Is it ok to still talk to your ex's once you are married?

United States
March 29, 2007 6:22pm CST
I have a question burning a hole in my mind. Is it ok to still talk to and be friends with your exs once you are married? These are people who you had a relationship with, probably slept with, and had memories with, some good and some bad. Obviously, it didn't work or the relationship would have progressed. Here is another question; what do you think of an ex who suddenly contacts you after you are married, out of blue? Hasn't talked to you in awhile?
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• Philippines
30 Mar 07
I agree with the 1st post. I don't think its ok to constantly talk with you ex. There are feelings involve maybe not to you but to the other person. Being cordial is ok, but to constantly open the line of communication is a no no. Constant communication will open up past feelings for the person. And you will tend to talk about your past when you are still together. What might have, what could have, what if's. So its a definite no to be constantly talking with your ex.
• United States
30 Mar 07
Thank you, I do agree with that. What do you think are the reasons an old flame would suddenly drop you an email once you are married? Jealousy? The I can't have you anymore phase? Nosy?
• Philippines
30 Mar 07
Honestly, I did this once to my ex gf when she got married. I would call her up in the office every once in a while when I was still single of course. I was hoping to hear from her that she made a mistake and wants me back. Because I regretted at that time of letting her go. Fortunately for me, I came to my senses and realize that its time to move on. Let the past be in the past. For your ex maybe he too may have a sense of lost when you got married. Or just curiouse who replace him in your heart. I too was curious to see the guy that replace me in my ex heart and affection.
• United States
4 Apr 07
Wow, that is a really good point you made in your response. I hadn't thought of it that way before. I guess as humans, we are just really curious creatures.
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• United States
29 Mar 07
I dont think its a good idea. It often cauases problems and makes the new relationship be subject to stress. Its hard to go from lover to friend and then not be drawn back into lover. It also can cause the temptation to cheat and it can cause false hope for some because they still think that they have hope of getting this person back. I personaly feel that x.s should be x.s and allow the new relationship a serious chance without jealousy as well as interference.