Are crushes only for teenagers?

@hezoid (2147)
March 30, 2007 1:10pm CST
Oh dear, i think i have a couple of crushes, even though i've not been a teenager for some 4 years now, and actually have a fiance! I love my partner dearly and would enver cheat on him and am 100% happy with him, just i just can help fancying these other guys (physically, i probably wouldn't actually want to date them). I've tried not to, but i can't help it. I find it hard to keep a serious face when talking to them and i just hope that they don't guess that i fancy them! Do you still get crushes even though you've passed your teenage years? Do you think they are only for teenagers?
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@nameerf (99)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I'm 32 and still get crushes. I'm married with two kids happily. But it keeps life interesting. You will always meet people who are attractive to you and probably will always have little crushes. As long as you know where your heart lies and keep true to it, you should be fine. Besides who wants to let the teenagers have all the fun. The worst is when you have a dream about someone you didn't know you had a crush on and then have to see them the next day. Very strange indeed.
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@hezoid (2147)
30 Mar 07
Yes, i've done the dreaming thing! Sometimes i will have a dream and then develope the crush (maybe the crush was subconcious untill the dream). Usually it only happens with famous people.
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@wachit14 (3600)
• United States
30 Mar 07
Crushes are for everyone. I've had crushes on guys and I'm in my fifties. It keeps you young and reminds you that you still have the ability to connect with people on many levels.
@hezoid (2147)
30 Mar 07
Yes, you are right, i like the idea of still being able to connect with others even though i'm happy with my partner.
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
Yeah I still admire and get crush to someone whom i appreciate most,even im 22 yrs old and not longer a teenager but still i have too many crushes. And i dont agree that crushes is only for teenagers, even married person will have a crushes too. Crushes are natural and a part of a feelings that even a kid will experience that. EVen you are too sincere to your boyfriend you cannot control yourself to admire someone who are very gorgeous. COz crushes is natural to a human. Are yah still in love to someone even you have a bf?
@sunshine4 (8708)
• United States
30 Mar 07
Crushes are for everyone. It is great that you know you love your fiance and will never cheat on him. A crush is not going to hurt your relationship with your fiance as long as you keep it as a crush and don't act on any feelings.
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@hezoid (2147)
30 Mar 07
I still feel guilty for fancying other people though. I do fancy my bloke more though. He really does have a great bum, lol!
• United States
30 Mar 07
When on a diet you can always check out the menu. I am 49 and there are a few guys that turn my head. I am not as bold as my husband and make it obvious, but I do it. The guys know it when they catch your eye. Not a problem. It boosts your ego and theirs too.
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@hezoid (2147)
30 Mar 07
Yes, i guess there just hapens to be a fair few tasy dishes on that menu at the moment! I'm not sure i want these guys to know about my crushes! I hope they don't realise, i'd be too embarassed otherwise.
@faraza (159)
• Malaysia
31 Mar 07
you are not alone! crushes can hapen to anyone, even when you are married. usually it's because we find something interesting in other people that your partnet don't have. i've had a few crushes before. i was away from my husband and there was a charming gentleman (also married). we worked often together and he always made me laugh. but now i've moved back to the same house with my husband and i completely forgot about that guy! when u have acrush on someone, try to keep calm and think all the good things about your man when you meet him.
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@peaches20 (148)
• Philippines
30 Mar 07
yeah it's for everyone :)
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• Pakistan
30 Mar 07
crushes are not for teenagers.anyone can have crushes & of any type.so its normal on your part but it is only normal if it remains crushes & you never invovle in some physical reation cause thats cheating
• United States
30 Mar 07
I totally think you can have a "crush" on someone no matter what age you are. It's very normal even if you are completely committed to someone. As long as it doesn't go further than admiring from a distance then it's all good!
• India
30 Mar 07
Oh, not at all! In fact, crushes are the things that keep us from feeling aged! It is what can keep us feeling young at heart. I have had crushes on my classmates and teachers back in school, on colleagues at work, the smiling salesgirl at the neighborhood supermarket... the list is endless. A crush is just a feel-good thing, you know. You see somebody cute and you feel the need to impress her/him and you have the first symptoms of a crush! It rarely ever gets more personal than some harmless flirtation, if at all. I have a crush on my canteen supervisor and often pay her flirtatious compliments ,which she acknowledges and sometimes pays back! We both know that we have some kind of hots for each other, but it's just that and nothing else. It's fun to have crushes like that.
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@Denmarkguy (1845)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I think crushes are for EVERYone. I'm mid-40's and I continue to have crushes on women on a regular basis... and it RARELY is related to whether or not I am in a relationship. I think it's just one of those "delightful" parts of being human. I don't think that we can "help" it, and I am not sure it's even worthwhile losing sleep over TRYING to help it. The real issue isn't over whether we HAVE these crushes, but about what we choose to DO with them. Or not, as the case may be.
@cher913 (25889)
• Canada
30 Mar 07
I certainly am not a teenager, and i have been married for 20 years, but i secretly fancy other men once in awhile, not that i would pursue the idea, but sometimes when you are bored or whatever, its nice to escape for a few minutes eh?
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• India
30 Mar 07
its for everyone ..... i have seen lot old ppl havin crushes etc etc regards :)
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@katyzzz (2902)
• Australia
1 Apr 07
It can happen at any age, it is not healthy.
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
Yeah I still have crashes most of them are of course celebrity like those in a music band. I don't think that crashes are just for teenagers..we still have feelings even if we have grown.
@baileym11 (889)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Heck no, crushes are for everyone. I've been married for 12 years, and while I'm honestly not 100% happy, I would not think of having an affair. Talk about adding to your troubles!! Anyway, I've had crushes on co-workers before, even harmless fliratations, that we both knew would never go anywhere. Crushes are for everyone.
• United States
31 Mar 07
crushes are for all ages. its alright for you to have a crush on somebody you're not romantically involved with as long as as you don't go beyond that. i think its healthy for you to have a crush. it fun and it will keep you young.:)
• India
31 Mar 07
Well I am a teenager, so wouldn;t speak much becuase i actually don't fall in ur category---not atleast till the next december turns up and I leave mah teens!!! But yes one thing for sure!!! Whenever, wherever at what so ever stage i am, I'd never stop flirting.... I wouldn't stop crushing either...and why should I ...you are young--and in ur teens--if u condier urself ot be--it is a simple concept for me--and then liking does not means u gotta go along witht hat gal, or you actually gotta be in a legal/illegal relationship or affair with her.... WHat if ten years down the line I do like the then supermodel Ms. XYZ.....now if she would be beatuiful I would like her na! and that is enough I gues...
• Brazil
31 Mar 07
Well, I'm still a teenager. However I think crushes is not just for teenagers. That's a natural action! When we see someone beautiful and nice obviously we want to date him/her. But if you really love your partner you won't do anything with other guy, right? :P
@wisedragon (2330)
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
I'm 30 and I'm still capable of having crushes. But that rarely happens when I'm in love. When I'm in love with someone, all of my thoughts and dreams are focused on her and I don't find other girls interesting, no matter how pretty they may be.