Do you ever wonder as a parent 'am I doing the right thing?'

@fawcey (928)
Australia
March 29, 2007 10:09pm CST
Do other parents wonder if they are doing the right thing by their child. Some days I wonder if I am doing all I should or am I giving my son the right foods or am I not doing something I should be doing. I hate the thought that what happens later in his life is a result of what or how I do things now. All I want is the best for my son, but I sometimes feel I don't know how to do this. Do other parents go through stages where they feel they are bad parents even when they are trying to do all the right things?
3 responses
@syain1972 (1011)
• Singapore
30 Mar 07
Yes, I do question myself whether I am bringing up my children right. Sometimes, I do wonder if what we thought is good for them may actually be the opposite. I do admit that I push my son a lot so that he can excel academically but then again, is it doing him good? Nobody can answer certain things about parenthood. For me, I just follow my instinct... I sometimes do feel that I am a bad parent but what can I say, I am trying to prepare him for this 'Dog eat Dog' world... Just cannot help it!!
@fawcey (928)
• Australia
31 Mar 07
I agree with trying to prepare them for this 'Dog eat Dog' world. You don't want to be to hard on your kids as they grow up but then you know that the real world is hard. I suppose all I can do is teach him right from wrong and give him all the love and support and then hope I did it right. It is such a hard thing, yet there is no easy answer. Feels good to know though that really all parents question themselves. Thanks for your reply.
@KissThis (3006)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I often wonder if I am teaching or even showing my children the right things in life. I would hate for something I did to cause them grief later in life. Its hard as a parent to know what are the right ways to raise a child but I believe that you should try to put yourself in the childs shoes. Ask yourself if that is how you would have wanted to be treated.
@fawcey (928)
• Australia
30 Mar 07
I often think how would I feel and try to be a good role model. I always tell my son I love him and also that it is okay to cry and have feelings. I felt myself as a child I was not allowed to show different emotions so I try to encourage my son and tell him that feeling are normal and to talk about them. I often think of situations I didn't like as a kid and make sure I don't treat him the way I didn't like as a kid.
@Polly1 (12648)
• United States
30 Mar 07
Welcome to parenthood. I think all parents feel that way sometimes. All you can do is the best you can. Our children do not come with instructions. Good luck and have fun. The grandkids (when they come) are even more fun.
@fawcey (928)
• Australia
30 Mar 07
It is good to know its not just me. Thanks for the goodluck and I do have fun, my son gives me lots of laughs he is a real character. Love him to bits.