have you been in a strip bar?i felt sad rather than being lustfully arosed!

Philippines
March 31, 2007 1:54pm CST
Me and my friends had some beer in one of the stip bars here in cebu...as we dranked our way through the night while watching wemen who where naked dancing in the stage doing everything to convince a costumer to give them some tip or a drink to earn some money...i felt sad for these young wemen...thinking that indeed hard times can make these wemen do such things or odd jobs like these...i asked one dance who happend to be sitting beside us since there are only a few costumers inside how did they ever end up dancing naked in a place like these....she answered..."i worked for food"....damn i was hit!sad and sorry for them...i just cant imagine how they feel dancing naked in front of men i felt like "hey instead of buying beer and drink it while watching them ladies why not give it to them and go out ,many of these wemen are minors. out of school youths...some lacked education due to poverty..after that night i was thinkin on who to blame on thier ordeal.....whats your reaction on this?
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@sizzle3000 (3040)
• United States
2 Apr 07
I am a woman and have been in strip bars in my state. I am sorry but most of the women that I know and have met are very intelegent. They are all over the age of 21. A few of these woman are going to school. I am not saying that there are not strippers who are just out to make a fast buck but there are. For the most part these woman are earning a living not sitting on Welfare. I guess strippers are different from state to state.
• Philippines
7 Apr 07
yeah mam i believe not all are the same as i picture them to be...but im here in the philippines...poverty i believe drives this young wemen to into this business...im sad for them as no body would help them....the situation there i believe is far more diffrent than here...thanks for the reply...if i offended you im sorry...its just my sentiments for a situation like these and the way i feel when i see our young wemen sell their bodies for cash to foreigners and locals....peace!
@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
1 Apr 07
Yes I feel like you do. And even thou Im a woman I do feel sorry for them. When I was alot younger I went in one with my boyfriend for just a minute and I couldnt believe it. These poor women. But let me tell you something they do make good money. Its excellant money! But its not worth taking your cloths off for.
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
5 Apr 07
yep. they get easily paid and get instant money. but as you say, it's not worth it. it's just like selling out your flesh for others to view. it's just sad to see how such an industry is growing.
@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
1 Apr 07
Yes you are right that some of these woman do have to work in a strip bar to earn money and do these kinds of things to earn themselves some money for themselves. It is very sad isn't it yes I know that some of these women are very young and just out of school. I believe it is the governments fault for not helping people in this situation.
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@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
1 Apr 07
"I know that some of these women are very young and just out of school." true...and flip of the coin, there are some who do it in order to put themselves through school...
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
5 Apr 07
i do feel sad to know that even young girls work this way now. i am not sure of who's to blame actually. it's hard to point fingers. it's just that sometimes, these girls just say that stripping is their best way to earn money. saying that it's the "best" way for them to earn money just means that they have other ways of earning. it's just that stripping is so much easy money for them. but actually, they can work in some other fields. it's just that it requires more work, more patience and less pay. but well, atleast they can get decent jobs if they really want to. it's their choice why they are into it. i don't want to blame nature, fate or even the goverment why they are in such a "business". they chose to be there and that's why i felt more sad for them.
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@JuliaPan (565)
• Canada
2 Apr 07
I've been to a strip bar once, with my hubby. Frankly speaking, I wasn't very much impressed. There was only one dancer, she danced only two dances, and she was not stripping in fact, she just uncovered her bust, that is all. She danced very expressively and sexually. She herself danced very well, but when she took some guys out of the crowd and started to strip them in front of the public, that didn't look very sexually and not pleasant at all. My husband and I agreed in the opinion that it wasn't a strip dancing. What you say about women stripping for money, well, may be that's true. But this is their choice. I don't believe they didn't have at least one more choice what to do in their life.
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@TriciaW (2442)
• United States
2 Apr 07
First I want to say what a good heart you have. Not many sitting in your chair would even think of such things. I had never given this much thought and after hearing your side of things it makes me think how they would come to be in this profession. Now I have seen some really nice clubs that the women seem to be professional dancers and the pattrons are there to look at not touch. I am sure there are much worse places where the women are actually very young and have been through hard times and my heart goes out to them. Sometimes I think people in that position feel like there is no way out. Maybe if you know of jobs that require no experience you can post them so they are able to see them or maybe even tell them about the jobs. Wish I had a better answer but again I am glad you have a heart.
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• United States
2 Apr 07
I've been to strip bars. I don't see the draw. Then neither does my hubby. I do feel sorry for most of the girls. At the same time; I know the kind of money they can make (at least around here). Hard to feel sorry for them when they are making more than my hubby does at his job. I know men who literally throw money at these girls.
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• India
1 Apr 07
poor lads..... i actually haven't been to any yet, but now I am surew I wouldn;t be able to.....when I see someone maimed or a disables, I can barely stop ,mmyself from helping me out.... but here the poor alds are rather working.... ou cannot vent ell them thatwhy r they working coz if they are in such conditions...definitely they are devoid of education=== and that itself closes all gates and doors of oppurtunities for them.... but then may be this is what life is!!! never so easy and never so difficult...it is all how u see the things,,,,and how do u take them up?
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• Australia
1 Apr 07
ive only been to a few clubs here, they dont really excite me to tell you the truth, most of them are just there to make the big money thats in it and get treated like animals in the process of doing it
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
31 Mar 07
I think it is sad but some proberly have no other choice. if they are not well educated and some might have had to drop out of school to raise childern.
@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Some have it hard and others could be like me. I have a chest now that I have had children and if I had been built like now I would dance. I am a bit old for that life now however if you are good and I can sure keep a beat, make alot of money. In the better bars and better customers. It can be an art and allow for some freedoms. I have seen women with children dancing and put themselves through college. Became business women. So dancing is honest work although it does cater to instincts usually better within marriage.
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@smkwan2007 (1038)
• Hong Kong
31 Mar 07
My view point is when you work as a normal waiter, the salary you get may be not much. But dancing naked in a night club or pub, you may get a income triple the ammount of a waitress. As woman who want more money to get better life for herself or her family, this may be the better means for them to get a higher payment.
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@sidoney (1033)
• Jamaica
18 Apr 07
that is a sad tale as true as it is I just wish that the world had more moral and real true love for each other then this world would not be such a sad place
@loujac3 (1188)
• United States
2 Apr 07
Years ago I went to one of the places that was lower on the scale. Most of the dancers were either overweight, disfigured or had some other physical impairment. It was sad and I felt sorry for them. It is bad enough to have problems but to have to lower oneself to that level to exist is sad. I am thankful for the things I have and the fact that I raised my daughters to get a good education so that they did not have to rely on others. Self respect is something that nobody should have to giveup or live without. I agree, give the money to the girls and pass up that drink. I have not been into a place like that since and I try to help women that are out there trying to get back on their feet and to raise their children in a better environment.
@loujac3 (1188)
• United States
2 Apr 07
Years ago I went to one of the places that was lower on the scale. Most of the dancers were either overweight, disfigured or had some other physical impairment. It was sad and I felt sorry for them. It is bad enough to have problems but to have to lower oneself to that level to exist is sad. I am thankful for the things I have and the fact that I raised my daughters to get a good education so that they did not have to rely on others. Self respect is something that nobody should have to giveup or live without. I agree, give the money to the girls and pass up that drink. I have not been into a place like that since and I try to help women that are out there trying to get back on their feet and to raise their children in a better environment.
@Chadanne (253)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
thats so sad man... buit thats how bitter life is..