does your other half ever make jokes at your expense?
@easymoney75503 (1702)
United States
March 29, 2007 9:03pm CST
my husband has a dry sense of humor. he is always saying stuff that drives me nuts. he moos at me, tells me to put the spare tire back in the truck he made need it, or talks about how my cooking can kill a person. so on and so on. i know he doesnt mean it but sometimes i get so sick of hearing it. i mean this is a pic of me would you call me a cow? it is just his way of playing. does your other half make jokes or say things that drives you nuts?
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@ladyluna (7004)
• United States
30 Mar 07
Hi Easymoney75503,
I'm not privy to the context of how the comments are made. Or if you volley these types of jibes with him. However, I would say that the few examples you've listed cross the line to cruel.
My husband does not degrade me, even in jest. But, if he did I would definitely open a reasoned dialogue with him about my perception that the comments are cruel. And ask him to be more conscious of my feelings.
Having said that, hubby and I joke and play regularly. Laughter is the best medicine. But, when one partner is laughing and the other is hurting, they are no longer in the arena of fun and play. Our rule is: never utter a word that is disprespectul of the other in anyone else's presence. It works for us!
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@easymoney75503 (1702)
• United States
30 Mar 07
well i play too. i call him monkey boy and stuff liek that. he is really hairy. we do it just playing. sometimes it just bugs me though. i have to admit i have gain a few pounds since this pick too. but i have had kids too. i think i am 2 sizes bigger now but still i dont see myself as a cow. he loves me and he doesnt do it to be mean it is his way of playing. i just wondered if others do stuff like this. people always give us the strangest looks when we play. we really do love each other though.
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@anya11111 (169)
• India
30 Mar 07
make him realize one way or the other what he cannot do and only you can! make him do the chores and cook for a couple of days and he will realize!
it is synicism, not humour-make him get rid of it and both of you will be happier.
maybe he has been brought up in a male dominated family where males are always right!
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I know it isn't funny when you are the one who is being picked at or on and after a while I am very sure it is getting old. My other half don't pick at me like that because he knows I am very sensitive to those types of things. I have been teased and bullied alot in life and there was no reason for it at all and now that I have grown older, it gave me a complex about myself. I do not think you are a cow in that picture at all. I think he just likes to tease and joke with you. Maybe he loves you that much, he likes to tease and pick on you only.
