Work, rest or play???????

@mummymo (23707)
March 31, 2007 8:36am CST
As most of my friends here know I am awaiting back surgery in a couple of weeks and am in chronic pain. Walking is both exhausting and painful but hey such is life! I work in a pub and know that after my surgery I will be off work for at least 2 months ( at least I'll have time to play on mylot!) Thing is that i am working for a few hours every day at the moment and while I am sore and exhausted at least I am doing something! Working in a pub, people are none too shy at voicing their opinions, most say that I should be at home resting (which I had to do for 7 weeks a while back and was nearly totally insane - of course that was before I discovered mylot!) while others understand that I need to be doing something and hey I would still be in pain sitting round all day right! My question to you wonderful people out there is what would you do?
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@mrsbrian (1951)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Please tell me this is not a workers comp case.I think you should not be working, what if you cause further damage than you already have? last i knew working ina pub was no easy job, do you do lots of lifting and and carrying heavy trays full of food and drink. If it was me i would not be working ,there are many things you can do to entertain yourself at home,this i learned when i was in a wheelchair for 4 months. Wishing you all the best with your surgery GOD BLESS.
@mummymo (23707)
31 Mar 07
Thanks so much mrsbrian - and no ot os not a workers comp case - pure bad luck we think! My bosses and co-workers are fantastic and make me sit down and rest as much as possible and I am not allowed to lift anything heavy - just pour drinks and tale money and a LOT of talking! Hope you are doing better now my friend - thanks for the good wishes - I will keep you all up to date with progress! xxx
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@raydene (9874)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Honey,If I could get out to work I would but I got to the point where I was doing more damage so I had to stay home.Of course if money is an issue then maybe you feel you have no choise but if it's not the my question to you is are you doing more damage by going to work?What does you dr say?Does he/she know you are working?Mo,you're a lot younger then me and you have to save you body for old age..lol..My dr says 'when it comes to the back if it hurts stop what you're doing and let it rest.'I think that you know the answer and are hoping someone will tell you otherwise. Be nice to yourself...you are worth it!Learn to chill...sit back daydream... You know ,deep breath,sofa,bonbons...ya know the routine! I love ya
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@mummymo (23707)
31 Mar 07
dr knows and tried to stop me at first but I am sore even if I do nothing! He is now surprised that I can keep doing it but wants to help me save the little sanity I have left! Only another week of work now then it's sofa, sweets and computer honey - I promise! love you too sweets xxx
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@raydene (9874)
• United States
31 Mar 07
I don't worry about ya cause I know that fishwife and Weemam keep track of ya
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@gemini1960 (1162)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
if that happens to me..ill still do what you are doing now be productive even in pain since even when i rest the pain will not go away so better to work to forget the pain rather than in the house and constantly self-pitying myself of what i am now..
@mummymo (23707)
1 Apr 07
a very good point gemini!
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@mfpsassy (2827)
• United States
1 Apr 07
Oh honey just do what you can so you can keep your sanity. Rest when you need to and make sure you don't push yourself to much
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@mummymo (23707)
1 Apr 07
Thanks honey - I learnt the hard way not to push myself too hard - it makes me collapse , so I don't do that anymore! xxx
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@dana234 (2116)
• Spain
1 Apr 07
I think I would do the same as you do, unless the pain was unbearable. Only a few hours a day though, as you said. If you feel emotionally more balanced because you´re getting out of the house and you´re keeping busy, then do so. No use getting depressed at home where you would be in pain as well. At least being able to talk to a lot of people in the pub can take your mind off it a bit. Don´t overdue things though. Good luck with the surgery, dear. Lots of love Dana
@mummymo (23707)
1 Apr 07
Thank you so much dana - it is all about balancing things! Thanks so much for your suppoet and good wishes honey! xxx
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@fay511 (43)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Hi, If you can take the pain, even though it leaves you exhausted, go to work and enjoy it while you can. As you said being home with nothing to do is enough to drive you insane! I have been where you are except for the surgery part. My back condition isn't operable. I was told back when I was 15 that I would eventually end up in a wheelchair, their estimate, at 30 yrs old. I'm 51 yrs old now and am just now getting one to help me when I have to be on my feet more then 5 minutes. But hey I beat their odds! I have had chronic pain since I was 15 yrs old so I know what you're talking about. It's not easy. You sound like you're made of pretty tough stuff though if you're still working and walking with it! Myself I would and have done the same thing as you, work as long as you can.
@mummymo (23707)
1 Apr 07
Fay - thank you so much for sharing and supporting! I am so sorry that you have been through so much pain, it cannot be easy - you seem to have a fantastic attitude and I think it is amazing that you have copes so well! Hope to speak to you really soon! xxx
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@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Can give into the pain it would drive ya nuts never haveing anything to do .I would work as long as I could for you will be layed up for awhile even from here take care
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@mummymo (23707)
1 Apr 07
Will be off work for months - but we are potting plans in place to keep me on mylot! xxx
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• India
31 Mar 07
firstly...........good wishes for the surgery........i think u hav to rest or u hav to do exercise under the supervision of any physiotheorapist, it may help.......
@mummymo (23707)
1 Apr 07
Thank you so much for the good wishes and the advice Kiran - both are appreciated! x
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@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
31 Mar 07
Yes, I know that you are going in for surgery soon but it must be dreadful having so much pain with your back. Oh that is good that you will be having a rest from the pub, and that you will not be on your feet. Yes it is strange isn't it that we complain that we work too much and then when it is time for a rest we get bored very quick. Well I am not bored as I spend many hours on the computer not only one mylot but other sites as well.
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@mummymo (23707)
1 Apr 07
If I could sit at the computer all day I probably wouldn't get bored either Kathy honey! I think because we don't get a chance to do nothing for a long time usually, then we think it must be great to do nothing but after a little while we realise that it isn't really fun! xxx
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@junior07 (973)
• India
31 Mar 07
ya that's true for a working person it is almost impossible to take rest for so long as doing work became their habit.
@mummymo (23707)
1 Apr 07
That is so true 0 I have always worked and I actually enjoy it!
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@9w2whi (108)
• Malaysia
31 Mar 07
u should rest a lot. its painful even to walk. how can you work then. it doesn't means you have to just sit all days. you should have some other thing to do. something that you can adjust with your pain.. like post to mylot
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@mummymo (23707)
1 Apr 07
Tried that for a while bu sitting at pc too long was more painful! I get to rest in between doing things at work !
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
31 Mar 07
I would do what your doing for now. And I truely hope after your surgery you feel better. I know its not fun being in pain. Make sure you rest up after your surgery. And please keep us informed.
@mummymo (23707)
1 Apr 07
Thanks Terry - we've got all post op plans made - I'm going to be spoiled rotten! Thanks for your support and I will let you know how things are going! xxx
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@lols189 (4797)
31 Mar 07
just try and do things that you can and take as much rest as needed. hope your surgery goes well and you recover very quickly. look after yourself and take care mummymo =)
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@mummymo (23707)
1 Apr 07
Thanks lols i am being careful - thanks for the kind thoughts! xxx
@joyce959 (1562)
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
I'll pray that your back surgery / operation be successful and wish for your speedy recovery. During your two-months leave from work, you have all the time for yourself and your family. You have more time for family bonding while resting at home. Of course as you say, you have more time to stay on myLot, still keeping in touch with your friends here. My prayers and good wishes for you again mummymo.
@mummymo (23707)
31 Mar 07
Thank you so much Joyce - you are such a caring person! Try shutting me up when I am off work - you'll be fed up hearing from me! lol xxx
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@weemam (13377)
31 Mar 07
I would do the same as you pal . hubby is always worried about putting me out and asking me to pick him up if my sciatica of arthritis is bad but I say the samr as you .Its sore no matter what so I am as well to be doing things as normal, keep busy if you can sweetheart , and did you say nearly insane PMSL
@mummymo (23707)
31 Mar 07
I love you! If you can do something without pushing too much it makes life more bearable - doesn't it! Meant to say what little sanity I still have! xxx lol
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
31 Mar 07
Well in the Job that I was in Sweet I could not have gone to work as it involved Driving all day and training People on Buffers and that I would have carried working with my Illness if I would have not been bullied out of my Job you know the Story. It was getting harder due to the Chemicals and of course even us Managers had to clean if we hwere short of Staff and that was hard but I did it. Sop yes I would hace carried on to. But in the same Breath in your Case you do have to take it steady and easy. Your back is nothing to mess with Lady. So you better be careful and not overdo Hugs to you
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@Eskimo (2317)
31 Mar 07
Working in a pub is something I wouldn't really like to do, however it can be demanding, and enjoyable meeting people. If you are going to be off work for at least 2 months, then its up to you to work up until then the best you can, but take it easy and try not to make your back any worse, and hope that the people you work with are very understanding. I would hate to be just sitting about doing nothing, even if I was unable to do my work properly.
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@mummymo (23707)
31 Mar 07
My bosses and colleagues are fantastic sweets - could not do any more for me! I still do the best i can - not the same as I used to but they appreciate the fact that I need to retain the last of my sanity! lol It was awful when I could do nothing! xxx
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
31 Mar 07
I would be climbing the walls, it's bad enough not being allowed to go back to the gym for two weeks after my op! There is only a certain amount of tv you can watch and I am not the kind of person who could spend all day sitting down watching tv. Why don't you compromise, do a little bit of each, divide your day into work, rest and play! If you don't have anything to occupy your mind you will get emotionally drained and yes climbing the walls too! Keep us informed of how things go my friend x
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@hookfan (447)
31 Mar 07
I think you should do what you can and rest when you need to. Your body will tell you when you need to rest and when you feel you are able to be up and working :D xx
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@mummymo (23707)
1 Apr 07
Thanks hookfan - these days my body wants to be resting 23/24 hours but my mind then stagnates! I am getting plenty of rest though! lol x
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@makingpots (11922)
• United States
2 Apr 07
Well, if you are going to be sore anyway I completely understand wanting to work. Might as well be out with people and earning a little income. You will have plenty of time to rest after the surgery. Hope it goes well for you. You are going to need us myLotters during that time. I'll be watching for your discussion. Hang in there.
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@mummymo (23707)
2 Apr 07
Thank you so much for your support and understanding - it is still 2 weeks until the surgery but you are so right - I will depend on mylot during my recovery!