keeping ex-bf information..
March 31, 2007 5:03pm CST
do you think its OK to keep information about your old flame in your emails/cellphone..informations like contact number, email add, mailing address and some emails theyve sent you...that has always been the cause of their argument with her rcent relationship...and whats funny is that she is stil keeping it...
31 Mar 07
It is not a nice thing to do -- keeping all of those traces from the past relationship still alive. It does create a wrong impression on the current bf that there is still something going on between the two of them. And it would be unfair to the new guy. Had she moved on already from that past relationship? If yes, then by all means she should delete all of those contacts. Not unless she is still hoping for the comeback. Then at least she should have the courage to let the new guy go.
1 Apr 07
i can tell about that but i have kept all the things what ever i have of my ex gf bcoz i have loved her and i i love her till now if any of my dream grl comes in my life then i might forget her i shoul try but now we dont have any contact also so what about u whats u r story
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31 Mar 07
in my personal opinion, i think it is not right if you are in a new relationship. i dont understand why that kind of information needs to be around if the person already has a new fresh relationship. it is almost as if they still have feelings for the ex, and are not over them completely. now, if the person is single, then sure, keep that information. it isnt hurting anyone. i would think that the new boyfriend or girlfriend would get offended or feel threatened by that persons wanting to keep some kind of connection to their ex. i wouldnt accept it at all. if i saw that my new boyfriend still had all that information, i would ask him if he still had feelings for her. if he said no, i would ask him to please get rid of it. if he refused, and wanted to keep in touch with her, then i would have to leave him. i would always be thinking that he wasnt over her, and that he will not be able to care for me and give me the love that i deserve.
31 Mar 07
It depends on why she keeps it. When they parted as good friends, it is normal. And she is not hiding it from her recent boyfriend obviously. The arguments can be a warning about an overjealous guy, who would go on finding new reasons for jealousy anways. On the other hand, if it is hope and clinging to the past, she is still lovesick, then for her own sake she should delete the traces as quickly as possible, because without a clear break with the past relationship the hurt does not stop. In any case, with her new friend not everything seems right, because arguments in case two are really not helpful, there is no understanding - even though he is entitled to be jealous.
31 Mar 07
well its ok as long as your current lover doesnt mind it at all.. and also if its just the contact information that you're saving not every email message or text message he'd sent you... coz if its the latter, it could look as if you cant let go of that sweetness...