How do you feel about open relationships

United States
March 29, 2007 9:59am CST
Is it still ok after the wedding? What should be aloud,should there be limits? What if one of the two is not ok with the person the other one chose
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4 responses
• United States
29 Mar 07
Well in my opinion the feelings of an open relationship should be discussed before marriage. And if one of the persons involved in the relationship or marriage does not like the idea of multiple partners, then it should not happen. And if the idea of monogamy is to complicated, marriage should not even be considered, or divorce should be considered if the marriage already happened. Now if both people involved don't care about the idea of multiple partner's, I would think the best guide line would be to keep the affairs to yourselves, and don't bring home cliff notes about how your other lover rocked your world. Because no matter how strong a relationship is, people do get tired of competing, and jealousy will always settle in.
• United States
29 Mar 07
so what if they wanted toall join together.
• United States
30 Mar 07
Then if all parties involved what a free for all, simply enjoy it and don't stress. Just don't forget the pleasure of your significant other, and have a blast.
30 Mar 07
I personally would not go in to a relationship like this. But each to their own. I guess as long as both parties were happy with this arrangement it would be fine. But as long as one of them becomes distressed or unhappy it would be time to reassess the situation.
• United States
29 Mar 07
For me a open relationship would never work. If I love someone I do so with all my heart and I am committed to that person. I need to know they feel the same way and have the same commitment to the relationship that I do. I guess if both parties were agreeable and the ground rules were laid down at the beginning of the relationship so there were no surprises then maybe it would work. I doubt it but maybe. Human nature is such, for the most part, that we need to feel secure and safe with those we love and in an open relationship I just don't see that happening. Just my 2 cents :)
@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
29 Mar 07
I don't understand why you would want to get married if you want an open relationship, marriage is all about two people in love....