Be a housewife or a breadwinner?

a housewife - woman sweeping the floor
Philippines
March 30, 2007 7:36am CST
Are you a mother/wife or soon to be mother/wife? It has always been an argument between married people as to whether who will stay at home and do all the house work, or get a job and provide for the family. Would you rather be a housewife or a breadwinner? For me, I want to be both. I don't want to only be a house wife who will do all the housework because I also have my own dreams to pursue. I can be a part-time house wife. I always want to do something, but not just inside the house. How about you?
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@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I am both. I work the midnight shift 12am-8am as a 911 dispatcher, then I go home, walk the dog, etc. and take care of my kids after school. My husband works 12 hr shifts 3 days on , 2 days off rotating from 7am-7pm. When he is off, he takes care of the kids, dinner, etc. otherwise I do. We both share in the housework. I thinks it makes for a much better/more respectful relationship when both parties can understand what the other is going through.
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• Philippines
30 Mar 07
I salute you, ma'am ;) that's good, so you still have time for your family.
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• Malaysia
31 Mar 07
It sounds ideal because both of you have make arrangement on sharing the house chores and taking care the kids. However, do u have enough quality time spend together with each other? Just you and your husband? I think it is important to have some time spend just for both of you.
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@classy56 (2883)
• United States
31 Mar 07
i used to be both.but now i just stay at home an let my husband work.but i still do my own thing an make my own money.i started investing money in flipping houses so i earn enough money in return to stay home.an i love it!
• India
31 Mar 07
I want to be house wife, if we have to make two roles house wife and bread earner we will not do justce tp either
@gemini1960 (1162)
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
if my financial capability permits my wife to stay home then i will let her stay and take good care of the hosue and children but unluckily it does not so she is working just parttime to help me augment our income
@palina77 (1178)
• United States
30 Mar 07
My opinion is whether you work inside your house or not you are a wife first if you work outside and earn for your family then it is your current occupation or profession outside house. A housewife is the queen of a house and one of ownder of that house. A man who marry a girl and allow his wife to work outside house is giving freedom to his wife and also for financial strength of both though housewife has to do many work in house and after a child is born many work for child so you cannot escape from title of housewife.
@cynddvs (2950)
• United States
30 Mar 07
Well before I had my daughter I always thought I would want to continue working. I never saw myself as one that could just stay at home all day. But once I had my daughter and realized how much work it is and how attached I was to her I wanted to stay home. I actually did go back to work for a month after I had my daughter because money got a little tight. I absolutely hated working. I felt so guilty everytime I would leave her. Now when she gets older and is in school I would probably go back to work or at least do something. One thing I've always wanted to do is genealogy for people. I don't have the time to do that now since the libraries are only open during the day and I can't exactly take my daughter to do research with me. So I think that's something I may pursue while she's in school.
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• China
31 Mar 07
I think many women face these fact ,to be a housewife or breadwinner? many women after they married they gave up their job but stay at home to look after baby and do housework, do you think they really want to be that kind people?In China many women give up their job for their family that's their willing.family is more important than their job,it is right,but i don't agree their action, everyone has their dream, they should after their dream that doesn,t mean will disturb their family life if they arrange it well.I want to be a good wife ,mum ,daughter-in -law, but also i hope have my job ,i will not give up my job . i am a tranditional girl ,family is the most important to me ,but i hope i have chance to share the burden with my hubby, not only he work outside to feed the family ,i will arrange my job well ,and after work i will share all the time with my family ,my baby, i don't think my job should be the best but i will try my best to do it well. A woman have their dream and also love their family ,that kind woman is the most charming .
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
that's true. hope you'll have a wonderful family in the future. just try to balance everything and everything will fall into place ;)
• United States
31 Mar 07
I am a house wife and sometimes I feel bad that I am not earning any money. My husband says that he would rather me stay home and take care of our daughter and I would rather watch her than have to take her to daycare where she may be forgotten about and loved less. No one can love a child like their parents. I just wish that I could get a little bit of money from the state for staying home with my baby.
• Philippines
11 Apr 07
Aaaaw.. I believe you want to help your husband. I guess staying just inside the house, especially if you're not a "homey" type, is not that progressive. I'm sure your husband just wants you to raise up your child into a fine young lady. You're right, no one can love a child like their own parents. I'm sure you'll have your chance in the future ;)
@bad1981 (799)
• United States
31 Mar 07
I am a stay at home mother and wife and while it is hard somedays I wouldnt change it for the world. I love being home with my kids and watching them grown and do new things everyday. I do sometimes feel guilty because my husband is always working and bringing home the money, but with that being said I am finishing my college degree and will be done witht his in Aug and will be able to get a decent part time job around my husbands and help bring some income in my home. I would definately reccommend this to anyone that is thinking about it. Somedays are very hectic and I tell my husband, you stay home and ill go to work but I really love my job as a wife and mother.
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
You're a great mother! I'm sure your kids are proud of you ;)
@vanities (11376)
• Davao, Philippines
31 Mar 07
wellt he modern wives now a days are career oriented and its good actually its a great help to husband and in the family too...however in my opinion if the husband can support well enough for the family then why work..being amother is a career too that i consider...and its not a great joke raising kids and all...but now at present im working parttime just to help him on some bills ...and same time it keeps me more busy and productive as well..
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
That's actually true, in fact.. if God has called some women to be housewives, then why not? I mean, yeah it's also a career. It's also hard to raise kids and go with your career at the same time. I salute moms with no husbands!
@stella1989 (2274)
• India
30 Mar 07
Iam exactly like you girl..!! I want to be a bread winnera and a big erner of my family for ever, but some where in corner I do want to play the part of a house wife too.I'll hadle it when it comes. But mostly a bread winner and also I don't want to leave my children in the hands of a starnger too, I'll be needing a joint job on this with my partner too.After all HE to holds some reponsibility too!! isn't it? So when people take up jobs together its more easier to do it and with an enthusiasm too!! Can say a combine study with friends verses studying alone..you can relate that with this. So On top of this I want to be an earner but without neglecting my home. have a nice day.
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
That's true, both have responsibilities and no one between the husband and wife is better or higher than the other ;)
@anya11111 (169)
• India
30 Mar 07
the child you are going to bear has not requested you to be born in your womb. it is your wish and responsibility! you should give as much time as possible to the child till the chld is independent. at least upto kg level you should be around 24/7.
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
Yup, that's true ;)
@akinad (448)
• Philippines
11 Apr 07
same here..i think that we're also bound to become breadwinners while being a housewife at the same time..we also have our own dreams you know..and i know that we'll become a better housewife/person if we also achieved something for ourselves and famiy too..something that we could be proud of..
@ydnac22 (804)
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
I like both.I want to be a housewife and at the same time a bread winner.
@subathra (3519)
• India
31 Mar 07
To my opinion i would like to be both.Am not married yet but i feel i need to help my family both in finance and household works.I would like to do part time job to earn money. Actually it depends upon the family situation for a women to decide to go for work or not.If there is financial problem the women can work full time to make the family financial position stable.
@denden (803)
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
i am still single and if the time comes I would rather be a housewife. I want my husband to be the breadwinner and i would be the one take care of our kids.Because i love to take care of kids.
@year3399 (173)
• China
31 Mar 07
There are many opportunities for people to continue their learnine .Lmost any college of school offers continutingm
• United States
31 Mar 07
my husband is a Iron Worker so he works long hours and hes shift changes with the job so it whould be hard for me to work though i whould love to. But i also love to stay home with the kids we are to sure about put them any day care till they can talk better.Ones 2 ond 10m mabe when they are old i will work
@dlkuku (1936)
• United States
31 Mar 07
I've been both at times in my life. I find that now that my kids are grown and mostly grown, I would rather work outside the home, I get bored to easily, and there is only so much housework a person can do without going batty.
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
I wanted to do both..I can be a housewife and at the same time i can go to work but not a breadwinner.