LOVE, HONOR, and OBEY....

Holy Matromony - To love, cherish, and honor. Marriage is a vow made in the sight of God.
@Zo0mZo0m (1357)
United States
March 29, 2007 10:18pm CST
I was raised with strong GODLY values. I believe when a God fearing man marrys a God fearing woman this marriage is ordained by GOD above. The woman will love, cherish, trust, honor, and obey her husband, and treat him as her king. WHY? The bible says, "That when a man finds a wife he finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD." Therefore she will love him in this manner because the man has obtained favor from the LORD. She loves him and treats him as her lord because he loves her like he loves his own body. When he loves, cherish, trust and he also submits to her, the two submit one to another, he also treats her as his QUEEN. Reverencing her, fully respecting her, and esteeming her higher than himself there is nothing that she wouldn't do for him (as long as it is morally correct). When he respects and accepts the fact that she is his help-mate, the better half of him, there is nothing that he will not trust her with. He will trust her with all his heart. And this is why the 2 becomes 1. Be Blessed
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@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
30 Mar 07
I feel the exact same way, this is what marriage should be about. This is what I want my life with my husband to be. People have strayed too far from this ideal. This is why marriages don't work out much any more. They fall in love for the wrong reasons and when they have their fill. They want to divorce and move on to the next person.
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@Zo0mZo0m (1357)
• United States
30 Mar 07
Right On!!!
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@vokey9472 (1489)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I think that God should be in all marriages but if you look at the word obey and how it pertains to marriage in other parts of the world, we are talking the complete and total subjugation of women. What does subjugation mean? Here is the basic definition. Subjugation: 1. to bring under complete control or subjection; conquer; master 2. to make submissive or subservient; to enslave Obey my husband? Not likely.
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@vokey9472 (1489)
• United States
30 Mar 07
Two become one? I read that and I have heard it said over and over again. You will have to forgive me for not being a submissive woman/wife. In the old days, to obey your husband meant just that. You had to obey your husband. Women were property. Your husband could beat you for no other reason than he just felt like it. Ever heard of the phrase "rule of thumb"? It refers to the rule that a man could not use anything to beat his wife that was bigger than his thumb. Not too mention that your father and then your husband had the right to kill you if he wanted to and there were no consequences for it. It may say that two become one and that wives should submit to their husbands in the Bible, but honestly, how many people do you think abuse the notion that women should obey their husbands. Just look at how women are viewed and treated in other parts of the world. I am sorry, but we will just have to agree to disagree on this subject.
@chetnas (59)
• India
30 Mar 07
Love is so many types,mother's love .father's love,friends love.Love is connected to honer.In love all are obay with any other. That also connected to love .Three in one.
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@Zo0mZo0m (1357)
• United States
30 Mar 07
Love is respect!
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• Philippines
30 Mar 07
Very well said. I hope those who could read this will learn from these words of wisdom. But sometimes, things are easier said than done. Though how hard we try to keep our married life smoothly sailing there will always be temptations, problems and points of disagreements that would lead to hurting each others feelings. I, myself, is guilty of sometimes starting small fights that would lead to speechless weeks in our married life. But now, I'm starting to learn how to eat my pride and accept my fault because I intend to stay in this relationship as long as I live.
@Zo0mZo0m (1357)
• United States
30 Mar 07
Husbands and wives grow and learn together. They make mistake, the argue, and sometimes disagree but they love one another and move on. No one said being married makes you perfect. It's a project, a working togetherness, a team effort. A life long commitment.
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@inovator (603)
• Philippines
30 Mar 07
nice facts!!!!
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@chetnas (59)
• India
30 Mar 07
Love is so many types,mother's love .father's love,friends love.Love is connected to honer.In love all are obay with any other. That also connected to love .Three in one.
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• Canada
30 Mar 07
My Sweetheart and I don't believe in woman obeying her husband. We believe in loving and respecting eachother as the miracles that we are, and that we are each to the other, a gift from God, and that we will love eachother more than we love ourselves, and that we truly become one because we are equal to eachother. We become one not because he is the head, but because we are joined by our souls and our hearts. We are joined together in love. We treat eachother equally, and lovingly. The miracle is that we have found eachother to be so perfect, one for the other. My Sweetheart does not respect submissive women, nore do I respect men who think they must lead all the time. We are in this together, and we will wlak beside eachother. An old quote goes as follows. Don't walk infront of me, I will not follow Don't walk behind me, I will not lead Walk beside me and be my friend. We believe in perfect harmony, not one leading the other. Maybe love honour and obey is OK for your marriage, but not for ours. Our way isn't the only way, nor is yours. Eatch must do what works for her/himself. I'm also keeping my name when we get married!!!
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@Zo0mZo0m (1357)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I'm sure my husband will obey me too. Obeying is simply submitting one to another. If the husband is a godly man he submits unto God, unto Christ. He allows God to be in charge and in turn God trust him with the his wife and a good wife therefore submits to her husband because her trust is in God. She knows that in submitting to her husband God will honor her in turn her husband will trust her COMPLETELY with everything. He'll even go to her for support, help, and advice/counsel. Read Proverbs 31:10-31, this is talking about an Excellent Wife!
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@vokey9472 (1489)
• United States
30 Mar 07
Obey? First off, I am not a child that needs to be told what to do. Secondly, I will not treat my husband as my king or lord. The only Lord in my life is God. I will however consider the requests that my husband makes of me and if I find them to be good I will most likely do them. If, however, I find them offensive or degrading, I will not do them. No one man owns me. I grew up being told that a husband should love his wife as Christ loved his church. The husband should care for and cherish his wife as something precious. A husband should view his wife as a gift from God. If a man does this, then his wife will want to do things for him and she would never need to "obey" him as her love for him would make her WANT to please her husband. If you have to get your wife to OBEY you, you are not loving her enough. At my wedding, we didn't even use the word obey in our vows. My husband at least understood that there was no way that he would ever get me to "obey" anyone but myself.
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@shell52 (144)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I really like what you wrote and I agree. Love and gentle treatment is the key. Being considerate and being in God as one. The only thing I disagree is on your last statement, saying you only obey yourself. One must obey God first. God is our authority.
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@vokey9472 (1489)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I guess I should have made that last statement more clear. I was referring to obeying other people. I try obey God to the best of my abilities, but I am only human and I make mistakes. I should have stated that my husband understood that there was no way that he would ever get me to obey another person so he doesn't even try to make me obey him.
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@hoghoney (3749)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I understand what you are trying to say here but in a way it sounds like when you get married you got a slave.
@Zo0mZo0m (1357)
• United States
30 Mar 07
You have an understanding. You have a oneness.
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• United States
31 Mar 07
I can only agree with you so far in that. Obey is well, so last hundred years or more ago. Women are NOT property. Women are NOT owned by their husbands. To have successful marriage, a man should NOT make all the decisions, and treat her like trash. A marriage is a commitment between two agreeing parties, and both of them are in it together. The man is not in the marriage for himself.
@Lavera1 (897)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Yes I agree with you Zoom about the two, husband and wife, becoming one. God want's us to have Godly marriages here on earth so that we could be examples to others and to also raise up Godly children unto Him. So when a man loves his wife as he loves himself and the same way that Jesus Christ love His body, the Church, then he will treat her right. And when the woman honors her husband she will esteem him very highly.
@Destiny007 (5820)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I agree. After reading through a lot of these posts, I can help but conclude that the world in general and marriage in particular would be better and a lot more peaceful if the wife would just keep quiet and do as she was told. :)