Are you able to judge people correctly?

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India
March 30, 2007 4:24am CST
I generally judge persons by heart. whatever my heart says, i simply follow it but not everytime but many times i found it was wrong. The persons are not like i had thought. My loved one says that i m not a good judge of persons. What about you all? are you able to judge people correctly? Have you ever cheated by anyone? Have you got hurt? please post your replies.. regards, shalini
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@dpk262006 (56473)
• Delhi, India
30 Mar 07
Shalu, I have started a similar discussion - i.e. do you go ahead by your hear or head (do not know have you seen or replied to that). So if you have to answer that discusssion you will say that you go by your heart. I think it requires a lot of experience to judge a person. One is also required to use his head to judge a person. I feel that as far as you are concerned.....you go by the first impression, i.e. your judgement might be based on the first interaction with a person, which means you believe a fellow soon, you put your trust on him/her sooner than later. As far as I am concerned, I judge a person by his/her behaviour, appearance and how does he/she speaks with me at the first instance. I apply all my logics before arriving at a decision. You see we are not an an expert in this field we go by our experiences and also on hear- say, so I feel even if you make incorrect judgement, that should not make you disheartened or disappointed, because gradually as you gain experience, you will be able to judge the people. As far as cheating is concerned, I was once duped by a very smart, gentle, handsome looking young man of 20-22 years of age, who came to my house in the morning.....narrated his story that he has lost everything and he was in need of money to go back from Delhi to Jaipur and If I gave him Rs.200/-, it would be suffice and he promised to return it, gave his address and all the details. Believing him, I gave him the money, helped him, offered him tea.............but he vanished like thin air and never ever returned the money despite all the gentleness and politeness shown by him, while asking for help. In nutshell I judged him by my heart and resultantly lost my money.
• India
30 Mar 07
thanks for your so much descriptive reply. i really got a lot of help from this reply. now from this time onwards i will keep my eyes always open while judging persons. and yes one thing i will like to mention that you are a good writer. thanks for reply
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@dpk262006 (56473)
• Delhi, India
2 Apr 07
Shalu, Thanks very much for your comments and for telling me that I am a good writer. I value your comments very much. Deepak
@ackars (1942)
• India
2 Apr 07
I judge most of the people I come in touch with.I dont know if its a wrong habit or not...I ve been in a residential school for about 8 yrs and have seen many guys and gals and and know the character of many of them well and thus has developed an inherent capacity to judge people at once..But most of the time,incase of peoples of old age,I do miss...My age group,I dont miss out that many...But still,Im also human and have made huge mistakes.
• India
2 Apr 07
thats a great thing that you have the quality to judge people correctly. thanks for the response regards, shalini
• Malaysia
30 Mar 07
I do not like to judge people. That is why i don't believe my first impression. And i think judging others is not something you should do unless you know them very well and you know the situation. But still... don't judge peoples.. even the judges with the strongest evidence showed by the lawyers will make mistakes..
• India
1 Apr 07
i am not asking about first sight impression, i am asking about the strangers who becomes closer to us. anyway thanks for your response regards, shalini
@gegegelay (934)
• Philippines
30 Mar 07
Sometimes, no. It's really unfair to judge a person. Actually, it's not right. God is the only Judge. He gives judgment to everything He created. As a human, yes we do tend to judge.. but well, judging a person by their looks or what you see only outside is not fair. You have to know them well ;)
• India
1 Apr 07
i agree with you but sometimes we have to judge some persons as they comes close to us and make some relations.and if we judge them wrong, it creates a problem and we feel cheated by our heart. anyways, thanks for your comment regards, shalini
• India
30 Mar 07
Yes I can judge the people while talking. Though it is difficult but by close watch/hearing can be judged. Every person is not required to be judged. In our day to day life we meet/talk many person, some of them come to us for only one time, some of them may meet in future and some of them will meet every time.
• India
30 Mar 07
thanks for your response. you are right that we don't have to judge each and evry person but still sometimes some people comes in our way again and again...and i really still need some experience to judge persons. may be all of mylotians replies are going to help me a lot thanks shalini
@feris0604 (303)
• Malaysia
30 Mar 07
I don't judge people openly too. I will only do that after some time .... just to see if I'm right. Usually I am. Hurt? Like I say, depends on what you are looking for in that person. I'm a little too careful with others. I will back out when the other person started to get interested in my personal details. I don't reveal much , even to my friends. That's when the judgement starts ....... To be on the safe side, always try to know what that person's motive is, be more observant.
• India
30 Mar 07
First of all thanks for response. yes, you are right that we shall be a bit careful while dealing with others. but as you said that you backout when other person asks about your personal affairs,i m not agree with it. Every person is a stranger till you don't interact with him/her so there can never be any relation ( even relation friendship) until you don't get interacted. anyways its everybody's own thinking. thanks, shalini
@xParanoiax (6999)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I try not judge people..assess and understand them..yeah. Alot can be told about a person at first glance -- if you pay attention to the details that are in front of you. Their clothes, how they move, speak..everything gives you clues about them, even if you're only aware of it subconciously ^_^ Anyway..I tend to be a good judge of character so to speak. Obviously I'm not perfect, I mess up a few times (the most obvious example being my ex, who turned out to be a multiple personality..). So yes, people have cheated on me lol.I've gotten hurt..but I'm still alive so I must be doing something right.
• India
30 Mar 07
great!!! i got some tips to judge people from your reply. good and keep it up!!! live your life happily forever and leave bihand the persons who don't care and not made for you. all the best, shalini
• India
30 Mar 07
well what i beleive is that it totally depend on ur mentality how u r seeing and facing others.... i mean u should know the actions and u should at a time show ur reaction 4 that thing.....
• India
30 Mar 07
thanks for the response regards, shalini