Do I keep or ditch my rude friend?
By Karmalina
@Karmalina (647)
Australia
April 1, 2007 7:35am CST
I have a friend that I've known since I was around 18. He has never been a great friend, but we had a bit of fun hanging out. I have told him to get out of my life before and it worked.. for a while. He suddenly decided he wanted to contact me online a year or so ago and let me know that he was ill with some things and I felt pretty sorry for him because it seemed he didn't have a lot of friends etc... Well, he's always been a bit outspoken, but I've tried to put up with him for a long time because I figure he needs all the friends he can get. But tonight I was telling him something and he said that the situation was probably not satisfactory because I'm big. He made sure to include that I'm bigger than the last time he saw me etc... but that's okay I still look good. I hadn't even considered my size to matter in the situation I was talking about. I got angry and it's taking all I can do to not just tell him where he can go. This is probably the 100th thing he's done to make me angry with him and I don't know if most people would consider him much of a "keeper" as a friend because he is a bit sexist. But... as I said... known him since I was 18. What do I do here? I've tried talking to him.
3 responses
@lot2nabila (198)
• Gabon
1 Apr 07
Ditch him...
Friendship is about understanding each other and not hurt each other feelings. Joking about friend's weaknesses is sometimes still acceptable depending on the context. Eventhough you've knwn him since you were 18 doesn't mean that you have to keep up with his rudeness... So I would say ditch him...
P.S. Do you mind if I add you as my friend?
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@Karmalina (647)
• Australia
1 Apr 07
Thanks for the response. And as long as you don't plan to spam me with affiliate program links feel most welcome to add me as a friend.
@Karmalina (647)
• Australia
1 Apr 07
Thanks for the response. He is a rude little fellow and has been for a long time. I'm gonna wait til I'm not as tired, finally say my piece (unabridged) and block him on MSN and hotmail if it's possible.
@jamie622 (508)
• India
1 Apr 07
There is no use stretching a relationship just for the sake of it .
The very idea of a relationship and its need stems form helping each other out , being a support to each other and appreciating the time spent together . there has got to be mutual respect .
If he thinks you are too fat for him its his problem .
You have the right to be the way you are and if you are comfortable he has no business to be object .
if he still does not understand he is not worthy of your friendship
@Karmalina (647)
• Australia
1 Apr 07
You're right. We only keep in contact via IM because I moved out of the country. I think I'm actually gonna block him. I deserve a friend that doesn't insult me.
@anbfriend63 (307)
• India
14 Apr 07
no body in this is perfect. but one thing is quite sure that any relationship which is filled with unhealthy arguments should be kept the low. one should not completely ignore or delete a friend or a relative but should definitely keep things a minimum.
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