happily married

Philippines
March 29, 2007 11:47pm CST
I was 23 years old then when i knew that I'm pregnant. Afraid to loose my job and the reputation of my family i get married with my 1 year boyfriend with lots of hesitations. I'm not really ready to go to a life time relationship eventhough i loved my husband. I'm still young and i still lots of ambitions and dreams. For me, married is a hindrance of my ambitions, i thought... But now that i had my little cute baby boy and understanding, loving and a thoughtful husband,i realized that i found my happiness with them. A happiness that somehow i thought can only achieve through material things and by acheiving my ambitions.
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• Philippines
31 Mar 07
I agree with you..we can be truly happy if we are fulfilled of what we are doing best. For me, I got married in the age of 25, got pregnant at the age of 26. I have a daughter named daren, age of 6 and a baby boy named daniel, age of 1 year & 8 months old. We are happy family. I disagree saying that being married at early stage is a big hindrance to your ambitions. Of course not, you can be more ambitious if you do have a child. Because you're dreaming for the good both to yourseld and your child, for the whole family. They are blessings from heaven. God gave us families, especially children because they want to test us what are our goals and objectives in life as a whole. Right? So now, enjoy being a mom.
@elisa812 (3033)
• United States
2 Apr 07
I was so happy when I read your comment to see you say that being married young is not a hindrance. I married young and feel the same way...I think I am so much more motivated now because I have a wonderful support system now! I hate how some people think that getting married young is a mistake!
@pratu0708 (126)
• India
30 Mar 07
I had the same experience. I married when I was 20 and was pregnant when i was 24, the minute my pregnancy test strip showed positive the whole year to come just flashed before my eyes. I was at the peak of my career, doing the best i ever had and to get pregnant at that time I thought i would have to give it all up. But of course there were still better things to come. I worked till my ninth month, took the pregnancy leave, got a nanny, got back to work from my baby's third month (it was very difficult decision) and voila!!!! after six months I approached the boss requesting that he fund me buying a computer and that i would want ot work from home. so now i am working from home which gives the time to be on my lot, earning the best that i ever have, and get to be with my baby 24/7. There is nothing better i could ask for and i thank God every minute for making this happen for me
@elisa812 (3033)
• United States
2 Apr 07
That's a really wonderful story! Thanks for sharing it with us! I'm so glad that you've found happiness with your husband and child. I have not had exactly the same experience since I don't have a baby yet, but I can remember being a little bit hesitant at first about getting married because I was really scared and it's such a huge commitment. Now though, I'm so happy that I married my husband and I feel like I would be lost without him! It's so wonderful having a loving husband and being able to start a beautiful life with someone you care about! :)
@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
1 Apr 07
I used to believe material things brought you happiness. I was running the rat race for so long and working and worrying. I am now a stay at home mom and I am loving it. I don't concentrate on all of the material possessions I don't have anymore. I love my fiance and my daughter and that is all I care about anymore. It is wonderful to hear such inspiring and wonderful stories on here such as yours. Thanks for sharing it!
• United States
31 Mar 07
Life does not always give us what we want. If you have a loving man and then a child it is great life. You may hit a few bumps now and then but if you love each other things will work out. I have been married 27 years and have been through a lot of rocky roads raising a son and a daughter. We did not agree on how to raise them but in the end things turned out well. Now that they are grown and gone it is just the two of us and I could not live without him. You have to realize what you want out of life yourself before things will work out for the best. I hope things go well for you. I now have a two year old grandson who is our life too. Wonderful to see life go on through your kids. Good luck to you.
@estarga (1188)
• United States
31 Mar 07
It truly warms my heart to hear that. With divorce rates so high and younger people living so promiscuously, it is nice to hear about your situation. Remember, that your dreams are not lost because you got married...they may have changed a bit and may take other avenues to achieve. Congratulations and the best of luck to you in your future endeavors.
@astromama (1226)
• United States
31 Mar 07
I always liked the saying about life: "In the end, it isn't the person with the most toys who wins". Life isn't about material gain and luxery, it is about family, relationships, and love. If you don't have those things first and foremost, you will never be happy. Good luck to you and congrats!
@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
30 Mar 07
That is wonderful, it is good to hear happy stories, to me nothing matters like where you are or what you do the happiest thing on earth is being happy with the one you are with....you are very lucky....treasure it....