How do you lift yourself when you feel down?

@ESKARENA1 (18299)
March 29, 2007 3:23pm CST
Lets face it, non of us are happy all the time. What do you do to lift yourself when the blues hit you?
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@musicman6 (2371)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I don't know,I must be different or something, but a lot of my friends always ask me,"why do you listen to that blues music? doesn't it make you feel worse?" But,in all actuality, when I'm feeling down and dejected,I found that when I listen to "blues" music,I actually feel better,it lifts me up,and makes things brighter and sunnier for me! Whenever I need a lift, I just listen to my favorite blues music,and it just opens up a new world for me! And I don't know why,and I wonder if anybody else is like that out here!
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
30 Mar 07
I suppose thats what the blues is for. However, it doesnt work for me. For me, the loudest up and happy music is the only stuff i can listen to when im at the bottom blessed be
@musicman6 (2371)
• United States
4 Apr 07
This is true, I know several people that would rather listen to faster music , to pick themselves up!
@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
29 Mar 07
One of the things is I'm a great believer in "pampering" myself just a tad--I got this idea from the book by Julia Cameron "The Artist"s Way"--you don't necessarily have to be an "artist" to appreciate this book either...she suggests nurturing the "artistic child' within...get some little do-dah that might perk you up, and it doesn't necessarily have to be something expensive either...maybe a package of a favorite scent of incense..Don't laugh--I am an artist, and have painted in oils, acrylics, and watercolors....but one day as a little sily treat for myself I got a box of crayons and not just any box--you see, when I was a kid...and it was time to get ready for the new school year, my mom would take me to get my school supplies...my biggest treasure was that box of 64 Crayola crayons--thought I was in heaven...Well some months ago, I did myself one better...I got a box of not 64 crayons but 96!!!--Hey I am at age 51 getting crayons...but hey...beleive it or not I do use them. Another nice way to pamper oneself....get some nice candles...either those glade scented types, or even votive size...place them all around each corner of the tub...put one on the sink...top of the toilet tank...burn some incense...fill the tub fairly hot with nice bubble bath stuff...turn off the lights and be transformed to a time of tranquilty and peace..it really is great and a real soothing balm and lifter--at least I think so.
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
30 Mar 07
everything you say sounds so beautiful, just reading it acts like therapy to me blessed be and a big thank you
@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Glad you like you liked my ideas....Sometimes its great to make a list of things that one does to nurture oneself...Another great thing I've done is a "Pat Yourself on The Back List"--make a list of all the things you are proud of doing...from the grandiose to the simplistically small...some suggestions from my own list...The first time one of my photos was published, having one of my photos that appeared on the cover of a magazine later cited as receiving the Gold Award for best magazine cover of the year...learning computers! --that since I'm from the typewriter generation----LOL---learning a new recipe... Maybe you can appreciate this...since you do have depression ...I'm an "overcomer" of agoraphobia...so I give myself a pat on the back whenever I do something that leads one more step to overcoming this condtion...like travelling on the subway again...okay it's only been one stop so far...but I hadn't traveled in over fifteen years..or staying out longer..or going to the shopping mall...etc etc... I think people with either depression or anxiety problems...just getting out of bed can be a major accomplishment!--LOL--sounds odd, but people who don't suffer from depression or anxiety don't understand what this means. Another pat on the back can be starting any new venture...even if it means reading new books...I've been immersing myself with self-empowerment books...positive books lately If you're really interested...I've been listening to Lucinda Bassett's "Attacking Anxiety and Depression" tapes--they're really good and it can be empowering in itself listening to them, since you begin to understand that you're NOT alone with this problem.. Check the website out http://www.stresscenter.com
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@patrice7 (1192)
• United States
31 Mar 07
yeah i know and i like your topic!. i am usually plagued with days of lonliness and worthlesness and i have a hard time lifting myself up. i really hate this days because i have to exert effort to fight and drive the blues away. what has become effective is that i talk to my family and be with them, to get out of my room catch some fresh air and talk to the people i love. sometimes i read books too but then again i cannot concentrate much so i just go out and go to my family or friends.
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
31 Mar 07
Thank you for your lovely response. I think we all have days like this. I think it is fascinating to see how many different ways we deal with days like this blessed be
• Singapore
30 Mar 07
If you really want to, just SMILE. Try it the next time you feel unhappy. This easy trick really works. Just force a SMILE and you will find that you are not feeling so blue after all. ;-)
@ESKARENA1 (18299)
30 Mar 07
yes smiling really does work, even when your feeling down. It helps so much
30 Mar 07
Sometimes I take a long walk with one of the dogs. Sometimes Mother Nature is the greatest healer of them all. I'll go to the woods and find a log to sit on. Then I will put out there what is bothering me and wait. Sometimes a deer will come into view sometimes it is a bird. The approaching of the deer is very soothing, her gentle nature reaches deep within. I start to watch her and she gently lifts my mood. Nature is a great restorer if you will just let her.
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
30 Mar 07
The kids, dog and I just spending time together  - When i get down I will often go out into the countryside around my home with the kids and enjoy just being there
yes my friend, you and i share a love of the country side which can only help anyone in the slough of despond. Blessed be
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
30 Mar 07
Well Eskaren I used to get in the Car and drive then stop of somewhere quiet and think about things The Drive used to lift a bit and then I would go back home and bury myself working on the Computer. Now I take Gissi for a walk as I now live in an area where the Air is clean and lovely
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
30 Mar 07
i agree my friend, clean air makes a lot of difference, particularly if you can get away from crowds of people too blessed be
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@beaniegdi (1966)
29 Mar 07
It can be hard sometimes if you feel down to get back up again. Especially if it becomes clinical depression and if so then you may need some medication to help lift the bad feelings. Otherwise it can help to get enough sleep, eat a good balanced diet, not junk food, take a good multi vitamin and mineral supplement. Take excersise every day as this can really help lift a down mood as excersise causes the body to be flooded with natural feel good hormones called endorphines. Watch a funny film as laughter lifts the spirits, give thanks for all you have rather than dwell on what you don't have - develop and attitude of gratitude. Try just smiling as the smile can trigger a positive response in your body so rather than the smile following a happy feeling, the happy feeling can be caused by smiling. Try it as it does work, honest. Talk to a friend or indulge yourself in your favourite hobby. Listen to favourite music and if possible dance as this lifts a blue mood as well. Plan your next holiday or night out, have things to look forward to. Don't dwell on things that have upset you, let the past go, don't live too much in the future and try to do something you love everyday. It is also possible to actually enjoy being down and dwelling on the bad stuff, if you find you are doing that then try to break this habit, remind yourself it is OK to feel happy and you deserve to feel good everyday.
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
29 Mar 07
wow that all makes perfect sense to me. You are so right when we fall in to the slough of despond we can get a kind of pleasure out of it, glowing with pleasure at our own misfortune, perceived or otherwise blessed be
@kastor003 (379)
• India
29 Mar 07
when i am down i try to sit and think what is my problem and try to make my self feel good by thinking about my past things which had been good for me like my past achievements and try to revoke that energy again in me to come out of blue and complete the task ahead
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
29 Mar 07
i think that is near to what i do, but im a worrier, so i tend to sit and think and ponder deeply blesssed be
@peaches20 (148)
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
i face it with deep introspection within myself.
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
29 Mar 07
thank you for your response. I wish i had your strength of being, when i look too close inside i can get depressed blessed be
@claui_me (56)
• Philippines
30 Mar 07
Sometimes I go out with my friends and talk things out with them. or when Im alone, I try to cheer myself up by thinking of positive things. Tell myself that tommorow will be a better day.
@taurean (171)
• United States
30 Mar 07
When i feel low for some time i'll shut myself and sleep a lot.Then I givemyself a good boost up lecture or try to share with someone who possibly would say something to encourage.And i'll attck life back with full enthusiasm and vengenance, and everything becomes normal..
@Galena (9123)
30 Mar 07
I curl up with my feather boa and Watch The Rocky Horror Picture Show. cheers me up every time, I'll soon be dancing about and singing.