What is the hardest lesson you ever had to learn?

United States
March 31, 2007 7:30pm CST
Be honest. Maybe some of us can benefit from your experience.
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@julaqq (141)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
The hardest lesson I've ever had to learn was leaving my long time boyfriend because I couldn't hold on to the things that have gotten worst between us. To let you know, I love him sooo much. His family was against me and his attention was always to his friends and his own happiness. For four years I held on to the point I got tired of it because other problems came. What would you have done if you have no one to turn to when big problems arise? Stress at work and stress at home and even having stress because of my boyfriend? It simply makes you crazy and hate god and the world around you. I no longer have friends to turn to because a long time ago i gave up on them when they gave up on me for having a boyfriend. True that they were not mature at that time but I forgave them. I had a hard time for mingling with the right people because they don't have experience the same as mine, thus the difficulty in relating to me. Until such time, a man who seemed liked a hero rescuing me from all the unhappiness came to me and later on just made a laughing stock out of me because I was a fool for not seeing the signs - he was a player. Playing with my feelings and my mind. Good I was not that stupid to have fallen under his trap or I could have ended up with other women he had destroyed their life because of him. after that experience, I have realized that no matter what happens, no matter how bad things are, It's just a matter to hold on to your loved ones and not easily give up on them. Now it made me stronger. I've gone back to my boyfriend and we both have learned our lessons from the bad experience. We both found out that we love each other so much that life would be nothing if we are not together.
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• United States
1 Apr 07
Perhaps the lesson that comes through is that you should not depend on others for your happiness. You have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else. I'm glad that your relationship worked out in the end!
@julaqq (141)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
you're absolutely right! hey, you're good!
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• United States
3 Apr 07
Nah, I'm a Mom. :) I wish you the happiest life possible!
@MsTickle (25006)
• Australia
2 Apr 07
I've learned lots of lessons and many of them the hard way ...it's tough to pick one. I'd have to say I'm too trusting and too easy going. But I guess I haven't learned my lesson because I still have problems. My best friend of 15 years conned me and cheated me. What lesson should I have learned from that? I guess the hardest was never to get close to anyone with violent tendencies. But that was somehow out of my control. My parents were violent and my first husband was violent. Since then I've not even met anyone with violent tendencies. I don't really think that was alesson learned though. I've also learned to not be afraid to admit I've made a mistake. The alternative is to lie or somehow hide the fact ...it's just much easier to say...I stuffed up and I feel like an idiot and I'm so sorry.
• United States
3 Apr 07
Sounds like life has thrown you quite a few curve balls! But you turned out well! I'm with you...If I'm wrong then I have no problem saying so and apologizing. I've seen a lot of people royally screw up and then deny it. If you ask me, that more than anything makes someone look like an idiot. I respect people who aren't afraid to admit they are wrong.
@Grillmama (294)
• United States
1 Apr 07
The hardest lesson I have had to learn in life is LIFE! We often think we can control everything that happens to us. We get so bent out of shape when things don't go the way we think they should. I have had to learn that life pushes me in one direction or the other and that the only control I have is how I react to where the direction takes me.Almost two years ago I had a car wreck that basically changed my whole life for ever. In some ways badly but in some ways good too because now I appreciate life more. The grass looks greener and colors are brighter thing.
• United States
1 Apr 07
I don't know if I should give my sympathies for your car accident if it helped you to appreciate life more. But you are right in that all we can control are our reactions. That is a tough one to learn! I always hear people trying to control this or that. It never works. I'm glad life is sweeter for you! I'm going to keep this one in my pocket for the next time that life takes an unexpected turn. Thank you!
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