Marriage and the patriarchy of the last name custom

United States
March 28, 2007 10:44pm CST
How do you feel about the custom of women taking on their husband's last name? If you think it's necessary, why? If not, why? I won't tell you what I think because I'd rather not have any do-gooders taking it upon themselves to change my mind or "help me see the light."
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@aso322 (75)
• United States
29 Mar 07
I don't see the problem with going either way. Some women like to do things the traditional way, others don't. For me, I will 100% take my husband's last name (unless it is something REALLY awful and embarrassing--which I highly doubt will happen). To me, it's just one more thing to bring us together and make our bond stronger after marriage. Also, it helps that I have a hyphenated last name (one my mom's, one my dad's--both which are pretty long) that drives me insane and that I can't wait to get rid of.
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• United States
29 Mar 07
Was their choice to give you both last names a cultural issue or just purely preferential? Just curious.
@aso322 (75)
• United States
29 Mar 07
I'm not entirely sure, to be honest. I have four younger brothers, and none of their names are hyphenated. They all go by my dad's last name. I would guess it had something to do with making it an easy transition for me. I'll try to make this story as short as possible. I was born with my biological dad's last name. When my mom left him (they were never married), my legal last name was her surname. At the age of 5 is when my "dad" (I consider him my real dad) came in, married my mom, and adopted me. They legally added his surname to mine. Anyway, that's my assumption!
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@Kaeli72 (1230)
• United States
29 Mar 07
This custom stemms waaaaaaaaay back to Adam and Eve (well, not really but bare with me here) and it's still alive today. In the bible, the men gets all the land, rights of the first born and jobs in the Levitcal priesthood. Why? because it's the husband who carries on family name.
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• United States
29 Mar 07
So how do you feel about that? I'm looking for opinions.
@coolseeds (3925)
• United States
29 Mar 07
Not in today's society. They women get the 1st born and the men have to pay.
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@coolseeds (3925)
• United States
29 Mar 07
I think it would be easier to trace your heritage if children had both mother's and father's last name. =) That is as close as I can get to this topic without getting some negs. LOL.
• United States
29 Mar 07
Lol. You have a good point, and some cultures give equal precedence to matriarchy and patriarchy. But, to my knowledge, they are few and far between.
• United States
29 Mar 07
Now a days, because of business, sometimes it is just easier to keep your madien name
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@surudgr8 (18)
• India
29 Mar 07
Well first of all this is an excellent topic . I wont agree with the topic, upto some extent this is happening, but not everywhere. Ya there can be some misunderstaing raised when such situation occurs.. This only depends on the person how he is percepting.. Everyone wants to live there life with their own way.. Cannt suppress anyone's feeling. So the Thing has to be there.. Ane When there problem occurs ,related persons have to discuss over it.. Coz there is no meaning 0f happines without backing... ok...thank u... lacurandera...