Do you worry about ruining your mylot credibility?

By Leca
@lecanis (16739)
Murfreesboro, Tennessee
March 31, 2007 4:17pm CST
I like to think that a lot of people who have been in discussions with me on mylot think well of me. Feel free to enlighten me if I'm wrong. =p Yesterday a friend and I were talking about how he reads my responses, and how I had been responding to a lot of "drivel" lately. And I suddenly wondered... Is responding to things that are silly or pointless going to ruin my credibility? Will someone in a discussion about religion or anything else serious going to look at other responses I've made and say "Like you have a right to talk?" Will people take me less seriously if I respond to a variety of discussions, even those than could be seen as "mature content"? Do you worry about these types of things, or am I the only one?
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41 responses
@sigma77 (5385)
• United States
31 Mar 07
I would not worry about your credibility. You have already established it. So you post to a few wacky discussions, so what? You are still the same person who comes up with quality discussions and responses.
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
31 Mar 07
Thanks for your response! I'm glad to know you think I post quality discussions and responses! I certainly try, and I'm glad people can tell that. =)
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• United States
2 Apr 07
I find a good whacky discussion can be very relaxing, especially after a debate in say, politics or even religion and it has digressed into condescension.. or worse.. :))
@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
3 Apr 07
That's a good point! A little bit of wackyness can help relieve the stress of that kind of junk!
• United States
31 Mar 07
If someone looks down their nose at you because of your "WELL ROUNDEDNESS" in discussions then it is their credibility that should be put to question as they must be looking for a way to discredit someone. So if they do I say "SO WHAT" life here on myLot will go on as long as this place is not affecting your real world life. Personally I think that being able to answer all sorts of discussions shows that you are well rounded and are able to think more than just linear. So keep up the good work and don't fret as those that truely matter will take your discussion/response on it's own merit and not even look further into it. HELL NO I do not give two piles of steamming **** what a person here thinks of mee as I will still be mee nomatter what and what I usually have to offer is a chunk of gold compaired to what most on here offer and if my gold offends someone I have a one finger jesture for them as I purposly try not to offend anyone, and there is so much more I could say that I don't just not to disrespect. What I am saying my friend is..... Lighten up and have fun let other busy-bodies worry about the discrediting!! HAVE A GREAT DAY AND HAVE FUN!!! Remember lecanis is just you NOT EVERYONE ELSE, so do not worry about everyone else!!
@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
1 Apr 07
*laughs* Great post! "Remember lecanis is just you NOT EVERYONE ELSE, so do not worry about everyone else" I especially like that. =)
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• United States
1 Apr 07
I am pleased that you liked my response. Expecially that last part as it fits in with my name perfectally as I am MEE-AND-NOT-YOU!! Don't let anyone stifle your creativity, continue just being you. Thank you for the response and have a great day!!!
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@charms88 (7546)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
If I were you, lecanis, I wouldn't worry much about what I'm responding. There are a lot of silly threads posted by my friends. If I can contribute my opinion, then I will. There is nothing wrong in penning down our opinions in all the different interests here. We each may have our own views and not everyone will readily agreed with us. But my motto since joining mylot is: To respect other people's opinions. :)
@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
1 Apr 07
"To respect other people's opinions" I think that's a lovely motto! I try to do the same. =)
@mfpsassy (2827)
• United States
31 Mar 07
I think as long as you answer all discussions with honesty no matter what the subject your credibility will be fine. I also think anyone who has issues with the discussions you answer or respond to, probably doesn't have an open mind.
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
1 Apr 07
Thanks for your response. =) " I also think anyone who has issues with the discussions you answer or respond to, probably doesn't have an open mind." You know, that's a lovely point. And do I need people that don't have an open mind? Well... not so much!
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@emeraldisle (13158)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Well I figure everyone has days where they want to deal with deep and heavy and others where they want fluff. People need variety and if others can't realize that then that is their problem. Personally I don't worry about my credibility. I'm honest and blunt in everything, no matter if it's something as trivial as my favorite tv character or as something as serious as my right to free speach. I take the same approach to it all and just share how I feel.
@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
1 Apr 07
"I take the same approach to it all and just share how I feel." I know I at least appreciate that about you. =)
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• Australia
31 Mar 07
I think a lot of us here PREFER to get involved in deeper, more serious discussions, but that doesn't mean we ONLY participate in them. I think that as slightly more experienced users, we have a community duty to help the newbies and to answer their discussions, even if we think they are closer to "drivel" than to a healthy debate. Surely receiving a good response will help them to see that quality responses are called for and will encourage them to follow suit. I appreciate your contributions in discussions I have participated in, and where else you respond is up to you. It doesn't affect what you have to say in other places.
@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
31 Mar 07
Thanks so much for responding! You have no idea how much your saying this helps me out here, since I see you as someone who posts quality responses. =) You have a good point also about helping out newer people too. I have often responded to newer user's discussions even if they aren't the best, just to encourage them and give them an example. I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one who does so.
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• Canada
31 Mar 07
Honestly I don't really care what other people think of discussions that I have responded to. My opinion is asked and I give it end of story. If it is a friend then their is a better chance I will respond to their post but I find if nothing new from my friends has come out and I have already answered old ones then I do pick some different posts out of boredom. I can't see how someone would take you less seriously just because of discussions you have posted too! I don't go and look at the history of postings that my friends have done. I make an opinion of them based on their postings, and if I happen to respond to a discussion they too have responded to I will read what they put. That is just how I do things, not everyone does things the same.
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
31 Mar 07
Thanks for your response! What a healthy attitude! I have got to learn to be so confident. =p I guess the reason this came up is because I do look at things my friends respond to, and I know some people who look at mine. I don't do it to check up on my friends, but more to find good discussions to respond to, or to have a chance to talk to them. I'm glad you don't worry about things like this though!
• Singapore
31 Mar 07
Yes I do have a very high opinion of you. :P I don't worry about that much. I just post. What comes, comes. Who cares? :PP
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
31 Mar 07
Awww thank you! That means a lot coming from you! I have a pretty high opinion of you too you know! Thanks for responding to my discussion. I'll try not to worry so much next time. =p
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@disvachic (10125)
• United States
31 Mar 07
I really dont look at people different.I personally respond to mature content,religion,silly stuff.I am human and if i find something interesting i am going to respond.You shouldn't worry about what other people think.People have their own interest.
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
31 Mar 07
Thanks for your response! I'm glad I'm not the only one who posts under a lot of different interests. =)
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@edelweiss (1930)
• India
1 Apr 07
Umm.. NO! I dont worry at all about the rating... if i something to say on the topic.. i respond.. if i need to bash someone for a pathetic response.. i'll bash him.. if i need to go silly on the comment i will! who cares about the rating. thinking is such a waste of time.
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@AndiCat (326)
• United States
1 Apr 07
I have posted to both serious discussions and trivial discussions. MyLot is sort of like life: there are so many various topics, issues, fun things to talk about. I can't really put myself into a certain category because my mood and my state of mind varies from day to day. There are times when I'm in the mood to be philisophical; other times, I just wanna have fun! LOL That said, I do tend to shy away from anything political. We are so divided these days as a nation. I do not want to rub anyone the wrong way. It's not that I don't value my beliefs and stand by them. I just don't want to argue. But, who knows? Maybe that will change later on! My main goal here at MyLot is to share interesting discussions, have some fun, and help where I can.
• India
1 Apr 07
Well, I'm sure you are not the only one to be having those thoughts. In fact, I think twice about sending out referrals to the people that know me for the same reason. That they might not really approve of the topics that I discuss, but it is really not important you know. I mean, how is it supposed to matter to my friend what I discuss about, yet in some strange way it does matter. However, I really don't worry about my credibility as far as my friends on mylot are concerned as I believe that we all have varied interests and mylot helps us to broaden our horizons quite a lot. People who are not on mylot might not appreciate it much, but once they are here, they too will appreciate the way things work here.
@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
1 Apr 07
You know, I'm pretty picky about who I send referrals to too (not that anyone I have sent to has signed up yet). I have avoided invited any of my coworkers because there are things I talk about on here that they don't know about me, and it would start a lot of office gossip I don't really need. I guess I only think about it with my mylot friends because I've made some really awesome friends here and I would hate to tarnish their opinion of me, but now that a few of them have responded to me, I realized that if they're really my friends that won't happen. =)
@chavezrmc (1545)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
i believe that mylot can understand that we are people with different opinions here and i guess they respect this and i believe too that this is one of the reason that people are staying for the many opinions and view in life that each one can learn from this forum. I understand there's no problem discussing mature content as long as words are chosen carefully. We must be responsible for all the things we are doing here.
• India
1 Apr 07
Yes you are right.
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@cyntrow (8527)
• United States
1 Apr 07
you know, you have every right to respond to "fluff" discussions just as everyone else. I have a tendancy to respond to controversial subjects. It's a part of my make up to help insure justice and freedoms. But I do like the occasional, "Who is your favorite rock group," and so on. It keeps my sanity in check. If I only responded to potentially controversial subjects I would find myself obsessing and my negative feelings may take hold. I don't need that. and neither do you. Negativity is a heavy bag to carry. I prefer to travel light.
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
1 Apr 07
Many of the things I respond to are pretty contraversial too. Which would be obvious to you since they are sometimes the same discussions you participate in. =p "Negativity is a heavy bag to carry. I prefer to travel light." This is lovely. It's so true. Sometimes I also get burned out on the contraversial things because I find myself with a lot of negativity, and at those times I often respond to less serious discussions. Or even *gasp* get off the computer for a little while and go beat up my punching bag. =)
@Denmarkguy (1845)
• United States
1 Apr 07
I had to think for a moment... but I really think my "credibility" (to the degree I have one) hangs more on my actual words than on where they can be found. If I can write some intelligent commentary on Paris Hilton, does that make me less credible, somehow? I suppose there are SOME people who will only notice "Paris Hilton" and not "intelligent commentary," but that's just how it goes... I guess I have never really been willing to become a "song of one note" in service of being "taken seriously." Personally, I think the true mark of a "great writer" is the ability to write something good about practically ANYthing. Those who are critical of writers who occasionally dabble in the frivolous stike me as being more concerned with "image" than with "content." Either way, your credibility is good with me, because you have intelligent and well thought out points of view. I don't really care WHAT you're writing about...
@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
1 Apr 07
"Personally, I think the true mark of a "great writer" is the ability to write something good about practically ANYthing." You know, that is very true. I'm always amazed when people get all up in arms because a writer did something out of their usual genre, when for me what it does is make me respect the writer more for being versatile. Thanks for pointing that out. I'm glad to know you appreciate me, because I think you're a very good writer yourself. =)
@MsTickle (25007)
• Australia
31 Mar 07
I respond to anything that catches my interests. I'm broad minded and have a little interest and a little bit of knowledge on a wide range of things. I've thought people may be judging me but so many people say they don't judge others so I think ok then. I also don't imagine people are that interested in me and have that much time on their hands unless it's someone who knows me in real life. That's why I haven't invited my family in. Some of my responses would make their hair curl and I have no wish to offend anyone. If a so called friend has a problem with what i say then they have to deal with that. I accept my friends with out making judgements on them.
@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
1 Apr 07
Thanks for your response! You know, that's something I didn't think of, that other people probably have better things to do than worry about what I'm responding to. Thanks for that insight!
@BrainTeaser (1432)
• Pakistan
31 Mar 07
well i havent build any reputation yet so i am not afraid of loosing any at the moment,and as i havent had any discussion with you cant say anything about you aswell,perhaps as the time passes and i'll use to know you bit more,i'll think well of you. I think its quite good to make your impression on wider level of discussions rather just sticking with some you know a lot deal about,as in my opinion is the goal of any community to spread and share the knowledge between its members,and sometimes silly things do come in handy.Its better to acknowledge the topics you might feel easy but at the same time to increase your knowledge one should participate in the every aspect of life as we do in practical aswell. Sharing immature content or responding to it cant have a bad impact,as it states the diversity of a person,so just not stick with some serious content,life has everything to offer so must enjoy it to the full extent. Happy posting in mylot.
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
31 Mar 07
"life has everything to offer so must enjoy it to the full extent." How very true. Thank you for such a thougtful post. I really appreciate it! Happy posting to you as well!
• United States
31 Mar 07
I respond to whatever discussions I find interesting and I can give an answer to. I wouldn't worry about what people think about the discussions you've responded to. In fact, I don't really think about my reputation here, either. I will post what I like where I like and that's it. :)
@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
31 Mar 07
Thanks for your response! Good answer!
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• United States
3 Apr 07
No i don't worry about it. I don't know any of these people, and I'm sure there's people that look more ridiculous than me! And plus i mean, its just an insignificant online discussion site...i'd rather worry about what people in my real life thought of me, ya know?
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@Tripod (105)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
I try not to share anything too personal. This is a network and people you persoanlly know might be around the corner, so I try to watch what I say. Overall though, I'm not too concerned what others perceive me as because I tend to have very strong opinions.
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