even send a message to the person I just went and deleted them. If they are going to be so rude as to spam me right off I don't think I owe them a message.
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• Ireland
28 Mar 07
You are right. Maybe I shouldn't have bothered to send a message but I couldn't help letting her know what I thought of her. I don't think I will bother sending messages if it happens again.
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@ame888 (12)
• Malaysia
29 Mar 07
Yes I would be annoyed if someone did this to me as they shouldn't use MyLot to earn Referals. There are many other ways to obtain refereals on the Internet and she could have tried all those options. Mylot is a place for discussion and sharing our thoughts it shouldn't be abused by selfish thoughts and desires such as making money alone. She has shown that she will not be a good friend by sending SPAM or at least she should ask permission before sending you these messages. I would have done the same thing that you did.
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• Ireland
31 Mar 07
Yes, I agree. She should have asked first if I would be interested in joining other sites and I could have told her I wouldn't, and then saved her the bother of sending me the spam. That way she would still have been on my list of friends. Thanks for resonding and I have given you a plus rating.
• United States
29 Mar 07
Well i have a personal criteria for the people that i accept as friends. I think the most important of them all is if they have responded to any of my disucssions. Then i also look at the discussions they have started. I want to make sure i add quality people to my list. I also look for positive people. After all i don't want to talk to someone who hates the world. I would have completly and totally done what you did though. I mean deleting her was the right thing to do.
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• Ireland
31 Mar 07
I never thought to check to see if she responded to any of my discussions, but then I don't post very many. I should however, checked to see how she responded to other peoples topics. Ah well, that is another lesson for me. Thanks for responding and I have given you a plus rating.
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• United States
31 Mar 07
yeah that would have annoyed me too. I would have done the same thing if that happened to me. She should stop bothering people with other sites, obviously you found a good one right here!
• Ireland
31 Mar 07
I wouldn't have minded her sending me a list of referrals but not within seconds of me accepting her as a friend. Not that I want links as I am happy enough here on myLot and I haven't got the time to get involved with other sites.
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
i'll do the same way that you did too..
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• Ireland
31 Mar 07
Thanks startwins and I have rated you a plus for your response.
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@nic24uk (571)
31 Mar 07
thats just cheeky. i think you did the right thing i would have deffo done the same good on you.
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• Ireland
31 Mar 07
Yes, I also thought it was rather cheeky and she certainly should have had the courtesy to ask me first if I was interested. Thanks for responding.
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@dana234 (2114)
• Spain
28 Mar 07
This has happened to me twice. The first time somebody requested to be on my friends list, I accepted the person, because the profile page seemed ok, even though we didn´t have any interests in common. She never bothered to answer any of my posts (well, everyone to their own) but I answered some of hers. After a couple of weeks she send me a private message trying to get me to join her as one of her referrals of an IT scam. I didn´t answer, because I was too annoyed and just deleted her. The second time it was more or less the same story. This time I send a pm asking if she/he had already been paid by the site which they thought I would really want to join and I´m still waiting for an answer.
• Ireland
29 Mar 07
Good for you dana. I think if I was to give somebody my referral link, I would be doing all I could to help them an not ignore them when they ask a question. You did the right thing in deleting her. Thanks for sharing that with me and I have given you a plus rating.
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• Australia
29 Mar 07
You certainly did the right thing. When I receive a friend request, I check their profile, and check their discussions and a few responses. Even before that, I check the number of friends they have and whether or not they have website referrals on their profile. If they have hundreds of friends, I don't usually look further. I am on a monthly download limit, so I have to be careful of the number of pages I open. Since I always check discussions my friends have started before doing anything else, I can't have too many friends on my list, so I need to have friends whose discussions are ones I want to enter. I do not believe people can keep up with hundreds of friends.
• Ireland
31 Mar 07
I find it very difficult to keep up with the discussions that my friends have started and I just cannot understand when somebody with over 400 friends will still request more friends to join their list. Well, at least I understand now why they are doing it. It is just to get referrals. Thanks for responding cloudwatcher.
• United States
29 Mar 07
I would have done exactly what you did and I would leave messages for my real friends to watch out for this person.I don't know if this person is breaking any of the mylot rules, if they are, I would report them to mylot too.
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• Ireland
31 Mar 07
I know that my reals friends wouldn't stand for this either as you can see by all the responses. I don't think she is breaking the rules but it would have been nice if she had asked me first if I was interested in joining any other sites. I might then have told her that she could send me the list and I would have a look at them, though I doubt that I would have joined, as I am not interested in any other sites.
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@skydancer (2101)
• United States
29 Mar 07
I tend to be on the taciturn side when dealing with things like this, so I probably would have just deleted them from my list of friends if I couldn't tolerate their behavior, but wouldn't have told them personally that I did this - but rather let them find out on their own if it meant that much to them. However, I do not blame you or anyone else for reacting the way that you did. Sounds like she's almost like a telemarketer with her calling list.
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• Ireland
31 Mar 07
You hit the nail on the head skydancer. A telemarketer is exactly what she seems like. Thanks for responding and a + for you also.
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• China
29 Mar 07
You've done well. I haven't met such a person who just tries to persuade me to join other sites. Her aim is to make you the referral to her, that's viperous. You are right to delete her from your friend list. Never mind about that, cause that kind of people exist everywhere. It's really bother you to think of them, so just pay no attention to her and do what you should do. I can see you are a person with judgment ability. Use your mind to evaluate what's right and what's wrong.
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• Ireland
31 Mar 07
Thank you for your nice response chenxiaoyue. It is a good feeling to know that others will not tolerate spammers either.
• China
29 Mar 07
I think I will be very annoyed. I don't know the reason others want to join the list of friend. However, as to me, I like the one who have the same taste with mine. Maybe that is a little hard, but at least we have somedthing in common. Of course, I also like the one whose post i appreciate very much. Do you think so?
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• Ireland
31 Mar 07
Yes freshrainer, I agree with you and thanks for responding. I have given you a plus rating also.
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