Am i stupid?

its the other way around in my case. my boyfriend doesnt like me drinking which i can understand why as i drink to extent. i only drink in nightclubs and nowhere else. i dont drink much now i used to drink once every week but now i have curbed it to once every 3 months which is better for me

wow ur so protective to your boyfriend. ders something wrong if ur bf drink??/

don't be so hard at him. i mean, should you really prohibit him even if he is with you? just go ahead and let him be. the more you become strict the more he will like to drink without your approval.

asking such question is making people confuse ...and the persons who make confusions in people's mind are not stupid but very smart...i guess you what i want to say here....telling boyfriend to not to drink is just a way of thinking and then arguing is just a reaction....if you want to clever rather than being smart i think you should please give him chance to understand you ....arguing ends with no results always ...it will only increase your egos and which will be fake for time being...so dont argue just love him .......make him understand the things........wish you best luck and ........ ..............god bless you both cheers

I dont think thats wrong. i dont like being with my girlfriend when she drinks. i prefer her to be herself! i imply that i dont like it but i dont make her stop. you should explain to your boyfriend why you feel this way. :)

No your not stupid its only a natural reaction from you because you love your boyfriend and you cared for him. But maybe stop arguing with him you must control your self not to get mad at him only you can do is to give him some advise for whats your knowledge about drinking too much. And if he doesn't listen to you it his lost not yours, his the one might get sick and he will not gonna blame you because you remind him all the time.

If he is a grown person, then I don't think you should interfere with his drinking. The only way it should be a problem is if he starts getting addicted to it.

Why would that be stupid? It is against your wishes and your wishes matter. However, so do his and either you will come to an agreement on this or you won't. Just ask yourself this: if we continue and start talking about marriage, what will be the outcome of this relationship? Will we always differ on his drinking?

Well you aren;t stupid at all....yyou know what do we say....one who suffers or one who has seen is the only one who knows how much it weighs to bear it!!! Can say that becuase have seen it all in my own life.... but make sure you dun turn out the things bitter...instead of rather being roudy with him, explain him with affection and romance, you may divert his attention with a little of flirt!!! What say--- atleast when you making a drunk far from his foremost loved thing--the glass then give him a compensation atleast...by bringing yourself clsoer ..... how would it be?? and I guess when he wouldn;t be drunk even you would not be minding if he comes closer the....right ?

Hallo. Certainly it is not nice to see him drunk. If you where drinking together it would be different, but the outlook and behaviour of a drunk person when you are sober is not really the best. Just try to be carefull and distinguish if he is really drinking to much or just occasionally. In this last case, I think you shouldn't force him to stop it, sometimes restrictions causes the opposite effect that they aim to. Another important think is : the behaviour of a person after drinking is strictly related to the person. There's not simply a pattern of behaviour that appears if one drinks. If a person gets violent it is because there is already some seed of violence in this person. If one gets easily into depression it is also related to personal trends that are already there from before, The alchool is just making come up things that wouldn't normally, but it still reveal something. What I mean is that what your boyfriend necomes with drinking might reveal you something more about him. In the case he was really drinking too much, I think you are definitely right to forbid him

Well u r not wrong at all in telling him that u dont like him drinking in front of u.They sure do behave very different when they r drunk.But just prohibiting that when u r around is that enough!!

You're not wrong. It just so happens that you don't like drinking and you don't want your loved ones to drink too. Maybe you're traumatized with your earlier experiences. So if he really can't stop himself for drinking, then maybe you should just let him go. For the sake of both of you. And that's the tricky part. Because if you cannot bear to lose him, then you'll have to do some adjustments on your part. Like allow him to drink moderately on special occassions. If you really think that this relationship deserves thw work and sacrifice, then by all means, fight for it. Before you two get together, is he already a drinker? If he is, then it'll be like changing him. I think you two can work it out if you open up and tell him what's on your mind and how you're not just worried for yourself but you're worried for him too. Good luck, and I wish you two can really work it out.

not at all that means you really care about him! next time when he argue with you, tell him how much you love him and i think he will understand you

You aren't stupid. It's just that your are worrying about his health. You see, everyone knows that drinking too much is bad for the health. Well, not everyone becomes so wild and dangerous when they get drunk. There are people that when they get drunk, they are just quiet. I think you should ask his friends if he's violent when he's drunk. As for him, he has to respect your likings. He should not take it so seriously. If he really loves you, he'll follow for he knows and understands what you feel. If he doesn't you'll just have an argument. It's better to leave the relationship if it's like that.

Typically, men have huge egos. This means that they do not like to be restrained, be you their dearest or not. I agree that excessive drinking is not good, but surely a reasonable amount is... reasonable?

Yes

You aren't wrong, not at all. It's all about personal preference. You don't like to be around people who drink, and he can either respect your wishes, or leave the relationship. On that note though, it's still up to him wether he drinks or not, and you can't force him to stop. tell him your views, and be strict with them. Yelling and screaming at him won't do you any good in the long run.

Well, i do not think you are stupid. It's just that you care for your boyfriend, which is a good thing. :) In my case, I get mad whenever I see my boyfriend smoking. We're kinda just the same... hehehe.