He and She about Thom and Carolee

United States
March 29, 2007 10:11pm CST
He cooks, she cleans up. She reads everything, he studies everything. He is tall, she is short. She likes musicals, he likes country. He does the gardening, she knits. She hates going in the car, he hates driving over bridges. He has straight hair, she has freckles. He had siblings, she was an only child. He wanted 2 children, she wanted 6 - they had 4. His parents loved each other, her parents liked each other. She wanted to live in a penthouse, he wanted to live on a farm. He likes warm weather, she likes hot weather. She likes to dance, he likes to walk. He likes to go to the mall, she likes to people watch. He is skinny, she is chubby. She has blonde hair, he has black hair. He smokes, she eats ice cream. She likes to read e-mail, he likes to surf the web. He likes to find stuff on the net, she likes to write a column on the net. She likes to sight see, he likes to swim. He likes NASCAR, she likes Ugly Betty. 2 very different people, that are crazy about each other. Do opposites attract? Oh, yeah! I have been married for almost 42 years. What we have in common far out weigh our differences. We share the same goals. We have the same hopes and dreams. We give each other the space to grow on their own. We do not suffocate each other. We have worked together in the same office 5 days a week. We lived in the same house 24/7 when we moved to Florida. He doesn't have to be sitting next to me. I don't have to watch him do everything. We give each other plenty of space. When he goes out on an errand he always asks me to join him. When I go for the mail in the Golf Cart, I like him by my side. When he is not here, I miss him. When I am away from home, he is lonely. We still get goose bumps when we hug. We believe in God. We love our sons. We love Ireland. We hold hands when we watch fireworks. We like to listen to talk radio. We love to go on cruises. We would love to rent a home in Bermuda. We love to spend money. We laugh at each other's jokes. We like clam sauce and spaghetti. We could do without waiting in lines. We are good for each other. We are good to each other. What makes a relationship work? Respect? Trust? Love? Humor? All of these things. It is a touch, and look. It is feeling your heart skip with joy when your spouse is about to come home. It is seeing a smile on their face when they return. It is the mid morning call to check on your day. It is the pat on your back when you really need it. It is the feeling you will never be a failure in your partner's eyes. It's the way the sun lights them up, from a doorway. It is the fact that you can say anything to them and they will finish your sentence. It is thinking a thought and having them have the same thought. Is everyone that lucky? I hope so. I hope that in each life, we find someone that lets us be ourselves, yet wants us to be their partner. I have been told by some people they are happy to be on their own. They like not having to wait around for someone else to go out when they want to, and to eat when they feel like it. Well, let them write their own story! This is my point of view. And from where I stand it looks pretty good. Am I saying that we have to be paired off? No, not at all. What I am saying is, it makes us feel good when we are pleased and can please others. We are a nation of givers and we like to give our hearts and souls. When we give, we get so much back. More then we ever expected. Every time I gave from my heart, my soul was blessed. Every time my soul sang, my spirit flew. We need to be needed and we need to be loved. Carolee Kaufold my be re-printed with proper credit March 2007
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6 responses
@Polly1 (12651)
• United States
30 Mar 07
How truly wonderful for you and your honey!! It was a joy to read your post. It brought back happy memories. I also had that with my husband, sadly he passed away a year ago. We had almost 27 yrs. with each other. life can be too short, cherish your time with each other and enjoy. God Bless. I can look back and know I was blessed, I was truly loved, that does help with the sorrow.
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
30 Mar 07
That is a fantastic summary of your life with your husband. I really enjoyed reading it and I always enjoy reading your discussion posts. I am myself but I am not whole without out my fiance. I have always had a empty spot in my heart until I met him. We share everything like you and your husband. I surely hope we have a long successful marriage as you guys have. Thanks for posting this!
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@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I have to admit, I am one that has said an advantage to not having a 'mate' is being able to do what I want when I want. This is simply making the most of my situation, in reality I would very much love to have the relationship you and your husband have. I have resolved myself to my life though and pray from time to time that God will send the right person into my life. If not then I know He has other plans for me.
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
30 Mar 07
This sounds so sweet you both sound so good for each other. I liked reading this article. I hope I find a man that is like your this sounds so sweet.
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
30 Mar 07
This sounds so sweet you sounds so good for each other. I liked reading this article. I hope I find a man that is like your this sounds so sweet.
@fpd1955 (2075)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I think you and Thom have one of the most wonderful relationships I have ever read about. It is a pleasure to read your posts. I know I will have so many to look forward to reading in the months, and years to come. They are touching, funny and always bring a smile to my face. God Bless
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